being an outcast
By sushisarah
@sushisarah (186)
Indonesia
August 25, 2009 5:33pm CST
I had a fight with my neighbors where ended with berating each other. Until now they don't forgive me. And they connected to each other to terrorize me, shouted in front of my house whenever they passed outside told me to move out to other environment. What should i do? They're even threatening me, talking loud so that i know they don't like anything about me. They are staining my self-confidence by bringing me down mentally. They feel they own me. I'm married now and has a child. Come back to this place make me remember my bad past. I am here until i got a new servant, it's already 6 months. I want to go back to my husband, but there's no servant because of political reason here in Indonesia. Without servant i can't handle all the household matter while maintain my child. What should i do? Some of them are bullies. Should i tell my husband, or cop? What should i say to him, or to the cop? Can i sue them?
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
5 Sep 09
I am sorry to hear that you are having problems with your neighbors. It sounds like you tried to make things right with them, and they do not want to accept your apology. You can't change how they feel about things, but you do not have to let them make you feel bad about past mistakes. Hold your head up high and remember that whatever it was is in your past, and you have a bright future ahead of you with your husband and child.
@sushisarah (186)
• Indonesia
5 Sep 09
What is important to me now is my new family. Especially the little one, i have to maintain her with all i have got. My husband is also loving me and give me total care. So there is no problem to me. I can still enjoy life without go back to the past. I just don't know why people nowadays are so evil. Even in the time of Jesus they were already like that. That's why Jesus said, "This evil generation will be passed, the new world will come." To me, it is better to mind my own business, than to gossip the others, because it is a waste of time. By correct ourselves, we can more focus to have a qualified life. Like the Bible said, "These days are evil, use your days as good as you can." Today will not come back again. So, do the best effort for today which you think will give a best effect to your future. What do you think? Am i right?
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
6 Sep 09
Yes, I agree with you. Enjoy life with your husband and little one by focusing all your love and attention on them as they focus their love and attention on you. Do your best today by making the most of this very moment, and it will have the best effect on your future by making it bright and happy.
People that have to gossip and bring up negative things in other people's pasts are not happy with themselves. They will try to bring you down and make you as miserable as they are, but you can't let them. Don't join in the gossip. Instead, keep doing what you are doing - minding your own business and focusing on the important things in life, which are God, your husband, and your little one.
By the way, thank you very much for the best response mark! :-)
@sushisarah (186)
• Indonesia
6 Sep 09
Actually they can be nice to themselves if they are seeking for forgiveness. I don't mean me to forgive them, but they tried to forgive themselves and make a peace with themselves. I know they are not happy, but life goes on. I don't say anything even anything to them, but in my heart i feel pity for them. I know they less entertainment. But making other people as entertainment is not the solution to make ourselves to be gladful.
The people i talked about to you are the people who got no money to go anywhere for a diversion on Sunday, they kept on busy and busy till don't know time. They are not happy with themselves, so they need a black goat to be blamed for what they had in their lives.
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@sk_8873 (83)
• India
28 Aug 09
hi sushisarah
dont worry first cool your mind for that pl do the following steps.
1.analyze the main incident what all are causes like that.....
2.if you found guilty means then pl repentance for it truly.
3. i came to know from your statement you already seek forgiveness. so dont worry and another thing is nobody can bring our self-confidence down except us. God bless you.....Have a nice day... Cheers..
@sushisarah (186)
• Indonesia
29 Aug 09
I've done all of your suggestion. I did apologized, but it made worse. I don't know, i shouldn't make this problem big. This is only because i come back this this environment again and it slashed a big cut again in my heart, added by people haven't forgotten it. It made me real sad. Why do they like to lift up someone else's past mistake? While i have a husband now, and a child. Meant, they have no right to do that to me. But i can't say it in front of them, cause i believe in God. That God will do, God will punish. But this is going to far.
Thanks, i meant really really thanks for this reply. God bless you too...
