Help me be humble, tolerant and less angry..

Why 2007? What happened to you that turned your little world on its end? Maybe if you can resolve that, you can get control of th anger. Short of that, take a deep breath, count to 10, tell yoursef it is not about you, and then respond.

Hi walnutbrownie! Ive read the comments of your respondents and they are all good! I also have trouble with anger management but i did notice it weaning when i started doing pranayam breathing... Hey it is so effective! You should try it.

You Need to Understand One Important Thing In Life .. Mylotters Will Be there Today, They Will Be Gone tomorrow .. It's Your Close Circle of Family And Might Be Close Circle Of friends Who Will Be there For you During trying times .. So It Makes Sense For you to Be Very Good With your Family .. You Can Command Yourself Never to Get Angry With your Family .. You Can Get Angry with your Family when you Want because they Listen to you .. If you Try getting Angry Elsewhere you will Be Given a Sound Beating And Packed Back Home .. So Relax And Think If You Are Doing The Right Thing .. If you Do Get No As An Answer .. Do Correct yourself .. I Can Advice you .. But to Take it Or Leave it Is In Your Hands .. Thank You ..

One thing that I tried help was to not care whether things go your way. I used to get angry at people because they are ignorant or slow when I'm trying to tell them something but if I'm not as concern whether they understand me or not, then I get less angry. Let my grandfather has annoying habits. My mother would yell at him but I'll look at it as part of his personality and find it to be the thing that is unique about him. It takes some effort and sometimes I lose my temper but it's a healthier outlook on life when I look at things in a carefree manner.

hi walnutbrownie I did a few adjustments - realised "life is too short" - realized "No love lost" - i gave up on people - pretend stupid what i mean is, why should we get angry, normally we are angry because we want to "respond" and "respond" and want to make people think "my response is the best" so become a listener, let them finish what they want to say .. accept it, so what if we have better solution, it is not like it is the end of the world ?? i have only my husband to express and discuss matters in a "serious" manner to other people i am a listener. We talk "maturely" .. sometimes we do argue, but then both of us are "pig headed" cheers I did loose friends as they though i was a "show off" at times

Anger is a real problem in this world. Circumstances and events have programmed that reactive impulse in you. You need to find a good therapist to work with. Anger will eat you alive from the inside out. Don't take anger issues lightly. It robs of your vitality, and it drains you of your precious energy. For years people have shown an interest to me in working on themselves, and I always recommended a book I consider one of the best on the human condition, why it is the way it is with people, and it gives indications on how to fix what is broken in us. The Author is P.D. Ouspensky, and the book is IN SEARCH OF THE MIRACULOUS/Fragments of an Unknown Teaching. One of the keys to patience is understanding what patience is. And what is Patience? It is a state of Active Receptivity, being present to what is going on right now. "Take no thought for the morrow, for the morrow shall take thought for things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil(challenges, difficulties, barriers etc.) thereof. Because tomorrow has it's own trouble. You can't cross a bridge until you get to it, and once crossed, burn it, and just keep moving forward. Learn to meditate? Over time it works wonders. Believe it or not, but it is the simple things in life that will eventually set us free. I speak from experience. What you're going through, I have been there and done that. All I ever got out of it was needless grief upon grief, compounded daily. When somebody or something upsets you, walk away, take a breather, a time out. A good meditation excercise is attentive breathing. Just be aware of your breathing. Love, it takes a lifetime of learning, experiencing and growing to get to that place in yourself where you can see things as they are, and not as we imagine them to be. Growing is a painful process, resistance to growth is agonizing, because "something" in you wants to come out; it's that something we knew as young children. It takes work, it takes effort; nothing worthwhile comes easy. Payment is a Principle!

Hello friend, Maybe you need some space,some place to unwind and meditate.A place where you can talk with yourself and seek yourself. Make a list of things that can make you easily annoyed,and figure out why you feel annoyed easily,why you feels like a volcano that always likes to explode. Ask yourself,is there any missing in your life?...is there anything in your life that you haven't achieved and that you really want to achieve that makes you irritated? Never try to compare yourself with others,never find yourself from one person to another.Sometimes this is one reason why you feels great always with yourself,and you feel that you are the only person who is doing right and all the others are wrong. Being humble can be practised by accepting others faults and accepting to ourselves that we are not superior than our loved ones or the other people around us.Accepting that we are not perfect and there are other people who are better than us. I know you are a good person my friend,and you are not even boasful as what you think you are.Posting this discussion and asking other mylotters opinion and advise is one way of showing you are being humble(you just didn't figured out). Try to have a close relationship with your siblings and to your parents,treat yourself as a kid that needs your parents care and your siblings as a playmate.You can start all these things with just a simple picnic,or a stroll in some park.Start it now...the soonest possible time.

walnutbrownie, ok I will see what i can do to help you out as i have been there... going through through these very things recently, and you do have to somehow find a way to balance yourself. First things first, do this for yourself! People hate being around angry people. So if you keep this up you could become very lonely also! Ok, now what you should start doing is writting a list, a list of what is making you angry each day. This list should begin to grow and grow. What you should be able to do after a week. Now you will see what is making you angry and bitter. Now what you need to work on is controling your self at these moments... I know it's hard, but i found the best way to get rid of anger is by punching something... so get a boxing bag and hit that everyday (I normally try stick to 30 mins to 60 mins of boxing aday). Things that are great to remove this anger that i have found helps alot are: 1. Boxing 2. Gym and weight lifting 3. Running 4. swimming (this is great... counting tiles on the floor of a pool while doing 20 or 30 laps... i got to over 1,000 once! haha!) Basically anything active is great, but you need to try work out what is making you angry and go from there. Of course i would say a phycologist would be the best approach, but i'm a person who likes to try fix things himself before that. I hope this helps mate!