sons gf is moving out. so why ami so miserable?

i think the last time anything was normal in my life was when hubby was alive just before he got sick

not so sure about the more than we can handle thing. but i guess we dont have a choice. he does what he wants.

well its better now. peaceful even when i have "pile on" as you say. when its over theres still stuff to worry over. guess im just a cronic worrier or its because i got 5 grown kids

you mean why should i think about them? well, im trying to get Agra out of my mind for sure/

thanks. i just went to costco and got a great set of dishes,pans, and utensils at a great price. i also am not sure what i still have in storage. we have to go get it out. thats one more bill i'll no longer have. but some odds and ends should be there i think

oh wow.how very sweet of you. and sorry im so late to wish you and your lovely wife happy valentines and congrats to your new baby. hope your wife likes your mother and they get along well.

It is never good to just stay with someone because of possessions..they can always be rebought or helped in getting more..only thing I would want would be pictures,trinkets,and a few clothes..if I ever had to move.

Sorry to hear that..But that is a crock how they could do that to her...I don't think that she should have been separated from her kids just because she walked out of a troublesome relationship.

yes thats true. we dont have much family here but we both think its worth a little inconvenience for the peace. my daughter in florida that i've worried about, the one thats ex owes me, walked out with just her clothes and a few things, even left furniture, dishes, all that and that a$$ changed the locks and hasnt let her come get anything. she didnt have a lawyer on her court date, no family there either to help (court day was my birthday) so, she told me he had a lawyer and got the kids and shes supposed to pay 300 a month child support which she dont have! thats a lot of my stress to.

im hoping so. son says its my house to decorate now to, but hes gotten the high maitenance bug from her and only likes the expensive things which is running him into dept and guess what? if hes in debt, im in debt yesterday i bought some dishes i liked. (had 3 sets before i moved) uuuuggghhh!

well im coming back every now and then to get some answers here to my friends that have been kind enough to respond here. thanks, hon

thank you. you are so much fun girl. yes i should be dancing,huh? with her leaving.

As much grief & trouble she has given you u should be dancing in the streets. lol. Hope she doesn't change her mind..

I KNOW!! isnt it just silly of me? yes, i feel like the happy dance when i think of how much less stress there will be here. especially for son. Well, the last time she was upset at me because i was asking my son why she didnt put in on her 3rd of the electric bill. she ran into the room and started saying the deal was since she dont get as much money as me on disability. she would cook and clean to cover her part. shes NOT disabled. dont know how she got it. she puts my sons clothes in the washer, then takes off to her sons to watch his kids and clean their house and asks me(more like tells me) to take them out, put in the dryer, fold, hang, and put them away. son tells me theirs nothing going on in the bedroom either any more. she hasnt vacuumed sometimes for 3 weeks at a time. she cooks and expects it to last 3 days. mostly when shes here she watches tv and complains. she screamed at me this day and said i was a spoiled bit.h, so son jumped up and told her to get out of his house and no one could talk to his mother that way. shes been here for a while since she had no place to go she said, but now her sons helping her get a place close by so she can watch their kids.

OMG! What is wrong with my brain? The most important thing! Happy Birthday Bunny! I am so sorry that you had all this to deal with! But, maybe you can celebrate a belated birthday soon as she is gone! Love and Hugs, Opal

oh no, i never say that any more. i never say it couldnt get any worse because in the past when i said that,..IT GOT WORSE

hey, i just read it. thanks for that. you got me looking up in my Bible again

i think thats what happened with my son he said today he misses her but not her mouth always complaining. i asked her a few times why she dont get one her own age and she said she dont like old men and they dont her i figure its cause they are smart and experienced enough to know better

so true. its already better. except she just called crying to my son about nobody cares. hes feeling kind of bad over it but like he said if she tried as hard as me she'd still be here. like i told him, she has who i have...her kids! so, shes no worse off. its just that none of hers wants her living with them. so whats that tell us? so yes, last night was first night of her gone and i slept like a baby

Better start feeding your son a lot of spinach and other foods high in iron. They will fortify him and give strength against her tears. Why doesn't she just find some one her own age? Surely there must be single gentlemen looking for a woman? By the time they find out what a pain she is, she'd already be in....lol

and so he was and we sure enjoyed his music as everyone seems to have. yes, its much better these days. she visits on weekends still but my son is slowly trying to move on and get her to do so also. shes much nicer when shes here as i think she wants him to say she should move back but he likes the freedom of not being nagged at and doing what he wants in his own home so i dont think he will fall for it again.

yep. shes already got an apartment across town the past weekend. son misses her some but he figures im not going to be here much longer (alive that is, he worries about my health) and she called me names a couple times and he told her just leave. still talks with her and plans to visit but its been pretty calm here without her

we did celebrate anyway even tho i was worrying over my daughter and thinking of how to get that money her ex owes me. it was my son heres birthday the next day i had him one day after i turned 17yrs.

you are right. money stress can just make other problems seem even worse.

yes and i hope things will soon get better for you dear friend.