What are the reasons why marriage fails

hi extendcradle! For me, big factor which may result to marriage failure is i think the differences in principle and belief between husband and wife. However, whatever differences they may have can be compromised if love and respect is still there, the absence of both then will eventually put an end to the relationship but in some cases couples tend to stay together just for the sake of their children. Hence marriage is a compromise, one should concede in some instances in one way or another. Good day!

Don't get me wrong... I love my partner more than I can put into words - but sometimes I don't like him! I don't intend to split up, but sometimes I need time on my own to just chill out, relax and just be myself. All couples need time alone as well as time together, those that don't have this I think are the ones that are more likely to fail. Having outside interests is essential - you need to keep the essence of you as well as you as part of a couple. The outside interests help you to have this time out (so to speak)... Time together is also essential - a friend who is going through a marriage course suggested that once a week every couple should make some "married time" where there is No TV, internet, computer, cell phone... just the couple and they go out on a date, a walk... just something together. I also think that expectations of marriage have changed dramatically over the years, yes, it is now easy to get divorced and there is little stigma attached - many people are on their 4th or 5th marriages and have children from more than one. There also seems less pressure to be married, it seems OK to have children without being married - so why get married? Nowadays both partners often need to work to make ends meet, I know that is certainly the case with all my friends (mid 20's to mid 40's in age) and I feel that this has a major impact as well... No longer is it possible for the woman to stay at home and be a housewife... and this can cause problems depending on how the male in the relationship has been brought up... http://purpleslinky.com/offbeat/with-this-ring-i-thee-wed-marriage-an-alternative-viewpoint/ Misty x

There are lots of reason why marriages doesn't succeed.One reason is what you have said...age factor. Differences which a couple will find out when they were living together under one roof. Cheating,jealousy,arguements and so and on. But,things can be fixed when both will tried to make things work out. Yah,it's not like a piece of cloth that once you were sick of it you can just throw it away. There are couples that after knowing each differences strive hard to work for their marriage,to make their vows worth living each other for the rest of their life. But there are couples that after finding out that they can't live in a situation where they think it's useless living together,the,seek for divorce. It is an individual choice wether to make their marriages a successful one or to break the ice. Divorced couples had their own reasons for choosing it,and there are different reason behind each divorces and separations.

I got married at a very early age at 20. It was that I decided to get married at 25 but thingd didnt turn as i planned. So after marriage I had a lot of problems with the marriage and the new relations I got with it. I now look back at those incidents and I feel I could have handled it better had I had a more mature mentality. So being a mature person brings about a lot of diffrence in the prespective with which we look at issues and solve them. Also there has to be adjustment and sacrifices from both partners. Afterall it is a union of two people born and brought up at two diffrent places, style and household with diffrent approach to life. It is quite natural to have diffrence of opinion and the success lies in sorting things out tactfully. Understanding your partner, giving her space is important. Equally importantce to be given to accept your partner as how he/she is rahter than attemtping to change according to how you want him/her to be. Last but not least, there should be undying support and love to keep the flames of marriage alive.

I got married when I was 19, and my husband and I have been married a little over 2 years, and I can't believe the ups and downs we have gone through, especially with me getting pregnant and having two children. I think some factors in divorce and/or marriage failing are as follows: not thinking marriage through, falling in love with that person and they aren't who you think they are, age factor, giving up, losing the challenge, pregnancy, money, debt, jealousy, cheating, abuse etc. I could keep going, it is outrageous how many things that cause divorce. I think a lot of people don't give marriage the credit that it used to be, "to have and to hold from this day forward, for ever and ever" YEAH RIGHT, how many people abide to that? IF they do, huge props to them for actually taking marriage seriously! My hubby and I have our huge ups and downs, but we know unless someone has an affair or becomes abuse, we will stay together forever, because we said it before God and everyone else we know. You cannot give up on marriage like most people do in boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. Once something isn't PERFECT, people go walking. It's like "cmon now, are u scared of the challenge of making things right again?"

Certainly age is a factor. When you are young you are still discovering yourself and its all about you. This is hard in a relationship when both people can be putting their own wants first. Also we live in a disposable society and ,like everything else we can just throw it away and find a new one. Relationships take a lot of hard work sometimes, especially when times are tough. I just think people don't try hard enough to understand each other.

there are many factors that marriage fails. 1. Age- they are not ready yet because they are too young to face the marriage life. 2. Work- no work yet and they are being with parents because the parents are taking incharge for everything. 3. Love- they just married because they should be girl is pregnant and need to marry for the child's sake. 4. Arrange marriage- if the parents are only the one who wants to get married their children. 5. Readiness- they are not yet ready to have a family since they are to young to raise a family. Parents are the one sacrificing just to protect their children. These are some of the reasons why marriage fails.

i think marriages fail because life is stressful what with money problems and such. once the children come it is really no longer about the two people but about the children and raising them and keeping them safe so inevitably people grow apart. also men and women are so very different in their views on life and the way they handle the stress that it pushes them even further apart. i have also found that many men are selfish and self absorbed and leave most if not all the household chores and responsibilities to the woman whether she works or not.

Yes, It is really alarming.. I think other factors that makes the marriage fail aside from early marriage is lack of proper communication. Couple needs to be open to each other and should communicate well. Besides, the old people say that if you are going to choose your partner make sure that she/he is the person that you can talk with the rest of your life.. Because when you get older what probably you can do with your everyday life is to sit side by side and talk to each other..

you are right, one of the reasons maybe early marriage, but i guess that's not the most important reasons (because our elder was usually married in very young age but their marriage long last forever)... I guess the most important thing in every marriages is communication, so if a marriag is end up breaking, maybe it's because the communication between them is not good like it was before, maybe there's something to hide (not being honest each other) which it can change someone and it can make marriage fails... So what we have to do to safe our marriage is keep the communication truthfully, and no secrets about everything......

Yes married at around 18-20 is too early for couples. In our country's law people are only allowed to get married when men reach 22 and women reach 20. In real life now people get married very late . When they graduate from the universities and begin to work they already are 23 years old . Therefore in our country the first reason for failed marriage is not because they get married early. Well in my opinion fast life tempo is the main reason. Everything changes quickly here including people's thoughts. We just don't have enough time to cherish the people around us and we have to work hard and work day and night to well survive in this society. That should be one reason for marriage to be broken.

My ex-husband and I married very young, at 21. We were happy for several years but eventually his career took over his life and I took a back seat. We grew apart in many ways and although we remained friends it reached a point where we couldn't continue. This is just one of many reasons why people break up a marriage, it is very sad and some do it too lightly, but there is no point dragging out a relationship for the sake of it.