Dead relationships

no cheating would not be ok, even if the relationship is gone but your still together, unless you both decided to have an open relationship and would seperate after the kids finished school. i'm craving freedom at the moment and have been since the start of the yr, but i'm trying to hold out and wait for the right time to get rid of my partner. so it may be easier on things and hopefully that will be close. i've seen what affairs do, and my ex-sister inlaw used it the end her relationship, it also ended the one invovled, 6 kids in total. now they all live up the other end of the country, in different areas. i'm already accussed of having an affair with my work mate (we spend 3hrs a day together working) and also my bros girlfriend (cause we've spent a fair bit of time together) it's a laugh actually. what does that say about my partner?

Having a children is not an excuse to save the marriage. If both party have no love left why not talk, listen and sort things out. cheating is not an excuse or escape of sinking marriage. better tell honestly to your partner that things are no longer working for both of you before commiting another mistake and that is having an affair.

It depends on the person and their needs! I've been in that type of relationship before. I took it for as long as I could, but my needs got the best of me! I had to reevaluate my situation, and decided it was in MY best interest to move on! (twice) LOL! tdemex

I wouldnt until I am truly sure that the relationship is out. And if it is, then I wouldnt be in it for any reason like divorce papers would be filed and such things. I dont think any relationship is permanently on high or permanently on low. There are phases when u r deeply connected, and then others when other things take precedence and the love does seem to have gone. Contrast just seems too much at times. It is a question of waiting patiently for that low phase to pass and love to return. Of course, love does not always return. But if it does, then there would be guilt and such things, wouldnt they? No. Definitely not. The very fact u r calling it cheating implies somewhere the connection is still alive. Otherwise such issues would have been decided long ago - even if the person is as u mentioned "just staying together for children or something".

This is a very tough question and in the end I guess it really all boils down to morals. In any relationship there are problems and in one that you REALLY love the other then there is no question on cheating. The morals come in on the relationship you described. The one where the love is gone. My advice to my friend would be to figure out if there is any love left at all, if it is just hiding and needs rekindling or if it is just plain gone. When that question is answered as there is NO love left and your only together for the kids then that's a problem all by itself. Kids are not stupid, they know if you are happy or not and they can see the way you feel about the other person. After a while you can't hide resentment. In the end staying together for the kids could be worse for the kids then just leaving and keeping things civil. If the case is this then there should be no cheating at all because if there really is NO love there then there is NO reason to stay and the relationship should end so you can be free to find someone you love and can be with. I hope this helps, it is a very complicated question, but at the same time a question that should be carefully considered before any advice is to be given. Your advice can make or break someone elses relationship if they chose to listen to you. Good luck.

It's really hard to be in that kind of situation but for me, living with someone you don't love is not right though it's for your children's sake. You can still perform your duty as a parent even your not living with them as long as you make them feel you love them. About that cheating, it's ok if while your doing it you won't be hurting anyone but in your case, aren't you afraid that your children will found out about your affairs? Don't you think they would like it? before you get in to something, it is important that you must know the consequence of your actions.