Arranged marriages are more successful than love marriages

I think it is dependent on how we define "successful." Arranged marriages are often followed because of culture, meaning there is a social criticism for people who will violate such cultural belief. Hence, they agree and remain faithful to the culture and try to be happy (or they are really happy, who knows). On the other hand, love marriages are born out of self-made decisions. And, most of the newly weds are not sure of themselves. This makes decisions fail. We can not generally conclude that one marriage is better than the other. What we can say is that - "marriage is not an event in life, it is a commitment that we need to work hard for." Good day!

I do have some experience in this area having spent some years employing people from India and Pakistan and having friends from that culture. I would say that arranged marriages last longer with less divorces for one reason. If a wife leaves or divorces her husband not only don't her husband's family have nothing more to do with her nor do her own family so she is totally isolated. This does not seem to apply to the husband. On balance I would say it is an unfair, outdated and primitive practice and should be abandonded as soon as possible

I agree that arranged marriages are more successful then loved ones but we can not surely say that coz there are many other factors counting on. In loved marriages expectations are high from each other and then after marriage it hurts when expectation do not fulfilled while in arranged marriages ppllz dont expect soo much from their partner and this makes them happy when their partner doing someting caring for them. I did the arranged marriage and i am soo happy with my life, so i support arranged marriages.

Part of it is that generally parents love their children... thus they try and find suitable mates for their children. Plus since they have been around longer than their children, they can sometimes have a better criteria and judgment on who is a good person to marry. Young people alternatively don't have the experience to know bad people from good. Further, they often are carried away by emotions that are not based on rational thought. The chemical response of "feeling in love", is just that... chemicals. So people in the US tend to get swept away by a "feeling", and at the same time do not have the experience to know better. This leads to very bad marriages due to emotional inexperienced choices. Another problem is, in many countries with arranged marriages, those people have a better understanding that love stems from choice and from doing. This is because they have lived it. You can choose to love someone, and make the family work. Americans for example, now believe love is something that "just happens". They think that emotional "feeling" they got was love. Thus when the emotional "feeling" leaves, they have now lost their love. Often in divorces we hear that "I just don't have the feelings for him I once did". That's because that "feeling" was all they had to start with. She, or he, never made the 'choice' to love the other person. So yes, arranged marriages often work better than so-called 'love-marriages'. I think they likely always will.

There is nothing like which is successful but rather how to make it successful.Both can be equally successful with the right kind of approach from husband and wives.

Every arranged marriage that I have known about is successful because the women are submittable to their husbands. I am not saying it is wrong if there is love and respect put in this arrangement. But most of the time these two factors are left out. I do not want to step on any toes because I know there are some that do work that are arranged.

It is dependent on various parameters. what may seem to be successful to one, may not be so to others. yes, you can say in terms of divorce rate. But I think its quite same now a days in our country too. Plus there can be many problems in arranged marriages also.

For me , arranged marriages are the only marriage to have.I never thought that it was wise to try to mix romantic love with marriage.With an arranged marriage ,the connection is based on something else. I assume it is the link of two families.Which works more often? I don't know.

Hi magnel, I don't know a lot about arranged marriages except what I have read. I know just two people in an arranged marriage but I must admit, they seem to be very happy. Since it is a cultural thing, I believe it's difficult to compare but does less divorce really mean that arranged marriages are better or more successful? Certainly there is more divorce in the west where arranged marriages are almost unknown but is staying together at any cost really better?

I just do not understand much about a arranged marriage, so i do not understand why they would be more successful are they staying together out of respect for the people that arranged it. because that is what is expected of them. Like others have brought up are they allowed to get divorced, are they really happy, or are they just stuck with each other, and have no other choice so they make the best of it. I know that being married, and staying married takes work, and i just can't see spending my life with some one that i did not love.

Being married doesn't mean that you already know that person that you love but it is only the beginning of getting to know more of the person that you love.

I have seen both arranged and love marriages that have turned out to be unsucessful, In the case of a love marriage only the two of them are involved more and so if there is a break in the relationship only they are responsible, whereas in the case of an arranged marriage the whole family of both the bride and groom are responsible and they take the initiative to solve problem if any.

sounds reasonable to say that....... because love may die...........

I am inclined to disagree with this notion. It depends upon what u call success. If remaining in marriage without being happy is termed as success then possibly arranged marriages rank higher. This is because there is ample pressure on both the partners by their family members, especially the girl to adjust, and often children are shown as the reason to adjust, even to physical and mental abuse. Success of marriage should be redefined. U need love, understanding, and consideration all the way. If these qualities are not there, it is no different from prison in-mates. Is it?

It's not like arranged marriages are more successful. it just depends how love start and how they get married. For example if love marriage happens within 1-2 months of love it may be possible it was just attraction and they get married.. for successful love marriage you need to keep your relationship atleast for 6 months and including both family circumstances. what happens in love marriage is.. they do not accept each other to be changed. and after marriage situation is always different.. a small change in one's behavior makes big change in life.. where in arrange marriage both knows before that they have to compromise with each other and also each other's family.. that feeling made them strong. if love marriage is done after little bit of thought.. it can be successful too..

Arrange marriage is a tradition and culture matters.It's a culture that should be follow and it's a must.Wether you like or not,thu there are few that prefers to have love marriage(very few i guess)And,since it is traditionally custom,the married couple should try to make the marriage work out becoz they don't have any choice. While in other countries,love marriages is much followed where anyone can choose her groom or his bride. Well,with regards with which marriage were successful or not,i don't think we can ratio from arranged ones or those love marriages.One reason is...only few countries were traditionally follows the arranged marriages while most countries were of love marriages. And a marriage can't be weight from a tradition or culture one.It is how the couple worked for their marriage to make it a successful one.

Hey magnel Arranged marriages really confuses me.How can people suddenly decide that they want to spend the rest of their lives with someone they don't really know. I have heard arranged marriages usually don't usually end up in a divorce.But that doesn't means that those people are very happy with their marriages.Sometime the situation is so complex you can't change things and walk out of your marriage even if you want to.The only thing you can do is rue your decision for the rest of your life. I am not saying that all arranged marriages are like that.I have seen two people fall in love even after their marriage.But that happens rarely.Most of the time people just learn to adjust with each other,instead of loving each other.