How do you handle people saying you arent looking for a job hard enough"?

I am going to guess that your son is about my age, since you are the age you state. It is even harder at this age to find something that even resembles a career. I was down to only part time employment for about a year, when I had been used to having a full time job and a part time. I stuck with the part time and eventually full time opened up. Fool that I am, I even took a management job after about three months. I am salaried, and work all the time. On the other hand, it is a pretty nice company, and I like the people I care for and manage. But hubby's job of choice is a second shift job and we rarely see each other. We will both hold on, though, as we are having better income now than we have had in the eleven years we have been married. I would suggest for your son that he look into some different line of work that is people oriented, and he may still work his way into something else. As soon as hubby became 62 (it would be 63 now, I think) he took early Social Security. He also has a very stress free low paying job he took in addition. By doing that we have decent money coming in.

hi John sounds like you got a really good'job and if you are happy with it thats even better'I think in todays job market the younger ones and'the]ones in the fifty age bracket have a harder time getting' a job unless they have some good qualifications

Well actually I might just be your sons age......I am just 22 now......and a freshly graduated guy.......so it is a long way for me to have a son/daughter......hehe....... I have done my hotel management, and it indeed is a people oriented industry where you have lots of interaction with people, and I certainly agree that management jobs are actually good.......

oh the halloween place they'll be needing ppl soon!!! THANKS qtquiggs i never even thought about them..it would temp work but hell i need anything!

ah yes any port now in this financial storm wish my'son'woul come see me today so I could give him some of the suggestions'everybody has given me.

hi qtquiggs that was when he was laid off last 24th of september. its been a long hard path of looking and looking' and finding so many others for every job.I am going to 'suggest he try the temp Agencies as my woman friend'got her job through a temp agencyas they liked her work so much they'hired her for a permanent job.

I sincerely hope there are some sort of benefits from social services for those who are without a job and must pay the rent?

hi mysdianait yes good come back. I try to be patient'with people but tell them a lotof others Are in the same'boat 'and have been for months. if they know a job he could do let me know for heavens sAkes.otherwise keep quiet. He uses his computer to search too.What is really bad here is the cost of rent,you hAve to make a certain Amount of money just to rent an Apartment here.

hes getting unemployment insurance and for now is in a gov.rent'paid ApArtment with three other unemployed guys.

hi fwidman and zoey darned right California just earned a dubious mention as having the jobless rate go up yet again.sob boo hoo. Its really bad here and in the town of Tustin there just werent'many jobs as some of the companies he wouldve applied to have just. get this,laid off 1000 employes. what the heck is going on?big'stores like Sears and Mervyns are laying off people, Mervyns went kaput too. I think if he were ten or fifteen years younger he would have a bit'easier a time.

He might be having an easier time if it were ten or fifteen years ago instead of today Lots of things are falling apart here. The mall here where I live is closing stores left and right

hi shoeman he he oh yes our mall has also lose about five or six stores,.yes he should have changed jobs' five'years ago as then it would have been easy.

hi catdla nope being out of work is fAr from funny'now and it gets less funny as time goes on. Anyone would'get discouraged after awhile.

we are in the US and in California where its'the worst in the whole country.places where he would' ordinarily give a resume are not hiring they are' laying off computer people and he has qualifications' up the wazoo so he has to make a certain amount' in order to be able to rent even a shabbyapartment.

Or i forgot i dont know wether its the same in america but here in the uk we have loads of companys looking for people to distribute leaflets for 40-50 pound per week I know its not a full time wage but like i said earlier i could help him get extra pennys untill he did find some work??

oh right! you see im from uk so totally different over here, oh well i suppose hell just have to keep looking, either that or if his qualifications are needed elsewhere ie another state then why not tell him to move elsewhere where he can get a job and have a better life? or does he like where hes living now?

hi polly yes indeed hope and our faith that willkeep'us all going

hi yes its really awful right now in California' as there are so many more applying for jobs than there are jobs. and if you have experience'that' should help however the companies my son would' ordinarily' apply to are not only not hiring but they are'making things even worse by laying off a lot more people.

hi opal oh that would really hurt when your own' mom thought you werent trying hard enough.At least' to strangers or just friends you can say bug off'but you can hardly do that to your owm mom.so i do try' my best to be supportive of him

hi ulalume sorry to hear that.I will tell him' about Indeed.com as that sounds like it would be so helpful. here there are so many more out of work than there are jobs its really' apalling,they crowd into places and only a few' are even called.

hi meapas yes its best not to listen to idle talk as I know my son is doing the best he'can'and I will pass on to him all the various job' suggestions I have received. he is trying and that is all anyone can do.

yes he is out of touch with the real world.most of the'people here do what I hate,they sit all day every day their eyes'glu ed' on the television and dont even go for a walk.yuck.

hisritrinity nope he was never mArried so maybe thats'why He is a resident here at Gold Crest retirement center'so think 'hes just not up on the real world out there.For every job opening theres a crowd of hundreds so it takes a lot of 'time to get anywhere.

Ok, he needs to read the newspapers or watch the news then! I wish your son good luck, hope he finds one soon. Hopefully this recession won't last long hey. Angelie

its been really awful here in s.ca as there are'so many laid off from every conceivable company.' the places he would have ordinarily looked are'laying' people off instead of hiring and he has to make'enough to pay the high rent here of even a shabby apartment

hi dancce4life we have been seriously thinking about just that as we know it could get even' worse.my son might have to go to some place'where 'he more apt to find work, get a job save some money'then' get our stuff out of storAge,pick up me And just'move heck out of here.

I hate to suggest this because it would mean leaving everything familiar behind, but maybe it's time to move out of CA. In a couple months you may not have any other options. I think it would be worth a try to make a better life somewhere else instead of suffering in your current situation. My brother also lives in CA and I have been trying to convince him to leave. He has a newborn and has been out of work. He can't survive for much longer where he is. There is no work for him there.

hi not sure just what you mean but he has undertaken looking for work daily for almost a year and that'is' most depressing for all.sooner or later the ' economy will take a turn so we have to look' and also pray.

hi both of you this seems to be hitting people' all over the US I hope other countries are not' going' to begin thinking of us as a third world country we used to be really strong, now lot of my' favorite companies have laid off people and closed a lot of their stores. the companies'that my son had hoped to applyto are cutting jobs now

Theresam...My husband got laid off first of the year. He still laid off. I know how you feel. Tell him not to be real down just yet. Things are starting to pick back up for employment. We search every angle everyday. My husband has the possiblity of call back. He works out the local operators hall. Just keep that head high and never come up. He will find something soon. I will be thinking of you often. Have a good day and keep smiling.

hi Garden thats it ina nutshell.I hurt for him as I know he'is' qualified to do computer programming as he hAs done it for'yrear yet they are laying off programmers instead of hiring so he has to' search for other things he could do

joyce I feel for your daughter its just darned hard'to find 'jobs here in California and in the field he wants,they are layingoff instead of hiring. He is open to try other fields but he has to make a certain amount of money'just to be able to rent an apartment once he is off the paid for housing.its certainly worrisome.we had no relatives to stay with either.

hi pikey oh yes this is tommorows old days and it'is really tough. I dont know if I could handle it. But for some reason I could always get a job but'that was because ' hospitals were always notoriously short of help.

hi alice yes indeed as it seems that the few hospitals I have worked in and been a patient in are always complaining that they are short staffed so why not cut out the red tape and hire people now. seems really stupid to me.

thanks paula it is disheartening and he has'to keep telling himself he has skills that someone'is 'going to need, and keep on looking and eventually' he will luck out. he cannot afford to settle for'places'like macdonalds as he had to be able to make enough to afford'to rent an apartment rents here are horrid right now

hi alice thats so true and sort of sad as they might stillhave certain limitations on their health. its a truly bad situation and does not look very good yet. nothing has'changed and it just seems to get worse as more companies let go more employees

I have tried to keepfrom pressuring him as I read the pApers'and watch the news daily on the TV And know how bad the job situation really'ius and that he probably is doing all he can do.all Ican do is pray.