how to get rid of this problem....afraid of girls....

I understand what you are going through. That used to happen to me when boys would talk to me. I would have anxiety attacks, blush bright red... And for no good reason. Definitely not a fun situation. I think you just need to take that leap. Right now it might be nearly impossible for you to talk to women, but after the first few attempts you'll find it gets easier. Soon you will discover that the women are people, just like your friends are. Not too much of a difference. You'll be fine!

i have the same experience when i am in middle school , i am more serious than u because when i talk to girl my face turn red , but i am luck , because girl like chatting with me and always they come to me peronal . i think the shame thing & proud thing for me it is that my first gf is more active . i am free to talk with girls now . and one of my pionts is that try more and sincerely deal to your girls .

Perhaps, you have some self esteem issues. Start by looking in the mirror and telling yourself that you are a wonderful person. You do deserve to be loved and any woman would be lucky to have you. Do this at least three times or more a day. The more you hear this the sooner you will believe this. Next, to overcome any fear, you have to face it. You can start by just walking down the street and saying, nice day today to every woman you walk by. You don't want anything from anyone just nice day isn't it. Practice makes perfect. The more you do, the less fear you will have. After nice day becomes easy, add something to it. Nice day isn't it? After they respond ask When is that rain going to get here? More and more practice. When you are ready, talk to your special girl. Stay happy and positive. What is the worst that could happen? If she is completely crazy, you can always say. I'm sorry to bother you. I thought you were someone special and I was just trying to get to know you.OK get to it!! Life isn't about being safe 100 percent of the time. Every single person must risk in order to get anything in life. You have been on the sidelines way to long. You will make a wonderful difference in some girl's life. GET IN THERE AND FIGHT!!!! YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!

to start with...how old are you?

I use to have that problem but now i have changed. Let i tell you how i did it. I ask my friend to look my first girl for me (not a girl i fall in love with on the first site). Just to talk to her. And let my friend give her my number. Later the girl call me. And we talk (you said you can talk to the girl on the phone right?). We talk for very long. I finished the conversation by starting a topic and never finish it. Getting to know every single thing about her. Then i meet her and brought up a topic that we were talking about on the phone (the unfinished topic). Then we continue talking until i was talking without stuttering. I then went to other girls trying to start a relationship but i did not dump the first girl. That let i felt that if the other girl i was trying to get did not accept i still would have a girl so it wouldn't seem a way. I then tried a lot of girls most of them became my friends now. That is how i get rid of the fear of girls. So does it help? If it does. mark my response as best response.

I think its quite a common issue for men, but your friend is right, so really should see girls. I am guessing that you are probably afraid of rejection. But initiating a conversation is the only way to learn. If you get rejected by 10 girls? NO big deal. 50 girls? Then probably you need to change how you approach them. In any case, you need to approach a lot. Like 20 or so a day. Maybe befriend some of them. Its healthy to make friends of the opposite without the idea of sleeping with them.

Hey amarh, I find it very odd as to why some guys suffer this problem. I am girl (a very pretty one) and I don't see why you should be frightened to talk to us.. we are also human too. Next time you see a girl, walk up to her and don't show any signs of nervousness or she'll definitely spot that... Just say "hi how are you today? You look very nice..." you start off like that I guarantee you girls will flock on your door...

it's a very serious problem... i can't say that you lack self confidence because you're only facing this kind of problem when you're with a girl... hmmmp! i guess you should try resolving it by forcing yourself to be a friend to a couple of girls and maybe you'll end up being comfortable with them... :)

Hi there I know a guy who has the same situation just like you. He was very tense up when he face to face a gril and maybe he doesn't like that girl .But yeah..He behave is wired.I think probably this condition has no a exactly way to work this out.You just make yourself talk more girls

Yes,many persons i have seen who are feeling shy while talking with the opposite gender.That is not a serious problem.One can get rid of that by gaining confidence inside.Try to convince yourself.'What worse will happen to me?' ask this question to yourself.Well,try positively.

hello amarhits,I have experience about you problem. 8 years ago I have friend same with you. He can't say anything to pretty girl. He only say hello "hai how are you" after that 10 minute I see, He not talk, only confuse in front of the girls. I think that is serious problem, but my thinking is wrong. Now, He already get merried and his wife very beautiful. So, why my friend 8 years ago always can't say in front of a girls?Now, I get the answer. I hope my information can help your problem. 1. Don't dirrectly have felling love with a new girl. You must have opinion to make a friend with her. Felling love can get after you make a friend and have a same mission. 2. Don feel inferior. Take easy, you must thinking if I only make a lot of friend for sharing. 3. You must have a lot of real story, introduce your self, no lie. All must true. 4. You must have personal confidence, try find some your weakness and try to solve your weakness. Try find too your strong point. I hope my information can help you