SHould you compare one grandchild from the other?

This is society, and pier pressure in it's truest form! Family shouldn't do it but the reality is they do! Getting upset about it won't solve anything, talking about it won't work, it's become the norm in our society! Grin and bear it! tdemex

No, I do not. The granddaugther will go at her own pace and should not be judged by the other grandma. Your granddaughter will balance different from a boy anyways, so the time will come when you and her mom will know when to take off the training wheels. Tell other grandma, thanks but granddaughter is not ready for a bunch of crashes at the age of 4 going on 5 ! Keep her safe as long as you can.

As a mom of 8 and a gramma of 10 I believe all children develop at their own pace and to push them is not always helping them. For her to compare a bike to a 3 wheeler is insane, they are totally different and the one is totally balanced unlike a bike. I had one daughter that it took forever to teach how to ride a bike yet some of them jumped on and within a day was screaming "LOOK MOM, NO HANDS!" What is it with the no hand thing and kids?! LOL

Hi Lakota... To answer your question...no. That is the number one thing my mother doesn't do AT ALL. She is proud of all her grandchildren... 3 from my brother, 1 from my elder sister, 1 from my youngest sister and 2 from me. She respects their strengths and their weaknesses. My son has developmental delay. He's almost 6 years old but still can't talk in his age level. The most that he can say are two to three words. My mother understands that my son may talk on a 2 year old level but there are so many other things that he can do that we are so proud of. And she encourages those strengths. She doesn't compare my children to my other sibling's kids. She may worry at times that my son is still unable to do things that he should be doing at his age. But she never ever tells me why he's not like his other cousins who can do this or do that. As for your grand daughter's other grandma, you should talk to her if she reaches a point that may hurt your grand daughter's feelings. She may not even be aware of the impact of her words.

hi lakota no its not at all fair.we are talking about two different children. I would tell grandma no2 that 'comparing two different kids is like comparing an apple'and ' an orange. no two kids will behave exactly the same'way 'and we should not expect them to.judge not lest ye be judged. Tell grandmom no2. the subject is now closed.

If he had many crashes I don't think she is saying the training wheels need to come off for that purpose. I think she sees how well your grandaughter rides her bike and thinks they should come off because she can balance the bike. If she is comparing kids, there is obviously nothing to compare and no one should compare children especially based on safety issues.

Personally this is NEVER fair to compare one person to the next no matter who they are. People tend to have so many different traits and personalities, and when it comes to children some tend to be more advanced than some of the others as well. I feel in situations such as this, the Best thing to do is give them time and when they are ready they will do what you are wanting them to do.

As far as I am concerned every Child to it's own and when the Child is ready she will do it herself, she will not be ready till she has confidence, she should not compare little one to other Children at all Little Princess will soon enough let you know when she is ready No wonder for the talk to the hand lol Hugs

Heck no we should not Mya is eight and her training wheels are still on her bike She is really not into riding it.

I'm sure everyone has already said that this is not fair as everyone is different. Ask the other granma to have a go....bet she can't do it even with training wheels. Your little one will do away with the training wheels when she is ready but she must be encouraged and helped. She will probably take a few tumbles and someone must be there to help her up and get back on her bike. We all need moral support when we are trying to accomplish a new and difficult skill.

I would recognize that all children develop at different speeds and that all children have different skills, talents and abilities... One child may ride a bike quicker than another.. While another will speak quicker than another... The grandson as he is a male may be more quick at developng the motor skills. She may be more quick at reading... It is okay that the other grandma notices and comments... Okay too that the parents of your grandchild and you ignore her comments and do what you and they want to do.. All people have a different perspective.... People do notice things about people and do sometimes make comments. It is though important that your little one have an uncritical eye in you to balance the other grandma... You will not change the other grandma and getting upset with her for doing what she does only causes you grief.... The chances of her changing her behavior because of your complaints will be limited,small.

Huh. I hate when people do this. My daughter is 5 and she still has training wheels on her bike. She needs a bigger bike, to be honest which is why we haven't taken them off. She has a power wheels quad too and a three wheeled scooter, and as far as that goes, riding a bike requires balance. Three or four wheeled things don't lol. Nobody has to learn how to ride a three or four wheeled vehicle in the same manner you have to learn how to ride a bike. I did explain to my daughter that once you learn though, you'll always know. I can still ride a bike although it takes me a little to get my bearings. She has other friends who also have training wheels, some are her age, some are older, some are younger. My best friend's son is almost 4 and he's been riding his bike without training wheels since he was 3. He is also a Wii whiz, he plays like crazy, while my daughter will just look at him stupidly if he hands her a controller lol. It also has something to do with exposure to things, for instance I didn't learn how to ride a bike or swim until I was 9. My daughter learned to swim when she was four, and she'll probably be riding the bike without extra wheels soon. Swimming was a bigger priority because of the pool lol.

Hey, I think that comparing the grandchild from the other is the worst thing you could possibly do. I would personally never ever do that, they are going to be different, so why compare them when they are different? Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!

Just like we should not compare one child with another, we should not compare one grandchild with another too. The comparing puts pressure and it may not turn out well if the grandchild is unable to cope with expectation. It's just wheels. What's next? I remember my grandma preferring my brother over my sister and me. I did not love her less, but I did wish that she did not do that because no matter what, she was supposed to be the woman who loved me well. I did not hate her. Just that I wished she did not do that.

Every child is different. She will be ready when she is ready. The "other" grandmother needs to realize that we all do things at a different pace.

You can not compare kids or even adults....in fact some kids are slow in athletics but very intelligent and great students....maybe some are fast in bikes, other are faster in math... have you heard the story of animal school?

No, I don't think its fair either, some kids learn faster than others do, it doesn't matter how old they are. I have a nephew that still had training wheels on his bike when he was 8, they finally took them off and he had no problem riding his bike, he took off on it like he'd been riding it without them for years, it was his decision also to take them off. I think when she's ready to take them off she'll let you know.

No need to rush,, it is better to wait and see ,when u are more convinced

Grand children are so very dear to grandparents' hearts and they all think that they know what is best for them. In this situation, I don't think the grandparent who is comparing a training wheel bike to a battery operated 3 wheeler is thinking clearly. 3 wheelers can be very dangerous even deadly, a bike with training wheels are dangerous only if the child gets hit by a vehicle or falls and scrapes a knee. I think the finally decision on whether to remove or not to remove the training wheel should be left up to the child parents and the child.

shouldnt compare kids also have their moral and pride too !