Husband can not cope with his children

I hear things like this and can't believe it. My husband has always been good with our children. He will take them after he comes home from work and do things with them. With our last child I was in the hospital alot and he never complained about the other children. When I would ask he would say they are doing good. I think a lot of fathers don't have a good relationship with their children because they go to work and when they come home they say I'm tired and don't really have anything to do with the children at the begining. We do let them get away with it. Maybe we shouldn't.

i would just tell him its over and done and has not been to fun and then i would take the children and go it seems like he wants to end things but whats you to do it because hes a p*ssy , sure kids can make you made but you don't treat them like a piece of garbage. think of your children they don't need to be around someone who is going to treat them like that even if he is there father.

Well men are by nature not very good with kids but I am yet to come across a father who’s abusing his own children all the time. There are men who do it in drunken state, some even beat the kids for no apparent reason but if this dad is abusing the kids all the time and calling them names then obviously he is using the kids as an excuse to convey something more sinister…like other before me, I too think he wants a divorce but wants you to bring up the issue first so that he stays clean. Don’t you have relatives or close friends who might talk to you both or maybe you can try counseling.

Does he just complain about things or does he get grumpy and abusive with the kids? If he gets abusive, next time he says he wants out, I'd reply "that's emotional blackmail and if you're serious, there's the door."

I think he wants out too. I don't think he is capable of handling the family life and he is aware of that. I feel bad for you but it seems that you are not getting help from him. And if all you are getting is stress then I don't know if it's worth staying with him. If everything else is fine, and the only thing he can not cope with is being alone with the kids then maybe you should have him pay a babysitter while you are out. I don't want to tell you that you should divorce the guy just because he can't be alone with the kids. My husband freaks out as well when he is alone with my daughter, but he is a great dad and a great husband. He just doesn't think he is capable of doing a good job while I'm out. So I don't know. You should evaluate your relationship, and not base it only on this single situation. Some people just aren't good with kids.

I am a dad of two kids and I love my boys very much. I am a teacher of university, so that I have much spare time sharing with my boys. I play with them and teach these one-year-old twins to say. I make them meal when they are hungry, and change their diapers. Love from parents is very important to kids.

You should tell him okay on the divorce, but HE is getting the kids! I don't know why the man is being such a pain in the rear here, kids are trying but they aren''t that bad. I think he is trying, somehow, to shift their bad behavior onto you. The next time he texts and says he is out of there if you aren't home in five minutes, stay gone longer. If he leaves, the onus is on him. He's just being a complete jacka$$

my husband cope with my childrens.

Hello Jugsjugs, I have to agree with the other mylotters that have said they think you should call him bluff on getting a divorce. You don't need a man like what who doesn't really want to be in it with you and the kids. Also the children do not need to hear or see all of his rantings and ravings, fights and fits. Raising a family is hard enough. If one person don't want to be there then that is the person that should leave. Wishing you all the best, please stay safe and consider the safty of the children before you make any rash decisions. I will be praying 4u!

I can't believe that the father and man of the house can't control his own kids. You don't say how many kids you have but for your husband to be sending you text with those comments tells me he is quite inmature. Plus to allow the kids to wreck things in the house is crazy. You can't even enjoy a night out with out all this drama. I would tell the kids if they are not good then there will be repercussions such as no computer or tv for a week or more, No hanging out with friends, etc. You and your husband have to stick to the punishments and things will change when they see what happens when they don't do the right thing. As for your husband he needs to stop sending you a text unless its an emergency. He needs to learn to handle the kids himself. Good luck to all of you and I hope the next time you go out that you don't get a text.