How hard is it for you to give your honest opinion to someone without
By hotsummer
@hotsummer (13837)
Philippines
August 26, 2009 12:51pm CST
hurting the relationship with this person ? i have this one person that let us say in my workplace. The person is kind of good person too. BUt is in the habit of talking to himself but making sure that you will hear it when there is something he does not like or saw things that he does not like. it is not something about him per se. it is just more something about things about ourselves that he should not be of concerned about or should meddle about. cause it will not affect his work nor affect any of his personal life a bit. SO i just wonder why some people makes a big deal about other people. it just happen one other co worker just got pissed of with this person because of his character. because being a frank person said what he noticed about this bad habit of this person. and so this person who talked by himself just stay away from this frank person or honest person that he is. i am not just honest or frank enough. cause i don't want to put a strain on the relationship only just because it can affect my work or our workplace and i don't to pick up a fight with this person cause i don't want to be blamed if this person leaves cause i know that i can talked backed and say things that can make this person leave. but of course i just don't want makes things or situations ugly. i just try to ignore this annoying person.
4 responses
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
27 Aug 09
I have a co-worker who follows me around because he doesn't get along with some of the other people we work with. he will follow me into the office to talk and outside to talk and other things like that. I flat out told him it was creepy and I didn't like it and sure it messed up the friendship but it was something that needed to be said. Sometimes you need to be blunt and honest and sorry to say hurt someone's feeling if they are doing something that is effecting you. If you can't say anything to him then don't say anything and ignore his actions and things he says unless it becomes too much, then you should say something to him.
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@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
i have not been frank that often. though i think it is one thing that we should do when people are just not getting it. when they are already disturbing our lives and trying to intrude into our personal lives that we should not mind what they are going to feel.
@Archie0 (5652)
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26 Aug 09
Well it is not that hard to give your honest suggestions but it is not at all easy too, because i have to keep in my mind that the person before me wont get hurt, because once if someone is hurt by your harsh words they might not take you that close there after, and relationships crashes a bit too.But i tell them in a polite way if i can otherwise at the end i just endup by lying that the person is looking good if he/she aint really because i cant hurt them.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
i find it difficult to say things without hurting the person. cause i am not a person who can say good words or make those hurtful correcttions seems very acceptable to the ear. so i just avoid it.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I give my opinion on something that I feel strongly about however, I don't expect the person to heed it. But most often I'll keep my opinions to myself unless I'm asked. Now if I'm asked and I know it's not going to be one that they want to hear, I'll ask them if they really want to hear it because it may be something that they don't want to hear but it's my opinion. Now if someone were talking about me behind my back but I heard it, I'd have to say something to this person to put them in their place right here and right now.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
i am not as open or honest and frank as you are. i am trying to be that also. cause i think that people will keep on saying things behind our back not unless we confront them and so that they will not any more do that.
@cocoprincess31 (39)
• United States
26 Aug 09
Wow what a topic! Yes it is very hard to give someone your honest opinion. Now a days people are very sensative as to what is said about them. Its clear that the individual you are refering to is not very stable. I believe that you should just keep a distance from this person if you are able to. Speak only when necessary. Its clear that this is causing you some distress. I believe that the best thing for you to do is focus on your job, and not that persons issues. I'm not sure about your seating at your workplace but you can always asked to be moved, or something to that effect. I hope this helps.
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@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
i can't tell if the person has any problem with in himself. but i think it is just more like an attitude problem. i think there are some people who has this attitude. yeah i just stay away when this person will have tendency to show this attitude. but i can't totally avoid this person, i just discussion with this person. i can't change place or position. it is just not possible.
