Are children out of control?

Hi vikkiz, I don't think in all cases the parents should be blamed, I think the cases should be looked at individually and make assumptions from that, parents try in a lot of cases some kids are just that out of control, I have someone in my life that is having problems with her son, she spends plenty of time with her son, she sits with him, have him read books, do home work when he has no homework, and yet he is bad as he]], when he is with his Dad he don't give him any problems, at school they always have to talk with his teachers for something, all the time,the teachers want him to have medication they refuse, I don't blame them, he is not slow or anything he is just bad. So with that said, you can not immediately say your parents are doing something wrong, sometimes kids are just bad, which is why they are with you, the parents can't handle it, its unfortunate but true, now don't get me wrong, there are some sad parents out there, but not all, we really need to remember that.I wish you the best, hope you understand the point I am trying to make. bless you for doing such a wonderful job, I could not do it. When I had my daughter, keep in mind I had her when I was young, people use to come to me all the time and tell me,you are doing such a good job, she is great, etc etc, I would say to them it is not all me, I am blessed is what it is, I felt that at a very young age, watching other people go through he]] with their kids, having no control what so ever, yes I feel I was blessed, you never know with kids these days, you have to hope and pray that you guide them in the right direction, sometimes it just don't turn out that way. I can go on/on/on with examples as to why I know for sure you can't blame parents all the time, but I will stop for now. good luck

well. here is only one child allowed to each family and those parents and grandpartenst really spoiled their kids with tons of love already.i have a 4 year's old nephew and he do not follow anyone in the family. anything he asked for should be provided or he will be angried with we adult...hehe..they need more strict rules.

I'm a preschool teacher and I see plenty of spoiled and children that just behave badly and the part that kills me is that parents think that it's not their problem, it's everyone elses problem, or everyone else's behavior is what is causing their precious little baby to behave like they are behaving. Another thing that really drives me crazy is the parents that assume that because I'm not a parent myself, I shouldn't have any business raising their children. I understand their frustration and I get some parents feel intimidated that someone that is trained to work with children can help offer suggestions may be annoying if you've done all you can and it's not working, but that's my job. It's my profession. I'm trained how to work with children, how to fix behavior, how to create good behavior and the like. It's annoying when they think that it means nothing unless you've had your own and raised your own. Well, you're obviously not doing a good job yourself and you've got kids! I think parents today are realizing that there are many ways to raise kids and a lot of them feel slighted because they were raised 'tough' when they were younger so they refuse to treat their kids like that because they just thought it was the end of the world. So we've got kids that are walking all over parents.

To some degree, I do believe children of today are out of control. Whenever I go to a store, there will be some child screaming from the top of his or her lungs and throwing a tantrum, because they can't have their own way, or they would run around in a given restaurant. The parents just look at the child and tell them nothing most of the time, and go back to their business of eating their meal and allowing the bratty child do what they want. If they were my children, I'd give them a couple on the seat of their pants. I'd don't believe in causing harm to any child such as emotional, spiritual, physical or verbal abuse. But I do believe in spankings. I believe that the generations who grew up with spankings turned out to be better humanbeings because of it. Parents nowadays are far too lenient with their children. And that's scary. It concerns me deeply, because I worry about how distructive this leniency will turn out to be in the long run, when the child doesn't know right from wrong, because their parents failed to teach them. Children should never be abused, but they do on the other hand require some form of discipline in order to make them better more civilized, more respectful citizens.

Not all children are out of control.There few of them who really dont care for their elders or parents.They dnt do it purpeir childhosely too there are few things which might have happend in their childhood which may even make them disrespect their elders or it might even happen that they are loved and pampered too much.This is the main reason which makes them go disobedient when they grow up.

Although there are a few kids who may have medical problems most of them simply lack discipline. Kids need to be taught from an early age to understand what is acceptable behaviour and what is not. The problem is compounded by the fact that many parents are afraid to disipline their children. These days even a quick spank can be interpreted as abusive. Likewise teachers cannot disipline their students. When I was at school (a loong time ago) kids were sent to the principal to recieve punishment for bad behaviour.This was a good idea because there was no emotion involved. It annoys me to see children running amuck in shopping centers or in other peoples homes, touching everything without a word of caution from the parents. They simply aren't taught to respect anything. Parents have learnt to give the child what it wants just for a bit of peace. Better to be firm, say no, and mean it. I used to tell my daughter I would think about it if she really wanted something. But if she kept on nagging or whinging about it she learnt the answer was NO.

I think you are right in saying that there are two kinds of kids that are out of control. Here in Japan the spoilt bratt syndrom is a big thing. I have the past few months trying to get one child removed from my daughters 1st grade class. This boy is out of control, he has beaten the teacher making her lips bleed. The mother admits that she can't do anything with him. He needs help and now, but the headteacher says he can't do anything (the boy has an older sister and brother, both are known trouble makers). My daughter is afraid to go to school because of this boy and I feel so sorry for her. September starts the 2nd term here and I am hoping that the headteacher has done something. Also our neighbours boy is another swine that I would love to give a good hiding to, he is older 13 or 14 beats his mother regulary (we can hear her scream), climbs out on the roof, yells at night so my kids can't sleep. He has real problems but because the family would "loose face" nothing is done. Very sad.

Not only children but also ourself.I still think there is a good way to solve every problem.Just think more!

I have to SOMEWHAT blame ourselves for our childrens' behavior. REMEMBER YOU GUYS', we were the generation growing up saying "MOM, TIMES HAVE CHANGED." and "Dad, I'm old enough now". We chose to start our own traditions and lead our own paths and believe our own wisdoms growing up, because we just knew better...REMEMBER? So having more younger parents, we are still thinking young. As we grow we are molding our kids into what we like, what we do, what we hear. We treat them as though they are "mature enough" to talk about this and that or have more trust in their decisions, WHY??? BECAUSE WE WANTED OUR PARENTS TO GIVE US THAT RESPECT. Sorry I'm rambling on. I guess my point is, now that we have given them all this trust and freedom, they are taking advantage and it's our jobs to check their butts. LoL Get me? It's just "level of control".

i think your thinking is right. but all of others may think that you are wrong. but parents are the responsible of the abuse child. their behaviour only can change the child like that. so parenting is important and we do the paranting as in correct way and need to take care of our child very much.