My sister is getting into my nerves!

Philippines
August 26, 2009 1:09am CST
My sister is causing me a lot of emotional stress these days. Months ago, a real property belonging to my father was sold at good price. She pleaded to my father to give her a big amount to settle her loans. As a very loving man, my father gave her 1/3 of the sales proceeds while my brother and I got only 1/9 of it. I never complained; I tried to understand because she might be sued in court. I thought she will change. She didn't! She started getting loans again for a business she had been planning. The business has not started, and guess what - the money she loaned is all gone! These days, she's getting goods on credit, but when they fall due, she tells me to pay. My God! This is too much, and it's causing me so much emotional stress. Why emotional stress? They are pent-up feelings...I have so much anger inside, but then I can't shout at her, slap her, nor may be throw a glass of wine on her face. I'm dying to do these things, but I can't get myself to do it out of respect to her. She's older than I am, 20 years my senior. I hope, one day, she will change, stop her extravagance, stop doing charity which is beyond her means (just to get honor), or may be I could already throw that glass of wine at her. What a stressor!
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@webearn99 (1742)
• India
26 Aug 09
Please stop being emotional about this issue. The harder you take it, more bothersome it gets. You will be so occupied by it that you will have no time for yourself and your concerns. So calm down. At some point of time you have to assert your self and tell your sister "Enough is enough" She cannot expect to be rescued every time she is in trouble because of her actions. It may come as a shock to her and she may rant at you as well. Try not to budge. You are in fact doing her good. She has to be taken away from the Utopian dream to save her from further trouble. Do it as calmly as possible. Protect yourself. There can be parental pressure, resist that. Ultimately as in Asian culture, you will have to go with the tide and give in to what the family says. You can at least try to turn it.
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
Thanks for the advice. I feel like I have this excess baggage on my chest. Just have to let go...maybe.