Do you give your child anything he/she wants ? Do you think it makes them weak ?

Hi! I have a son of 3years of age. His on a "buy me" stage at the moment. Im trying not to give him everything he asks..coz i beleive if u give them all what they wanted they will never know how to appreciate things in life. But having said that, most of the times he gets what he wants. I grew up with nothing in life and i know how it feels when i want to buy something and i can not have it coz my parents cant afford. It was very hurtful. I felt i was never loved as a kid. Thats why in regards with my son...i work hard so i can give him more and better future in life. And whatever he asks most of the times is granted. I dont want to give him everything he asks for...but i how can i say no baby u cant have it?! Im just glad his more interested on papers and crayons. He loves to draw monsters!

WEll, my husband and I are lucky coz our 2 sons are not the type who ask or demand what they want from us. Basically we just provide them what they need, decent clothes and shoes to wear, but not necessarily signature clothes and shoes. We give them cellphones but not the later or new type. When they were young we provided them with toys. When they graduated from high school and the old one in college we gave him a gift that he likes so much to have but that is more of a prize for finishing his degree. I told my young son if he make good in school, I'll increase his allowance and he did. Always giving in easily to the demands of our child will make them somewhat spoiled brat and they will get hurt if they will not get their wishes. So better not to give in easily. We should make our child realize that not everything comes easily and they will have to work harder to attain or get something.

we didn't give them anything they want if its not necesarrily to give or not important. We need to explain to them that not all the things will be given to them. They need to have an extra effort to get what they want. For example they need to pass the exam or they need to be more studious and pass the semester so that we can buy what they want but it should be important to them. Yes sometimes it makes them to be weak in the sence that they will keep in their mind that they can easily get what they want so we avoid it and need an extra effort to have such things . they need also to work from themselves so that they know the important of being industrious and make it a habit that need extra effort to work on what they want to have.

My son only one years old. He can't speak many words, but he knowa how to use his "weapon"--crying. When he want to do something or get something, he will cry if you don't satisfy him. Because he is too young to persuade, so when he cry we always satisfy him. I think in the future it is not a good choice to always satisfy him, it will make them weak. He will think he can get anything when he cry. I consider it is better let my son know if he want to get something, he must do some work for that first. I will tell him a truth--no pains, no gains which is never changed. Happy mylot!

hai defanently this thing spoil the child. they start asking small things at the begining which leads to other big things. as we start giving like this we cannot control our child which makes us not to have control over our child, In due course when they reaches higher age they will hide things which are illegal reulting their life. Ofcourse this nay be common to western country. but not to India

What a great topic, growing up we did not have much, this is funny cause me and my brother and his wife were talking about this the other day, anyway growing we did not have much and I always said when I grew up and had a child I would make sure my child did not have to feel they way I did,well I spoiled my daughter I gave her everything I could, my daughter grew up to be a remarkable woman, she has a son who she spoils as well, not as much as I spoiled her, but my daughter has really expensive taste but she works hard and she buys the things she wants, so I don't feel I made her weak, she is very strong and independent, I spoiled her but taught her to be responsible, when she first had her son for the first year I did everything for him, everything, but after that year I told her she has to do what is needed for him, I will help but I will not do it all, and she has been doing it, and I am so proud of the woman my daughter has become,my grandson does not want for anything she tells him no, but he usually gets what he needs if not from her then his dad or his dads family. So with that said, I think it depends on the situation, some kids are just rotten, my daughter was never like this, there is always a certain way to do things and if you have a child that is demanding of these things then you need to let that child know, this is not how you will get the things you want because I don't have to buy you these things I do it because I want too, not cause you think I have too. great post sweety. smoochesss

Hi voldrox, You have really nice parents, be proud on them. I never provide everything to my kids when they demanded something. If I say ‘no’ it will be like that, my elder son really knows the same but then also he try to cry because he thinks that his father may listen. If his father knows that I already denied the demand then he won’t allow the same. Children should understand the value of money and if we provide everything according to their demand it may spoil them. I will clearly explain why I should deny his demand. He is only eight years old and I think he can understand what I am trying to convey.

No. My five year old daughter knows how to save coins and buy herself something that she wants. I told her that I cannot buy her everything that she wants whenever she wants them because we have other more important things to spend on. Luckily she understands my point and whenever I give her a coin to save she is happy to put it in her purse. I think it is important to inculcate the value of being thrifty in our kids. At the end of it all, the values they keep in them and execute will benefit them the most.

Hi voldrox.I don'y do that to my son.He was two years old now.I try to educate him that not all he wants could be given.I think,yes it will be make our children weak and spoiled.Have no work to get something.Just explaine and don't forget to face his eyes when you explaine it.Make a commitmen that she/he will get something but give a challenge.Such as,he must save money or get good grade at school.

shouldnt do it...because this will pamper the child and spoil the child.. its not good