Are not you concerned about your childen ???

Yes kitty, People around us are like that. If you show kindness they take them as your weakness. The better thing is to be more vigilant so far as the children are concerned. sometime you have to show that you are not so soft as they think.

Hi kitty, Sad but true is the situation. you can not rely on any one. Be it your relatives or other people. you can not be 100% assured of the safety of your children.

You are so right, I focused more on the stranger but relatives are just as conniving, how sad this is to have to worry about people you know hurting someone you love, this is really serious and I am glad you started this discussion, this world is filled with people that have no heart and they will use your kindness to get close to your kids, I am known to be so sweet, and very kindhearted, but when it comes to my daughter and my grandson, I always think of them first just the thought of someone I bring in their life trying to hurt them, I will end this now I am mad just thinking about this.

Hi there, That is really funny. This is ok that one must be always on alert. You people in the US were very comfortable until that Oasma bin Laden attack and now I presume that you are worried over any intruder and any violence breaking out.

Lashoaf is right. Preparedness is the key to living well and living safely. I am and always have been prepared to handle things by myself and protect my family on my own. My sons have also been trained by me to be prepared. If more people would take preparedness in all things seriously, we would not have so much of the financial and social trouble we have here now.

Hi sid, I can well understand the concern of a loving mother. How could you have an easy sleep when your children are not home? But though sad this is the condition that one needs to keep a sharp eye on the movement of the children.

Hi dawn, Yes this is natural that you have a throbbing nerve when you are out of the house in the work and the child back home is in care of somebody else. Your mother's heart would not be at ease but you are helpless as it were.

There are lots of horrible reasons as to why the children are abused, abducted, insulted or become prey to the criminals. This is why now these children have lost their natural freedom of movement.

Hi, You say no harm should befall them but that would not do unless yu keep a sharp eye on them.

Actually, I'm not married and I'm definitely not willing to have children. I don't like the term "natural". I don't understand why so many people are so quick and willing to have kids. I have a "problem" with them because I find them incredibly annoying. I don't have the patience to deal with kids.

Hi poison, I guess you are married. But you are not willing to have children. That is not abnormal but not so much natural. Why any problem with children?

hi there, Come on that can not be the cause. Even I do not like children those who are naughty and annoying but I have my lone child and he is a nice kid, now 7.5 years old. When you would have your own things take a different turn.

Hi zand, We are not only worried over the well being of our own children but for one and all. Now look what childhood we passed is a fable now for the new generation. The freedom we enjoyed is a curiosity for them. Forget about your teen aged girl getting abducted or abused there are lustful eye roving around and you are not sure what could befall her until she is home. Situations have changed and has changed our attitudes too. Even the children of today are to blame for the deteriorated condition. Do not you think so?

Hi, I guess I have not mixed up 'concern' and 'worry' together. This is true as well that your responsibility sprout from concern and worry. None I suppose would like to be worried all the while. Step that has been taken is the way to wipe out your worries. I have not recommended either that children should be left in their own privacy. They are better in company but you have to careful and watchful what sort of company is that your child is in. In todays situation all are prepared but would your preparation work at the time of need? That is a big deal infact.

I think we must be careful that "concern" doesn't become "worry". First, it raises your stress to be worried all the time. Second, the child becomes fearful. I work at teaching my children to be prepared, not afraid. this is important to me. Researching who your child is staying with helps. Talking to other parents, watching their kids, gives you insight as to the safety of that household. Make sure your attitude is one of precaution and preparedness, not of fear. The child will learn from you. Kids in groups are safer than kids alone. Encourage buddies and friends, based on your research you have done. Whenever possible have the friends at your house rather than your daughter somewhere else. You can play with the friends, and from the way they play you can sometimes spot problems that you want to keep your child away from, or kids that need help. Your little girl will be helped if you can teach her the protection and value of modesty. Modern girls do not tend to be modest and attract those roving eyes without even being aware of it - or sometimes reveling in the power of it. Start teaching her now, not to be modest out of fear of abuse, but to be modest because it honors her, her family, and God.

Hi comfort, This is a good move that you have lots of security. But still do not stay assured for accidents take place in the most regulated family.

Hi Paula, Surely, overdoing of everything is bad. Children should be allowed a certain amount of freedom to help them build their own ground that they would need to stand on later. This is too equally important that you have a check who your child are with and the nature of the third party. Thanks ....

Yes, these days are the days of total uncertainty.

Hi Thea, Nice hearing that you live in more secured situation where those problems are far away. But it is always better to be on the foot as there is nothing that would assure you full security. What if your trusted man abducted your child and you are demanded of a huge ransom ????

Hi Mylotters, Please overlook the unintentional grammatical mistake in the post and also the typos. The 'teen' is as ten there. Hope you would co operate with me.

Hi Partha, Though we end to overlook this issue, it is too serious and we must be on guard so that none becomes victim of this menace.

Hi Robert, What is the best thing you could do is to keep vigilance and see who is who. allow only those you think are reliable or else oust all those you do not know. About the safety of your children or he children of your relatives make sure that the make home in time and you need to counsel them from time to time.