There are something wrong with he and I
By lixiaoyan
@lixiaoyan (178)
China
August 26, 2009 10:49pm CST
In these days ,I feel there are something wrong in our relationship.I can't find the reason ,I just feel I don't want to communicate with him ,and I have little interested in whatever he said ,I don't know why.I still love him ,and don't want to break up with him.But at the same time ,I really don't want to speak to him.
What is the problem,what can I do.
5 responses
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
i think you're just bored because both of you were just repeating the usual stuffs in order to sustain your relationship. i think you should try something new or it's best if you'll offer some space for yourself and try to think of the possible issues that made your feelings for him changed.
@lixiaoyan (178)
• China
27 Aug 09
Yes,now I have been doing as what you said ,we have not been seen each other for nearly a week.But nothing has been changed,I have got more and more angry with him.And I still don't know what is making me like this.
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
First of all, you should check in your heart if you have anything against him that you have been trying to ignore, not knowing that it is making your relationship suffer. Another thing is to try new things together. If you are sure that you still love him, then you should take the initiative to be more sweet or romantic. Your partner may not notice that there is a problem so he will not see the reason to change anything, but you do, so you should try to do something about it. Maintaining a relationship requires hard work too. The feeling of love itself is not enough if you are not willing to exert efforts to make it work.
@lixiaoyan (178)
• China
27 Aug 09
I think,my boy truely have not noticed that there is a problem ,he just noticed that I am paying less and less attetion on him.
It is time for us to make a hard work together to keep our love fresh.
Thank you.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
27 Aug 09
Seems like the only thing to do is start a fight. There is a thin line between love and hate. I do find when the chemistry is high with someone that you never get along all the time. If you always get along, you may have the wrong one. Life is about learning and growing as people. Your mate is supposed to help you grow. With growth always comes a few growing pains.
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
i guess, you just need a time away from each other. like cool off, give yourself each other more space, that way there will be a time that you will miss each other. if you still love the other person, you will miss him.
if at the time you were away from each other you still feel the same way, about not wanting to talk to him, then i think there is no more love there. maybe you should just let go and move on.
or you can both find something else that would make your relationship spark, like change your routine, if you are always seeing each other and doing the same thing over and over, then change it, try something else. i dont know what, but try to find something different from what you both usually do.
hope this helps.
@lixiaoyan (178)
• China
27 Aug 09
I make sure that I still love him.And today ,he went to another place alone.I am missing him here and feeling a little sad for his leaving.
Maybe you are right ,we need something fresh to keep our love fresh.
Thanks for your help.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
27 Aug 09
You need a refreshing, lixia. In a relation which has been running for a long period, sometime there is a feeling of saturated. This normally. Take a time for refreshing, ok ?
@lixiaoyan (178)
• China
27 Aug 09
Hi,my dear friend,before my comment,please allow me to introduce my name to you.My family name is li ,my last name is xiaoyan ,so you can call me yan or xiaoyan or lixiaoyan ,but not lixia,OK?
All of you suggest me to have a time for refreshing,Yes,I think you are right,I will have a try to save my love .
Thank you.