Still not married after 4 years but still love him

Sounds to me you want to get married. Not that there is anything wrong with that. You just need to be true to yourself. Maybe you think you are comfortable with the situation because deep down you know he will never ask. Maybe he wants to get married but is afraid to ask worried you would say no.

hiii.. I am also with my girlfrnd from last almost 2.5 years and we also didnt think about our marriage,we will marry with eachothr for sure, but both of us knws that right nw both are at the starting of each's career so we are not bothering abt it and jst concentrating on our career first then will thnk, so I thnk u should do like this only..

i think he's just waiting for you to open up or maybe he's not yet ready or maybe he has no plans yet... it's a god thing that your relationship is fine but it's much better if you both are aware of the fact that for every one's relationship, there should be a so called "leveled up." :)

virtualmirage, I can sum up marriage in one word: security. As boy/girlfriend you can love each other and respect each, live together and be intimate, but how do you know he won't come home one day and say, 'that's it, I'm done. I don't want to be with you anymore.' Do you have a contract or agreement on how you or he might let the other one know that there are problems and you are considering a break up? sure, marraige is a a formality that you or he might not need, but the ceremony includes vows you give to each other 'for better or worse.' and it's also harder to get out of. and there's some warning for both that one or the other is not happy. and people say 'we can't afford it' but it is still binding if you go to the justice of the peace or courthouse and alot cheaper. just something to think about...

my boyfriend and i been together for almost 8 years now, though he mentioned to me that we will going to get married but i still dont have the exact date. sometimes i'm lossing hope already and tired waiting. but i keep on staying coz i love him and i can feel his love to me too..

I have been with the same guy for seven years and we are not married. I opened up to him about it and he acts like he is saving money and even tells his friends that he is, but never does. Get out before you waste any more time.I am forced to leave him. I think he caresalot about me, but not enough to make me happy. Men Suck

you are the only one who will know if he will ask you that question ., but if he loves you and he is serious about your relation then you should wait until he ask you to ., don't push him to say it ., cause he might get pissed ., I've been into relationship for 5 years and 4 months now ., and he still not dropping the bomb ., but as for my case we already talked about that issue that he still not ready yet ., because of he being not financially dependent ., i am giving him more time like 2 years i guess for me to wait ., if i haven't heard anything from him ., then i think thats the time that i need to think and ask him again ., just talk about it .,

hi virtualmirage, in our community it is not suggestible,acceptable and illegal also to live together with out marriage,but it may some different in your country,it is better to have marriage for nice living with having children,have a nice day

I don't know what advice to give but I just wanted to let you know I am in pretty much the same situation!! We have been together three years but I KNOW he won't have proposed to me this time next year either as he is spending all his money on travelling to Australia (we live in England). We have spoken about marriage, we both know we want to get married, but it just feels like it is never going to happen. I am scared I am going to be thinking about it for so long when he finally does propose it isn't going to really feel right. Because at the beginning it felt like our relationship was moving forward and now it's just stationary at the point we were 2 years ago. I may be in a different situation to you though as we don't live together. Again, this isn't going to be happening anytime soon!! We both agree we don't want to be engaged to someone we are not living with and understandably so. It is not as if we know we wouldn't be able to stand each other. We have spend various 2 week periods living alone together as we would normally, doing washing up, cleaning, hoovering, going to work etc. What can I say... the day we are proposed to will be the start of the rest of our lives! For now we must be patient with our boyfriends and hope that things keep on working untill that happens for us. I am sure your boyfriend will propose to you eventually : )