Love and Respect = The Marriage Equation
@laughterfromclouds (60)
United States
August 27, 2009 10:59am CST
The bible tells us in Ephesians 5 that "husbands are to love their wives and wives are to respect their husbands." I am reading this awesome book called "Love and Respect". It describes how husbands and wives can get on the crazy cycle. See, God created us therefore God knows our every need. He created man to feel the need for respect and love and for woman to feel the need for love and respect. (Notice the order of love and respect for each). Spouses tend to get on the crazy cycle as the book explains. The crazy cycle is when one spouse does not feel the desire of either love or respect. Here is an example: Ben, the husband felt disrespected by Sally his wife. In turn Ben did not feel like showing her any love. Therefore Sally became very upset and continued to disrespect him. We can love our husbands, but it is really respect that they need as well. Husbands can easily show us respect much easier than love at times. I want to show my hubby all the respect I can. I find it easy to show a million ways that I love him, how can I show him how much I respect him? I want to stay off the crazy cycle even if it means swallowing my pride and taking the first step. Marriage is awesome...why not make it more awesome!!!!
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@mdrgsm (61)
• Ukraine
27 Aug 09
I love that book! I would recommend that every married couple should read it. What is awesome is how God created men and women to be different. We require different things from eachother, we become more aware as we learn all the things God intended for us as "husband and wife". As women we tend to need more love and "romance" from our husbands, but like the book said its easier for men to give us respect. Thats because they have a different make up than us. It doesn't come naturally to them to show us love. Their way of showing love and romance is by taking care of us, giving us security, and fixing things. We have to communicate with them on how we want to recieve love and romance. Just like sometimes they have to voice how they want to receive respect and support. I want off the crazy cycle too! Marriage is awesome and am thankful that God gave me a patient loving husband! Have a Blessed Day!
@laughterfromclouds (60)
• United States
27 Aug 09
Thank you for your comment. God is awesome! And yes, thank Him for our patient, loving husbands. I just have to mention that my hubby just prepard me a candlelight dinner on the screened in porch the other day. It was cute. He had even picked a flower from the yard...roots and all and stuffed it in a glass cup (kind of resembled a vase) and had it on the table with the candles. It was very sweet. How can I show him respect? It feels odd to say, "I respect you." I'm not done with the book yet so maybe it will have some suggestions. Thanks again!
@mdrgsm (61)
• Ukraine
27 Aug 09
One way you can show him respect is to support his decisions whole heartedly. It may not be easy at first, and yes you will have to swallow your pride, but you will be respecting him! Also by being submissive, you can be respecting him. Not arguing with him, but instead think about what he says and then if you have a concern speak to him about it in a calm, supportive way. Hope this helps.
