our friendship seems to be changing
By bluehibiscus
@bluehibiscus (702)
United States
August 25, 2009 8:56am CST
So I have a friend on facebook who is actually the older brother of a friend from high school. He's always been nice, he lets me practice my Hindi and we talk a lot but now things seem different.
I told him how my bf said he may not be able to marry me and everything changed. Obviously he took my side saying his parents were being foolish, that I was a wonderful girl and Alok is lucky to have me.
Things that have changed are he is writing me much more often, chatting with me/texting me more often, telling me how pretty he thinks I am, showing me phrases of my language he has learned. I'm kind of confused I mean he was so supportive of Alok and I and he seemed to feel really bad for me when I told him how things were going...what's the deal?
4 responses
@madugulagopi (1093)
• India
26 Aug 09
As far as You are saying its definite that the person who is teaching you wants to replace alok.don't think Iam being mean and he is being supportive of u and ur bf he definitely intends to be ur bf.If he really wants comfort you there is no need of saying that you are pretty and stuff like that. And if I am not wrong after some days he would definitely start blaming Alok for being so foolish and leaving you...
Iam also from India and i know how guys are here about gf.
Anyway its your life.
And don't think Iam being rude.I told my opinion on what you have told here...
Happy mylotting
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@bluehibiscus (702)
• United States
28 Aug 09
I told him to go away and now I am looking for a girl to help me learn Hindi.
@madugulagopi (1093)
• India
28 Aug 09
Thats a very decision you have taken and i will tell you a great site where you will be able to learn hindi. The site name is www.livemocha.com
Try that site its a very good site for learning foreign languages and there are many users from different countries learning different languages.You will find it very useful..
@mrinankpunj (100)
• India
25 Aug 09
I sunno want to say that but it is true he is trying to comfort you and trying to replace alok. well it seems that boy who is helping is also from India. He want himself to replace as your bf. Dont feel bad abt what i am speaking bcoz i am also frm india and i know that how many fights you have to fight for just a girl as gf.
Donnt mean me bad. I am just telling truth
@zeethegr8 (785)
• India
26 Aug 09
Well not just Indians but all humans have the tendency to comfort one another in times of distress. I would say you continue to have a friendly relationship till the time you completely know him; from your side AND from his side.
Know him inside out before falling for him. Check his friends out, how they talk to him, what they feel about him etc.
The situation you are in is a very vulnerable one. In such times we usually do not think but desperately search for a shoulder to lean onto, a hand to help us get up again on our feet. You should know whose help are you taking and is there any returns involved in such a help.
The best help is the one given by a stranger. A person who is a stranger not before he/she helped you but after he/she helped you.
If you understand what I mean. Helping someone involves no returns, love and friendship are unconditional.
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
26 Aug 09
I think he is trying to land you, taking advantage of the spot you are in right now. He has taken a break up as a done deal and working to get into your life. The sneaky way all of this is being done is an alarm bell, so beware of tolerating all the extra and new found considerateness.
