Did you hate any of your co workers?
By master101
@master101 (223)
Indonesia
August 22, 2009 9:06pm CST
In my previous job, I get to know many of "sucking bu*tt" type of person. They were all over me when they need something, and then they talked about me behind my back later on.
I knew this one fella. He was all over me. Very nice, making joke and all. And since he was nice, I return his favor. We hanged out together. Doing lunch together.
But then, something terrible happen in my previous job. Big fight with my bos. I decided to quit. And guess, who became the 1st person who play distance with me?
Yep, that guy! Up till today, I never received any phone call from him?
Guess, true friendship is hard to find. And its even harder to find it among ur co workers.
Do u have the same experiences? Do u hate any of ur coworkers now? What is the reason? Or do u have different opinion? Please share, i really wanna know what u think about this
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11 responses
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
24 Aug 09
Hi master101,
I won't say I hate them, but I dislike lazy people, when they are lazy they tend to suck up so they won't get noticed for being lazy although that is never the case,I guess that guy did not want to get in the middle of what ever was going on, although he could have called you after hours,sad but sometimes people don't think about what their actions may do to others..
I always have problems at work never fail, I work hard a lot of people don't, I tend to get into it with the higher ups as well because when one lazy person don't do their job the supervisor tend to put everyone in the same catagory, one day my supervisor called a meeting I was off the night before, this one girl did not do her job so the supervisor was very upset,this supervisor was one of the best keep in mind she worked very hard and always helped out when asked, so anyway she called a meeting and told us that she reported the night shift to the unit manager, I was so mad when she said that, I would not let her talk I said you need to take this lazy thing to the side and speak with her, why am I here? long story short she walked out of her meeting, I didn't get in trouble because they knew I worked hard and as the supervisor she should have reprimanded the one that don't do her job, not everyone just to save face.
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
29 Aug 09
yes, u r right. I hope ur supervisor didnt have any special relationship with your lazy friends. If they were relative, perhaps that was the reason she stood up for her in the 1st place. Btw, thank u kitty for sharing with us. You are very brave for confronting your supervisor. You just need to stand up for what u think is right, right?:)
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
29 Aug 09
Took a real courage to do what u do. Not much people do that, as u probably know. So I admire your character. In the end, we all just need to learn to adapt with our working environment, but when someone crossed the line, rather than shut out mouth and let them be, we gotta act. We were never with intention stepping on someone else grass, so they better not doing it to us, or else we "fought back". Thanks again!
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
23 Aug 09
At my current job, we had this colleague who was a bit older than we were. She keeps on saying all of this self-righteous ideas and would say more ideal things but, would be silent when she really needs to prove those words she gave out.
Of course, we got along just fine with each other but, as time went by, even our employer had a hard time with her.
She's no longer a colleague of ours anymore.
When she was still there, and we all found out how deceitful she was, we just kind'a went with our separate ways and I would ignore her comments, especially those that would really irritate anyone.
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
23 Aug 09
Another smart *as*s I guess. I found one (from another previous job)that fit your description. Old lady with -sorry to say- "witch" attitude I say. But she was "under" me. Still, being new than she was, she often "watch" what i did, waiting to see me "fall". I found out one day, that she about to make a report about me to her higher leader (which also still below my position). I confront her directly and gave her order to mind her own business. U know, i kinda "lil scared" about this "witch" since her tongue really was "spicy". But she stop making any effort to "throw me" after that event. Though, I couldnt be sure about what she did behind my back.
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
23 Aug 09
Kind'a similar but with that colleague of ours that I have mentioned, she was always a hypocrite in my point of view.
She always said that she was a straight forward person but, whenever she has a complaint, she would try to encourage others to voice it out for her. And then, when someone bothered her with a particular act, she would ask everyone except the person who really did that thing which had annoyed her. She would never follow anything that we would end up telling her but, would follow those things that gets told to her from those who were higher than us.
Before she left, I got to be in good terms with her. I didn't want to leave a foul impression but, who knows? Maybe she still had something bad against me. The sad thing about when she left was that she took away two other colleagues since the other two were her nieces. One of her nieces happens to be the nicest among them three.
Well, with their departure came along two new employees that are both nice and easy to get along with. We even get to laugh now at the 'office' unlike before. (^_^")
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
29 Aug 09
I used to have a co worker like that, saying she didn't like certain boss but when this boss had problems she would help
the same thing goes with other people at work including another staff
I should've known because it happened many times I saw it all myself
people were friendly at her but not to me I don't know why
but she used to say that some people are this and that
I wonder if these 'friendly' people knew at all
but I didn't bother telling them though
they will know the truth anyway
different opinions is not a problem it's the backstabbing that I can't handle
I did my job as the boss said so, but in the end either the boss said he didn't tell me to do so or someone (guess who, co-worker of course) would say that and somehow everybody believed this person (because they hang out together or go out smoke all the time, who knows?)
Once someone thought that I was the backstabber. she told me she was afraid of the boss, so I dictated to her what to do so that she didn't do it wrong. the boss went down and she was upset because I dictated this staff. this staff was fired and I didn't know why. I called to find out and she was all upset calling me backstabber. the boss always called us useless, but when I quit, this staff was called back along with 4 of her friends, to do my job and another girl's.
So they had to hire 5 ppl to do what 2 'useless' people did.
Stupid boss? You guess it! But then again, I'm glad I didn't have to work too lng with that lame staff. She actually shivered when the boss came lol what the hell
No wonder it took 5 girls, the 4 friends to protect this 'feverish' one
I don't hate any of my ex coworkers anymore.
I have my own business, my own. no office politics can claim it. and no loser boss because I am the boss. if you work for someone, they will always claim your success as theirs because if you shine, they will look stupid. if you always do things right, their sluggishness will make them look bad. so next time be careful at your new work place. keep looking for better position and chance to leap to another company. if you stay in one company for a long time, chances are you will be skipped when management changes.
have you ever heard this saying 'it's not what you know but who you know'?
it's true. loyalty and hard work only means something if you 'know' your boss
other than that, it only means 'at least I bring money home'
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
29 Aug 09
Your story sounds familiar. So now you are working alone being self employee? Good step! You are marching with 4 quadrant Robert T Kiyosaki. From being employee to self employee, or infact business owner, already? ;) Good for you. Yes.. and again, eventhough I love being my own bos, the challenge in working place seems calling me back. I am not yet making real step, but I do plan for it soon. As for now, like u, I am enjoying myself at home, with small business running by others. Not big, just small, but atleast I can survive and keep swooping along the internet.
Btw, I really appreciate u sharing us your experiences. All the very best for u!
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@bigplay (212)
• United States
24 Aug 09
I never actually hated any of my co workers that i've worked with, i got along with them all on every job. Until i started working at the beach, one of the bosses didn't like me, i was a laundry worker and she didn't want me to work in the laundry room, so after i heard her tell this woman that she didn't like me, i quit, but i got along with everyone elese at that job. I guess no matter how nice you are, not everyone in the world is going to like you.
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
29 Aug 09
yes, u r right. But why do u have to quit? You should just confront her and ask her in face what was her problem with you. Even if she couldnt came up with reason, at least by that u know what type of person she is. Anyhow, hope u found a better job with nicer people in it.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Sep 09
The last job I had was two years ago. The recession happened, and I couldn't find a job though I had one interview. Needless to say, I didn't try as hard as I could have, but that's beside the point. There was this one co worker I had who would basically boss me and an old friend of mine around. She was nice to you, but she also seemed to talk behind your back. I didn't really like her, but I didn't hate here either. I guess it was confusing, but in that job you couldn't hate anyone because you had to work hard and needed people to help ya sometimes too because of heavy things, or getting tables done so everyone could go home. I was a banquet server. I quit because I never got any sleep and it started to affect me, that and I moved to entirely different county where I'm happy now.
Sometimes you lose touch with people you befriended at work.
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
3 Sep 09
hi, where do u live now? In which country? I am thinking of moving to other country myself. But i guess i dont have enough guts to start making step. Can u share more about that? What do u do now in new place? Seems like you working from home only now, right?
@celebratelifeh (1142)
• China
24 Aug 09
well. we all different and our backgroud are not same also. so we may hate others and others may hate our working manners and self style also.i hate some of my colleagues really and they turns to too greed with the money so do not bothered to flattery the boss and superviors and bad to normal colleauges.
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
29 Aug 09
We are not hating just becoz we r different. But more becoz some people really do behave and act to hurt someone else. I was never believe in term of bad people before. But after several things happened to me, I start to realize that there are "evil" living around us.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
23 Aug 09
I don't actually hate anyone that I'm working with right now. However, there is someone that I do find annoying that I try to avoid if I possibly can. She drives me completely nuts but I'm not the only one. She drives other people kind of crazy as well so it's not just me.
This girl acts like she knows everything and thinks she is entitled to a lot of things. It's rather annoying really. The way she talks drives all of us completely crazy. I mean, she's nice and all, but her personality is what bugs most of us so we hope we don't have to deal with her much and since she works on the other side of the building we don't have to deal with her too much.
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
23 Aug 09
Haha i know what u mean with this type of annoying person. They think they know everything. Smart "a*ss". I think we should pity this person, for she just don't really acknowledge her own lacking in social interaction. The rule to get accepted is one: "hear more rather than talk more"
@smart44 (510)
• Philippines
23 Aug 09
I don't hate anyone in my co-workers since I am not a quarrel some, and its also not good for such institution whose workers are not working well. We should treat like sisters and brothers in one company so that work will be harmonously or easily get with other co workers.
Very relaxing to work without any tensions and hatred in your workers and the work will be light as the time goes on.
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
23 Aug 09
Good that u think that way. And nice to hear that u have friendly environment in your work place. But u should know, the higher u get, the more people will try to stab you behind your back. It just how it is in work. All about competition. Yes, there are many good friends, but you must also extra careful to this back stabber.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
23 Aug 09
Hello,
when you work with many people around then you will feel this way, plus if you work with someone that like to jealous with other... oh god, you will be like "get me out of here"... lolz.
I know how you felt tho... I used to work for this Koreans and they were so bad and looked down at me. I hated to work for them so much... I had to quit before everything went wrong
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
23 Aug 09
From what I see we always gonna face difficulty among our working environment. Yeah u r right, dealing with many people are quite a headache. I was working with japanese before, and I found them as nice persons. I donno much about korean though.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
23 Aug 09
I do remember one time when I was still working with a non profit organization, there was this lady that I had a disagreement with. Maybe because we had different beliefs or we are not of the same age. She was not serious in her job to the point of neglecting it and in turn making me do her job. Definitely, I detested that kind of work ethic. She applied to do the job and not make anyone else do it for her.
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
23 Aug 09
Bossy type hah. She seems not enjoying her work much. Perhaps she thought working with NGO didnt pay her well. Hehe, i bet she didnt last long in your work. We came across this type from time to time. But patience it's all it take.
@busybren (258)
• United States
23 Aug 09
I had a similar situation like yours. I felt like MAYBE I thought more of the friendship than the other person. I felt silly after a while, but I was able to see the true nature of the person. She was still kind to me, helpful at work and we hung out occassionally for lunch, but once we both departed from that employer, we talked maybe 5 times in the past 3 years....ON MYSPACE only. LoL Oh well, do not think too much into it unless you're willing to pick the phone up yourself. Be happy with what you had, when you had it. You will soon smile as usual.
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
23 Aug 09
One of my good friend remind me not too attached with fella from work. We all going to have what he said as "conflict of interest". But i do find someone who i knew from my old job, that became good friend of mine. That is becoz we both struggle on the same goal (can not mention here).