How would you react?

Hi, pretty_babe! I would tell them that it is very hard for me to let them go because I have been around them for a long time. And it is going to take some time for me to get over them. My mother-in-law once told me to get over my own blood mother. I resented her for telling me this. I can't possibly get over her, she gave birth to me. This is how I was born, through my mom... I don't like it when someone says that to me..

Whether it's 9 months or 9 years-the Bible says there is a time to grieve...and no one person can say to another-it's time. My husband of 40 years passed on-June 2,this year.It's like I've been run over by a mack truck and I know that in time,I may deal better but I'll never get over it.It depends on who you've lost and how close you were,but I know it will get better someday and it will get better for you too. Just know there is no set time and if you pray,then pray.It helps. (I also cry a lot) histexladi

I think there is a fine line here. While I think that everyone grieves in their own way and own time, there does come a time that they may be going too far. One of my brothers lost his wife shortly after marrying her...it was really hard on him but here it is 11 years later and he still hasn't moved on. I think to a point he is avoiding getting seriously involved with anyone again. Regardless, no one should tell anyone to "get over it", but ppl should try to find some comfort in knowing that one day they'll see their loved one again (if they believe in that). [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]