People cursing in public...around children

I think some people are really insensitive and that is dependent on how they are brought up, so it is important for parents to properly guide their kids and the is the right thing to do like the one you are doing, to make them realize that respect is a very important value and words are only spoken if it is of any importance.

I typically walk away when there is a group of people that are speaking in a way that is inappropriate for my children to hear. My daughter is older now and knows the words that she is not supposed to use. She will even point out to me that people are using bad words. But, however, she knows better than to repeat these kinds of words. My son, on the other hand is only two years old and will repeat nearly everything that he hears. This is the reason that it is so important for me to walk away from a group of people that are using inappropriate language. To me, I think it is rude to point out to others that they shouldn't be using the language that they are using when they are around my kids. It makes much more sense to me to remove myself from the situation if I can.

Sometimes it's unavoidable especially when you're taking kids out to public places. It's difficult to stop or control outsiders from using foul language. I've seen and heard worse. I've overheard a man using four-lettered words on an older woman (mother or mother-in-law, I guess) in front of his 9-10 years old son. What kind of education is that? And later he scolded his son for using bad language!

I think I tend to just walk away in that kind of situation! It is horrible and vulgar and everything but I don't like the idea of creating a scene with these people, they may turn out to be trouble if I say anything, that's my main fear. Granted, there are a lot of people that have no manners and they swear, curse and swear some more whilst in the street and quite loudly too! Andrew

I really hate people who are cursing and speaking those foul words in front of many people and most especially children. Children are very innocent and they always look up to their parents or those odler than them. They always imitate what older poeple do or say. But to answer your question, if I will speak up? Definitely! I will speak up especially if the person who is doing it is someone I know or that is close to me. I would even explain to them what would be the effect of the action done to the children. But if not, I will just keep on staring to that person (just like what you did at the restaurant). In this way, they would also know that what they are doing is not healthy.

This seams to be the "usual" all of a sudden. I have noticed that it has become so expected that there will be SOMEONE swearing anywhere and everywhere I go with my kids. I have 3 kids, seven, five and one are there ages. My seven year old knows that those are "bad" words and says god doesn't like it when we swear and neither do our parents. I think though that it depends on the people who are swearing whether or not you say anything. I wouldn't ask some big huge man who is plain scary looking to stop cursing if I am all alone with the kids, but a group of teenagers I would deffinantly. I know that sounds wierd but you never know about people anymore and what they could or couldn't do. I think really the best thing to do is just explain that it is not ok to swear and people should not do it. Sometimes they do but it doesn't make it right. Good luck out there, I know its hard raising kids in this day and age!

I hate it when people are so insensitive around kids. It depends on where I am whether I'll say something or not. I'd definitely give them the 'look' though lol. Kids pick up on those words so fast! I always remark to the kids how rude it is to be talking that way. Sometimes it's good to use it to open up a discussion with a child. When my grandson asked what (*#/#** meant, I explained that it's not acceptable language, whether in our home or out in public, and that if he said it at school he'd probably have to go to the principal's office for a reprimand. Hehehe, never heard him say it after that. If I'm around people I kind of know, I'll remind them that children are around, and that usually stops it. It's out in public with people you don't know where the problem is. It could start an argument or something, and that could cause a whole different type of bad scene.

I'm generally pretty good at not saying too many bad things around kids but I hate to tell you if you gave me a 'look' I'd ignore you and probably tell you to mind your own business. I think it's even ruder when people butt in and give people they don't know an attitude. Seriously grow up. I know she's your kid and all but you don't need to make a big deal about it. Your kids will eventually grow up and say bad things. It's going to happen eventually and you can't shield your kids from everything. If you told me off in public I'd probably just talk louder and say worse things.

I think that some people really do not think about how their action affect others in public places. Whether or not a person sees a problem with bad language, they should be respectful of other people's values and not speak rudely around children. Children will have plenty of opportunities to hear this garbage, so there is no reason to introduce them to it early.

I think these kind of people really are ignorant. Kids easily pick up what they heard and see. What they're showing to the children is a very bad example on how to speak and behave. Really, no manners at all! At least, they stopped after you reprimanded them. Some won't even bother such things and will be angry and start cursing towards us! It's important to watch your language and mind your manners, especially in front of children.

Hi realan You're right realan. That's bad and sometimes they do it without realize the situation or peoples around them. I think it's because bad education level or since he/she was child, he often hear that bad words , so he shout that bad words too when he's adult. He think that it's normal and instantly shout it because of habit or lack control of emotion. Of course it's their business, but both of us don't like it if young child affected with this bad words and start to repeat it. I think what you had done is good, stare to them or talk to them. Personally, if I'm around that kind of people with my little brother, I will walk away and go to other place so my brother won't ask or repeat those words. I'm afraid with that kind of people and how if they start to mock me or do unpleasant things to me (I have young looked, like 13 years old, although in reality I'm 17 years old!). But maybe I will try your way, to speak quietly to them. Thanks realan

This is SO one of my pet peeves. I don't have children of my own, but i can't stand it to hear people talk in vulgar ways when young children are in earshot. You can ask my friends, i am often considered to be the "spoil-sport" of the group who will shush everyone and make them tone it down when we are in public and there are either small children, or elderly adults around. Don't get me wrong, i am no goody-goody who doesn't curse or say in-appropriate things...i just beleive there is a time and a place..and that is NOT in front of people who shuodln't be exposed to such language.

Yes Realan I can relate to what your saying there is no cause for adults to behave like that in fron of children. Some people just have no morals when it comes to foul language . And the ones who use the F word as every other word in a sentence that really drives me crazy too. A lot of teenagers do that around here where I live F this and F that even when they are not angry the use it as a ajective or adverb in a sentence.

Hello realan I usually walk away and tell my grandson not to use that kind of language ever, so now he is use to me saying this that he says grandma they are using bad words, its really sad people don't think they don't realize how bad this makes them look, great post

same on you, i can't stand listening to them whenever they do it.. it sounds so ___ if they are shouting it in public..!! i hope they will stop doing it..

I have a 9 year old and a 1 year old. Yes I would mind if people were loudly cursing near me when they are around. I find it as damaging as when people smoke near them (I dont smoke). If you ask me yes I would speak up.

one time, on of the neighbors came to me complaining about my son's language. Well, this very same neighbor would have these loud parties all night in their yard with half the neighborhood out there (the ones who didn't have to work in the morning, matter of fact they didn't work!!) just partying away, and well, my kids would be in their beds, trying to sleep, and listening to all kinds of bad words being yelled up and down the street. I listened to this neighbor complain and turn around... She had told me the word my son said...so well, I informed her that I really didn't know where my son could have picked up that word, since well, it wasn't used at our house...but, well, I did remember hearing it every so often being yelled at the top of the lungs outside! and then I said something very basic...simply that well... don't expect my kids to act anymore adult than the adults around them do!!! That irratated her just a tad, but well, that is the truth!

I don't have any children,but I ma otally against swearing in public places.It's just common sense to not yell curse words when other people are around,especially in close quarters like your restaurant example.