if you are not able to work, do you expect your wife to get a job until you can?

United States
August 28, 2006 5:32pm CST
I know this family and father got in an accident early this year. He almost died from the accident. He is able to walk, talk, and do normal things but not ready to go back to work. He got wife and 3 boys with no income, except help from his family. money, foods, bills and other things. They party a lot even though, they dont have income. I think wife should get a job rather than waiting for other family member to help them out. Give me your opinion. Other family member got their bills to pay too.
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@rainyl (671)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Yes, I think she needs to get a job, regardless it is her family too and if your husband cant work for whatever reason then it is the wifes duty to step up to the plate and take care of the family.
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• United States
20 Nov 06
Thank you for your response. If it was my husband, I would go and get a job. But this family, I just didnt get it, wife never try to get a job, and reason was who will take care of the children. Lot of people offer to watch the children, pick them up from school and take care of them but I guess she just didnt want to work so she never took the offer.... and you are right, she should have step up and take care of her family.
• Australia
1 Sep 06
My partner has told me when we have kids i'm going to be an at home mum, I can still freelance my business fair enough. But if he could no longer do his job, I'd get a job straight away. It's hard enough living on one income these days, its much better with two in the first place!
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• United States
20 Nov 06
Thank you for your response. I would get a job right away too. This family, wife never try to get a job, her husband who was in accident, he went back to work..... Isnt that crazy.
@jhannon (1406)
• United States
28 Aug 06
Im a wife adn mother and yes i would geta job if i was in that situation..
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• Barbados
29 Aug 06
Right now i am working and my wife is not so if i every lose my job i know that she is going to work
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• United States
20 Nov 06
Thank you for your response. Right, if my husband get hurt I would get job too. Well, this family, she never got a job, her husband who was in accident, he went back to work too soon and he is having a back and leg problems now.
• South Africa
29 Aug 06
I cannot comment ontheir specific circumstances, but if I am evr unable to work, my whole family - wife and kids - will get going to find an income of sorts - that's just the way our family pulls together!
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• United States
20 Nov 06
Thank you for your response. I would get a job if my husband get hurt. I guess this family wasnt like that, she never got a job.
@rainyl (671)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Yes, I think she needs to get a job, regardless it is her family too and if your husband cant work for whatever reason then it is the wifes duty to step up to the plate and take care of the family.
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• United States
28 Aug 06
I wouldn't beg for the wiffe to get a job but I would really want here too until I get a job and then if she wants to she can sit home all day and rest while I work.
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@ebberts (784)
• United States
29 Aug 06
Yes If she is of an able body, she should get work. I have worked over the years to help make a living for our family. I'm not working now, but my health isn't to good right now.
• United States
20 Nov 06
Thanks for your response. Dont work too hard, being a good health is what you need to have!
@swolecat (1277)
• United States
28 Aug 06
Yes the wife should work if husband does not
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@bhchy1 (6047)
• United States
28 Aug 06
I think if it is possible for the wife to work she should. But there are not enough details for us to make that determination? If she worked would they need to hire someone to help with the boys and her husbands care if she was not there to do it? Are the boys old enough to help take turns caring for their father and the house? Not everything is as it seems on the outside. There could be many factors we don't know about.
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• United States
20 Nov 06
I guess it depends on if the wife can work. I dont know her situation
• United States
20 Nov 06
Thank you for your response. She can work, she used to work and I used to be their children's baby sitter. by the April, her husband was able to walk, talk, eat and do things by him self so he was doing better. I offer to keep the children, and stay with them at their house and lot of people offer to help them out while she go get the job but she never did.
@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Eight years ago my husband was rear-ended by a rig coming off of an off ramp. He was out of commision for three years. I worked two jobs to keep us going while he stayed home with the kids. I think if you are married it should be a partnership. You are supposed to be able to lean on each other during hard times. She should get a job.
• United States
20 Nov 06
Thank you for your response. I agree with you. Now that it been 9 months since the accident, even though husband still have probmes, he went back to work. He got back and leg problems that it hard for him to get in the morning to go to work. wife never got a job.
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
20 Nov 06
If i was her i wouldnt wait to be asked, i would be looking for a job myself. I would be ashamed by being a burden to my family and not doing nothing to get out of that situation.
• United States
20 Nov 06
Thank you for your response. I totally agree with you. It been 9 month since her husband got in accident, she never got a job, and husband went back to work few month ago. I though that was crazy. Doctors told him that he need to heal up until next year. Since he went back to work, they dont need anymore help but he still have pain in his body.
• Greece
20 Nov 06
in my opinion, work means we do everything that yield something, of course on the right way. If im not able to work to my office like usual, there should be something i can do to earn money. It's all just depends on our mind : If we think we CAN, then it wud b REAL. Im not a married man yet, but i'll find wife for me that has same thought with me. So, i think she can handle it. But i dont expect she'll be replace me as main money maker in our house :)
• United States
20 Nov 06
Thank you for your response. I do agree with you. If my husband get hurt and I have to work, I know I cant replace my husband bring much money as he did but at least Im sure I can bring some money home. I probably get help from family members but I can pay some of the bills my own and not to depend everything from others.
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
29 Aug 06
To support the family, yes. She definitely take up a job.
• United States
20 Nov 06
Thanks for your response. Now, it been 9 months since the accident, wife never got the job and he went back to work.... He went back to work too soon and he is having back and leg problems.
• United States
28 Aug 06
Most two-person households in the US have both people working, even if just part-time. This isn't the '50s anymore.
• Italy
28 Aug 06
Well, I think in this day and age it's wrong to think the man has to work and the woman has to cook, clean, etc... The wife should work to help the husband...