How to deal with depression.
By bmuchler
@bmuchler (441)
United States
August 19, 2009 9:04pm CST
How do others deal with depression?
For several months I felt like I couldn't function inside or outside of the home. I would cry all the time. It got to the point where I didn't want to get out of bed or do anything with my kids. I'd be crying to my husband that I was a bad mommy. Then I would wake up when My husband had to get ready for work, if I slept at all. I would cry, beg, and plead with himtostay home and help me. Even if he took off half a day. Finally we talked and knew something just wasn't right. I went to the Dr's around April/May. Sure enough I was diagnosed with depression and was put on Wellbutrin.
What causes depression? For me it was dealing with the loss of my father. Three months after my father passed away, I gave birth to twin boys. So I'm sure some of it was postpartum depression.
I felt like I had to clean the house from top to bottom. Cook dinner, do the dishes, and laundry all while caring for my kids. I thought if I didn't people would think I was a bad mommy. I felt like I had to be perect, but wasn't doing a very good job. I was falling apart.
My twins were born 2 months early so had to spend time in the NICU. I blamed myself for this. I constantly cried and said this is all my fault.
I was doing good on the Wellbutrin, but it didn't help all the way. About 6 weeks later my Dr added celexa. (I had also developed anxieties). I was also given a name for a counselor.
I am doing much better these days. I can laugh again. I can smile alot. I'm not crying all the time. I can play with my kids and enjoy them. I'm not sleeping every chacne I get.
I still feel overwhelmed at times. I have started counseling last month. I'm very encouraged that this will help to make me better.
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3 responses
@malpoa (1214)
• India
20 Aug 09
I have read about getting depressed after delivery. It is just a phase and let it go. It will sure wont linger on...It happens with some strange circumstances and incidents. Unles syou are strong enough to handle it, you will fall into depression. Regarding me, I get depressed thinking about my failures and all those things which did not happen to me. It is very discouraging all the time to think of those. But at the same time, how much hard I try to ward off these thoughts, it comes right back. The best thing to tackle depression is to get involved and absorbed in what you like most. Like how I used to sit listening music for long hours even in the middle of the night.
At times I go for shopping, even getting out of the house used to make me feel better. Also metting close friends, watching a movie with them, going for a short picnic, arranging a small gettogether also helps. When all theses doesnt help, I go visiting my mother who lives almost 200miles away from me.
@malpoa (1214)
• India
23 Aug 09
You mean to say that you have systs in the ovary? It will prevent you from fertilising, you mean to say that? Our neighbour too had systs in her ovary and she feared that she wouldnt conceive, but she got in operated and now she has two lovely kids.
Or if you mean to say that depression is affecting your attempt to conceive, it is still something you can work up on, right? See you have to come to terms with loses in life. Especially nothing in this world lasts forever...Just think that it was his time and he left you, but do think this: Will he be happy to see you like this??? He would have definitely liked to see you happy and gay.
You can and should leave this behind you and move on...good luck
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
6 Oct 10
depression is overloading the mind with multiple thoughts or pressures, that the mind or brain cannot able to withstand..so we burst out in depression and tension.
