housewife or not?

I am personally a better mom when I get away from the kids a few hours a day. I am more patient and relaxed when I am not with them from the moment I wake til they go to bed. I stayed home just about 6 weeks with both but fortunately I did not have to use a day care since my mother in law watches other children. I do not think I would have been able to leave them if it werent for that. Children do need other children. It helps them to grow and develop socially. You have had your couple of years mom now its time to let go. He will be just fine. You will be amazed the new things he learns both good and bad from those around him. Best of luck in your career. If you have more children you may decide to stay home. I noticed I baby my younger one way more than I did my older one. Just do not put yourself in an extreme financial bind whatever you do. Best of luck.

i have 4 children and my youngest being only 1 and i am a stay at home mom i was not at times i did work and i really missed my children when i was at work . its not my choice to be a stay at home mom because i am disabled but i think if i did work it would only be a few hours a week because with my oldest son who is now 11 years old i almost missed his first step and my 7 year old son i did miss his first step and i came close to missing my 3 year old sons and i was upset about it because when you miss there first you can't get it back , i don't think there is any thing wrong with being a stay at home mom i mean we may not work outside the house but we still have the hardest job in the world and its 24/7.

My son is 4 now and I've been home with him since he was born. We decided that as long as we could afford it, I would stay home. We've had some tight times, but for the most part, we've been pretty okay. We adjusted our lifestyles so that we could continue to afford for me to stay home. I will never regret it... I've worked part time from home and (almost) finished school thru internet courses for the past 4 years. This in preparation for the time that will come that I have no choice but to find something else. All too soon, he will be off with his friends, involved in school, sports, activities and he won't need or want his mommy by his side 24/7 anymore. He's going back to school next month, for 5 hours, three days a week. This will give him a small push towards being apart from me, and my a small push from being apart from him. Next year, he'll be in school full time and that's when I plan to go back to work. But I will always be here for him, because he will still need me. I still want to be that steriotypical 'soccer mom' and make sure he gets to his activities, gets his homework done, and all that good stuff. I don't think having more children will change my decisions, it would just be another adjustment. I love being a mom and there isn't anything that could make me feel more accomplished in life than being able to say I'm a stay at home mom/housewife.

hi daze, if i will be a wife, i prefer to work and help my husband in budgeting. it's really hard nowadays to have a family then only your husband do the work, i willlet my kids to stay on my mother's house instead having a helper (another income).. i think it will work.. janebeth.

If i were you i would be happy to take care of my boy until that he is two years old. My son is half a year old now and i have to leave him to be taken care of by his grandmother and i go back to work already. To be honest i do think it would be better if i could look after the child by myself. But i have to work otherwise we just cann't survive. so i do envy of you.

Ah.I am also a mother.I understand your feelings.My child is 3 years old,I went out to work.Fortunately,there is my sister to help me take care of my child.She was working in a kindergarten.The youngsters.Else to take care of me no confidence.But if I do not go to work,my husband's salary, the cost of our family.after all,short-lived.Now my kids were the National Cheng Kung University.She also participated in the work.I do not have to go out to work.Ha ha.Their families every day cooking.Or chat with your friends on mylot.

I had no choice but to work when my kids were babies. I did miss a lot of their firsts, and there were many times when I didn't get to see them do anything aside from sleep. I always felt like the babysitter was raising my kids, and in many ways, she was. Apparently, I have done something right along the way though, my kids and I are all very close. They have their moments when they are very disrespectful to me and each other, but I guarantee that if anyone ever tried to hurt any of us, we would all fight with a vengance. When I think about it, although I would have liked to have been able to stay home, I would have liked to have that option, I think that eventually, I would have returned to work, just not as soon as I did. If I were to have another baby, I would probably take my baby to work with me as much as I possibly could. I am self-employed, but that doesn't mean that I can take my kids everywhere I go to work. It has been a long, hard road for me, but I am finally to a point in my life where I can look back and reflect on how far the kids and I have really come. I think that if you get to a point where you decide to have another baby, and you are really happy with your job, or if you decide that it is a bit easier for you to not struggle as you have in the past, you may decide to go back to work sooner. On the other hand, you may decide that you would rather struggle than miss that special time with a child you may decide to stay home again. It will all depend on the situation at that time.

Honestly, I would have given anything to be able to stay at home with my two children, anything! I work full time 2nd shift, and I am really fortunate to even have my job, considering almost everyone I know has lost theirs due to the economy. I hate working 2nd shift because I only see my kids for a few hours before I leave for work. My husband is very fortunate, he works 1st shift and gets almost the whole afternoon/evening with the kids :(... If I could stay home, I totally would, but financially I would never be able to, we wouldnt be able to even live what so ever, which is just heartbreaking. Awww going back to work has to be so hard! When I was on maternity leave the two times I just cried when I had to go back to work after being home for just 6 weeks each! How sad :(... I have a feeling that you may want to stay home with ur children if you decide to have more, because daycare is insanely expensive and you may find it more worth it to stay at home if u can afford it financially.