Pregnant brides....why should ?

hi jaiho, like in my topic yesterday (you can scan it), y marry the girl if it is now already pregnant?? why don't marry her because you love her and not because she is pregnant. i just can't understand boys sometimes.. janebeth.

I was impregnated too however I did not get married for the sake of the pregnancy. I have never agree for a couple to get married just because of the pregnancy. However, in view of the current trending, there are more married couples that marriage based on an accident pregnancy. In due course, most of the marriage have difficulty in maintaining it well. I have many friends, that marriage due to pregnancy, and currently in much more suffer. Nowadays, most couple enjoys the free frills relationship, which do not want to tie down for marriage unless there is a child in tact to it.. even then, some of them may even opt for abortion in order to continue the free frills lifestyle..

I would hope that is not the only reason to be married. I would hope that he would love me enough and want to marry me even if I wasn't pregnant. I don't think I want a man who only wants me because I am having a baby. What if something is wrong with me and I cant have children does that mean I would never get married.

A lot of girls truly believe that becoming pregnant by a specific male will magically cause him to fall in love with her.I have to disagree that it forces a man to marry her. This is very evident of the thousands of women struggling to support children by themselves. If there was forcing then there would be no such thing as child support payments. Now things might be different where you are so I don't know.

I've just noticed that in our country now more and more people get married after they have been pregnant for a few months. When we go to the wedding ceremony almost every bride is carring a baby . I don't know why . It might be their own choice . I guess some are forced to get married because of the pregnancy . Having a baby makes them to decide to make a new family. But most of them are not this situation.

most of my friends are guys and when being asked when are they getting married, their answer is when their girlfriends get pregnant, i know they love their girlfriends and that they have plans of getting married but only when the girls becomes pregnant, maybe its teh guys who can better answer this question:)

I agree with you. It is no need to get married in the last minute, especially for the sake of being pregnant. It is not comfortable to be pregnant sometimes. So holding a wedding will be tiring for the bride. If you want to marry her, just do it before she is pregnant. I love China

i did not get my wife pregnant before we got married. took us three years before we decided to get married. maybe we call that being responsible mostly for the guys. i mean this is a two person responsibility but for me i can say that it is mostly a responsibility of the guy. but it all depends on every situation. some couples wanted to have children though they dont like to get married but decided to get married before the lady gives birth. so there are a lot of reason and circumstances that only the people concern can explain.

i see no problem to that, getting married when pregnant already. i remember, when i was a kid and my mom showed me their weeding picture. and she asked me, how many people are there in that picture. i saw mom and dad, so i said, there were two. she said no, there was three. what? because mom was already pregnant and i was in, already.

I think its not a matter of waiting to be be pregnant before getting married but because the woman is pregnant they had to get married. This does not necessarily mean the guy was forced to marry the woman. Couples wait until they are secured enough to raise a family before they tie the knot but they can't wait until they are married before hopping to bed together. Accident happens and the woman gets pregnant ergo they married before the baby is born.

You are right.The girl has to threaten the guy with her pregnancy to get married,I think.Without that the guy would not think of marriage earlier.But it is sad that pregnancy has become an excuse for marriage.And we should not fail to appreciate the courage of that guy to take responsibility.Cheers!

i think that in situations like that the girl wants to already but the guy is quite sure that he is ready to get married but then when the girl turns up pregnant he then feels obligated to marry her rather that is truelly what he wanted or not. i dont think that people should get married just because they are having a baby because you might later regret it and realize that you jumped into the whole marriage thing way to quick without stepping back and looking at what is best at that moment. you should not be with someone just cuz you have there kid if the parents are not happy being with each other it will make the child miserable to have to live and deal with that.