Live-in vs Marriage

I truly feel sorry for you, but don't worry, time has a great power of healing & making things right, So everything will be alright soon. According to me You should be free enough to express yourself & in-case you are not, then you should try to do what you feel good & make yourself happy. Even friends can help a lot. This is why many prefer Live-in initially.

Oh my goodness, I hope that things get better for yourself soon. I have seen many marriages not work because of this type of issues. I know that my hubby has changed a little after we got married but I stay with him because he makes me feel wanted and does not treat me like your's do you. I will say that I do feel what you are going through because before I got married to my hubby I was in an almost 3 year relationship where the guy treated me like dirt and abused me bad which I am glad that has not happend to you yet, this guy also had me be someone he liked and I didn't. He would make me watch what I eated because he wanted a skiny girl that could dress sexy and he even belittled me saying that I would not make it on my own or find someone that would want me. Well I have to say that I am glad that I got out of the relationship before he went over the edge. The only good thing I got out of that relationship was my 2 children and courage to never allow myself be put through that ever again. I have to say it takes time to heal but it also helps us love ourself more. May god bless you, and hang in there. Happy Mylotting

People staying in villages & small towns can never digest the concept of Live-in relations. However the scenario changes when you move to a city life wherein People hardly cares who is doing what. Life is totally different in a city. Im Speaking about the culture in India alright, since you are from India. When you stay in a city,you will try to be more practical towards life rather than Orthodox views. So one will always look for the safer side & opt in for Live-in mostly without parents knowledge if people are still young. Any say?

I know what you are saying here, I know that there has been couples that gotten married about a hour after metting and some of thoes couples got divorced right away because by the time they got find their trueselves and get to know each other they realized that they were not made for eachother. Now I have to say that my hubby and I was married after being together for 3 months. But then again we were high school sweethearts that split up because we were young back then. We have been happily married for 4 years on the 19th of September. So I do agree that there needs to be some knowing eachother and chemistry to make a marriage a happy marriage. I think this was a great topic you made because we all have different beliefs. I am surprised that you have not gotten more responses yet. Happy Mylotting

YA Seppy, even i too agree with the fact that once you have children, its definitely better to get married. I was just thinking about a stage when you really don't know much about your partner. Do we Risk Marriage or rather prefer a Live-in relation & if it works out to be going well, then why not, marriage is better than the Best.

Even though both are almost the same, it is not that easy to walk out of marriage due to legal complications Right?

Taz, you are so right with the walking out part. To me it is harder to walk out of a marriage then it is a live-in relationship. Happy Mylotting

I understand both point of view; however you should not enter into a marraige thinking it is going to fail. You should have a positive attitude. It is not going to be easy. You will have your ups and down. The most important thing you put a higher power incharge of the marraige to make it work. When it comes down to it if you don't trust the person you are going to marry you should get a prenump.