Keeping my marriage touchy feely

United States
August 25, 2009 2:38pm CST
How do you keep the touchy feely in a marriage? Is it possible for that to not go away? For both husband and wife to want to hug and kiss and hold eachother often. I understand every now and then bad moods happen but I mean in general it seems the touchy feely feeling dwindles.
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stephwrites
@stephwrites (275)
• United States
25 Aug 09
gina, my husband and I have made it a habit to hug and kiss each other every time we separate, if he leaves or I do. and before we go to bed too. I think that it is important to touch each other all the time and not go a day without it. that's how most marriages fizzle out, they fall out of love because there's no reason to stay in love. It doesn't have to be s.e.x everyday. just a touch now and then and a kiss goodnight. the touchy part doesn't have to dwindle, only if you let it.
ilyzium
@ilyzium (1197)
• Canada
27 Aug 09
Hello, Well we always said that when we got married that we didn't want to have a typical marriage where things often get stagnant after marriage and kids. So, we said we'd make an effort to keep things exciting for us. Every so often we go away for a romantic weekend. Husband is the ultimate romantic so he always packs candles, massage lotion, photo of me, champagne, strawberries, chocolates. Seriously he really does! He always says that he feels like the woman in our relationship because he's the more romantic one, and I'm more like a guy. lol We always say I love you, first thing in the morning and when we go to bed. We usually hold hands when we're walking somewhere or when we drive. I agree with you stephwrites where you said that "the touchy part doesn't have to dwindle, only if you let it". That's sooo true! Every so often I'm surprised with a big beautiful bouquet of flowers. We're always touching each other: giving each other back massages, playing with each others hair, just anything so you stay connected to your partner. Also I think it helps if you're also caring & passionate in the bedroom too. ;) Just thought I'd add that in.