Let them plan their own wedding!

I can somewhat relate to what your friends are going through. My fiance and I are getting married in October and my fiance's mother is helping us out. She has come up with ideas that my fiance and I don't like and on top of that, they're ideas about things that we already talked about. For example, for music, we were just thinking about downloading music onto my ipod and just using my iband. That's what we planned to do. However, his mother was saying how we could hire musicians or something like that. We had to keep reminding her that that's not what we wanted. Now this is just one example, but it's not the only time that we had to remind of things that we had already told her many, many times before.

I have to agree with you, their parents need to butt out and let them plan their own wedding. One thing I did when my kids got married: I told them how much I could afford to pitch in, their Dad told them how much he could afford to pitch in too, and they could plan from there. Every person has their own idea of how their special day should go, and they should plan it in their own affordable terms (ie: not go into debt over it.) Weddings are stressful enough without the parents taking it over completely and making it their ideal instead of their kids ideals.

YES its always better to organize the wedding by themselves.It involves proper understanding of the needs of an wedding.Their can be arrangements done with their own taste and style for the wedding day to be charming for the two who are the main guest of the show 'the bride and the groom'.Yes there can be advices given for the arrangements too by others but not very often.