why do people try to look good/attract others even after their marriage???

Why shouldn't someone maintain themselves? Thats almost like saying that a people should change every aspect of themselves just because they got married. Some people continue doing it because of their employment situation or social status. Some people were simply raised that way. Others still do it to please others. If they do it to attract others, does it matter really, if there's no cheating going down? LOL

Contrary to what some people believe, people try to look good for themselves. It is not always about a mating dance or attracting others or anything like that. Of course things change a little if you have children - there are certain examples you want to set for teens (MOM doesn't need to be showing off thongs or wearing see thru white tshirts...) and also you don't want to be the mom at preschool showing up in a bikini top with all your tattoos showing... Anyway, I'd be looking more at the motivation, not looking around at people who look good and assuming things. I try to look good, take care of myself etc. I'm married, I have kids. If there's one thing I hate, it's people who just let themselves go totally, who think 'hmph, I'm married, it doesn't matter anymore'. Of course it matters! There is never a reason someone should just gain 50 lbs, start wearing 'mom jeans', not shower daily, not still shave, get cute haircuts, buy cute clothes, etc. Gosh, what are you teaching your kids, that it's okay to be frumpy and not honor your spouse by trying to look good for them? LOL! I feel better when I look good, so anybody who thinks I shouldn't, go back under your rock. There are ENOUGH people with rotten self esteem and no self confidence. I am not one of them and I won't be. You don't have to like my opinion, just respect it.

Hi there! You see to look good and attractive is a very common feeling in all of us, irrespective of the fact whether we are married or unmarried. You see looking good and smart per se cannot be said as a bad gesture, on the other hand, if one remains untidy and shabby, it can termed as a bad thing. If a married man/woman wants to be dressed in a smarter way and wants to draw others' attention towards him/her, in your view, what is wrong in it?

In my opinion, you are wrong. I have seen people who do their best to look good for their potential partners and then once married, they just stop trying. They let their looks go and don't care anymore. It's no wonder that their spouse gets attracted to others that actually do care about themselves. If you don't care enough about yourself to take care of yourself then you have to wonder what capacity you have to care for anyone else. Of course, the personality matters and it is important to keep up on your spirit as well. I always took care to keep my hair nice and dress decent after I got married. It had nothing to do at all with attracting others. I know that many of us gain weight after having kids and we age...all that. Those are natural changes. Still, we should not just let ourselves go simply because we are married.

well my wife tells me she want to look good for me. and well me i tell her i dont worry about looking good because i have her already. but will dress nice if we're going out somewhere or on hoildays. my dad now tell me i should wear slacks all the time to show off. and i tell him slacks isnt for me, and i dont need to show off by wearing slacks but i like to show off with my sence of humor instead lol

Well I believe its just a habit or just being groomed is not a bad thing.It just depends on the individual,some think like you.Some love to look young and some like to keep them self fit and handsome.Just imagine a lady who is around 30-35,looking shabby and her face with some dirt and eye brows not properly shaped.And her body is out of shape,you will just say with your friends,look at her how ugly she is! If the same lady is well dressed and looking awesome ,then our eyes will never look other gals other than that lady... If others are looking good then they will make an impression on us and so we will try to look good...In my opinion looking good is not at all related with age and marriage.If people stop looking nice after marriage,then we wouldn't have got David Beckham and all...

maybe because that they still want to prove to themselves that they are still attractive even in an old age. Or they just feel good knowing that in an advanced age tney still attract opposite gender.

In my opinion you are wrong. I am 52 years old and I always try to look my best even when I was married. I like to wear make up and dress up because it makes me feel good, not to attract attention from a man. I work cleaning houses and so I don't dress very nice when I am working. But as soon as I get home from work I take a shower and get dressed in something nice and put on some make up, even if I am not going anywhere or no one is coming over. I like to look good for me. It makes me feel good.

hi san-682 well you are still young so you are a bit biased but the real truth is most married women try 'to look as pretty as they can so that their husbands' will be happy with them. there is nothing wrong with wanting to look our best, as if we went around all scroungy and with unkempt hair,we would become so depressed and make everyone in our family depressed too. it is healthy to care how you look to the public and more so to your hubby and loved ones.

as per me people try to look good for their partner or try to attract him or her becaus if they wont look good they may try to go others partners you can say that may be due to inferiority of this but some of people have mend their lifestyle in such a way always

I don't see any wrong with dressing up after marriage. Look at the positive side. It's for your spouse and your own good too. Just because you're married, doesn't mean you have to be sloppy. Your partner might start ogling others soon. Plus, dressing up can make your partner feel proud and you will feel good too.

hi there, I think people still try to look good and attractive will do many good in their life, they might do it for their spouse, people would rather to have their spouse look good. They also might do it for their work and social life, looking look and attractive would have a lot advantage.

I think some people do this in an attempt to keep their partners attention. Also maybe some of them want to attract others in a display that they can have someone else but are staying with their partner. I might be wrong though.

Hi! I think there's nothing wrong with looking attractive even after marriage, depending on your motive. If you're trying to look attractive for your husband then that's definitely okay. But if you're trying to look attractive to someone else then that's definitely a different story ^_^ It's even advisable to look good for your husband all the time. But not to the point that you're actually showing off your chest or too much skin, I'm sure the husband won't be too happy about it. lol. My boyfriend even told me to look good and attractive still even after our marriage because he doesn't want me to look like an old hag lol. ^_^ So for me, there's really nothing wrong with looking good after marriage as long as you're not cheating or planning of attracting anyone else.

I've never spent a lot of money to look good...what you see is what you get but I do like to look nice...for myself. When going out, it was a special occasion and I would like to look good for my partner to so he would be proud of me and to make the occasion more special. I am now on my own and I still like to dress nicely when I go out for my own dignity and self esteem. I'm not looking to meet anyone but I want to look attractive and happy for ME

Hopefully people who want to look good are doing it for themselves and not to attract others or for anyone else. Hopefully they are doing it because it makes them feel good to look good. I am sure some so it for the very reason you are suggesting (which is sad), but hopefully, it is because they just like to look good!!

A married person who dresses well and goes to beauty saloons may be dressing to please her spouse. Or she may just be trying to rekindle the spark in her spouse's eye. Or she may be of the generation that believed that one should always look their best, especially when meeting the public. I think we should, to a certain degree, return to that time. Frequently, I will be cleaning house or working in the yard when I discover that I need something. Usually I will just jump in the car and run to our local grocery or to Walmart. All the time, I'm hoping that I don't meet anyone who recognizes me. Even our local military base has gone casual. A few years ago, no one would be allowed to enter the commissary or PX in shorts or barefoot. Now, it seems, almost anything goes.

friend, i can say you're definitely wring there. absolutely. some beautify themselves even after marriage because that's what they're used to. they don't try at all to beautify themselves actually. other people only see it as that. it's more of still being groomed. some people buy good clothes because they need to and it just happens to look like they're attracting others because with clothes because they have taste coupled with a good physique. they go to the salons because they need to have a haircut and the salon happens to be good in making their clients look good. an honest to goodness act turns out bad depending on the interpretation of the one looking at it or giving meaning to it. peace .

natural for a man wanted in value and recoqnized environmental and her partner one shouldbe interesting if not she would be staying away or expelled

Hi san_683 Well, I think it's okay. There are some reasons. Everybody wanna look attractive and me personally want it too. Maybe it has already a habit, to wear good clothes and body and hair treatment. I don't see anything wrong with that. Furthermore, dI think it's wrong if after married we don't need to care of our body and appearance anymore. it's still important in work life and to gain new friends. You know, first impression still important. Or maybe they do it so their partner not lose interest of he/she. It's wrong if we ignore our appearance only because of "already married" reason. Good, tidy and proper appearance still needed in work place, etc. Of course, inner beauty is important too. The case is different in woman or man who already married still wear too show off clothes like teenagers, etc. In that case, I agree with you. It's not suitable for them anymore.