advise to a first time mom

i felt like that when i was 17 years old and had my first baby...i was sooo young and was a baby myself...i didn't know if i'm even capable of taking care of a little one... but then you would realize that nobody has to teach you about mothering and how to care for your baby...it would come...naturally... i didn't know how to bath my baby before,,, he was so tiny and I was scared I would break his bones or drop him...i didn't even know how to hold him the "right" way when I was planning to give him bath for the first time... but then, i just learned............ we all have being a mother inside each of us..it will come in due time.. just be there for your baby.......he needs your hugs and kisses and your warmth.. that is the most important stage of all... the building of trust... and that is felt by the baby during infancy......

Hi pretteen, Beautiful baby by the way , as a mom I would say show her you love her just as much as you tell her, hold her close as much as possibles kids love that, as far as teaching goes, watch her you will get an idea as to what she is ready to learn, parenting is not an easy thing for any mom, we learn day by day,she will learn from you and you will learn from her, enjoy her right now, if you were still pregnant I would read to her, I guess to can still do that, read to her at night, do that bedtime story every night, I love that, talk to her, no goo goo gaa gaa,if you have a specific thing you need to know feel free to post another question. hope this helped You are already doing a great thing just by asking this questions, it shows me you have your childs best interest at heart, that is truly a step in the right direction no worries, like I said when you want to know something specific feel free to post again, right now I think reading/holding her close to your heart is a good start.

Mothering is such a different experience for everyone. There are so many disciplinary styles it can tend to get confusing. I don't follow a style I follow what is in my heart and what I feel is the right thing to do. My children are not perfect but I'd like to see if anyone could prove that their child was. Still they are good children. Funny thing though because I never look at myself as a good mother. I'm not saying that I abuse my children or that I am ignorant. I think in a way it is good to mother while thinking that you can always improve. Give your baby love, not just by hugging and kissing them, but by disciplining them. By disciplining your children you are showing them how much you love and care for them. It can be hard sometimes especially when you feel like you are being mean to them but you aren't. You show them that you care enough about them to teach them right and wrong. I don't spank my children, never have never will, and they have grown up to be real little ladies. My two year old on the other hand is a real work in progress. But even so I still discipline her like I do her sisters, just not in the same way. And with that I will say that you should discipline your children in a way that works for you and them. It is fine to hear advice but always trust your own instincts.

Congratulations. Become mothers. I know the mother very difficult. In order to feed thwir children. You have to sacrifice their sleep time. Children generally eat will be good as gold. If a child crying, then it will have to see that she is not wet it? Is there a swelling under the arms? Should always give your baby to drink boiled water. Let the baby keep the body dry. Always hold your baby out of the sun. Baby feeding cod liver oil concentrate to give a number of drops. From one drop began to increase.

Congratulations on becoming a mum - one of the best jobs in the world. You may be feeling young and unsure, but as other mylotters have responded, as time goes on and your bond with your baby becomes even stronger you will find your maternal instincts will guide you and help you. You will get to know your child and be able to respond to her every need without thinking twice. Enjoy this time with her now, because it goes so fast!

My Mom stayed with me 3 days after I brought my first baby home.I remember calling my Mom the day after she left asking her what I was supposed to do with him while I took a shower. She asked if he was asleep, he was. She said put him in his crib and go take a shower. It's funny now, but at the time, I REALLY didn't know what to do. As time went on, the mother inside me kicked in. You are going to make mistakes, we are only human. But as long as you keep going, you and the baby will be just fine. One thing to remember is don't baby-proof your home, teach them what they can and can't play with. My boys started getting their hands smacked at about six months old. Some people will frown on that, but they learned what they were supposed to leave alone. Love them and hold them, the rest will come to you.

Well I am not a mom myself but a dad. I have the same sentiments as you were when i became a first time dad. I was afraid I would not be able to become a good dad to my son. But it changed overtime, I realized that becoming a good dad one must just be himself and what you've learned from your childhood from your parents are the first things that you should keep in mind and pass on to your child. Next, enjoy that moment with your baby, this keeps that bond strong and this will keep you aware what your baby needs as she grows up. I think that last one is the most important lesson I learned from becoming a parent. There is no exact rules about parenthood because they are different from parent to parent. Of course, reading is an option, there are lots of sites and books that you can read that could teach you the basics of child rearing. This resources can guide you too.

Have love and the rest comes naturally. Be sensible and know that really loving means letting your child knows what's correct and what's wrong, and you know your child will grow into a fine person. Loving doesn't mean letting your child waywardly do wrong things. Just don't be too fierce, LOL :D

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