How to repay our parents?

Parents, someone the brought us to this world without our approval! muahaha... this is what I always tell my mum when she ask me on some very sensitive issues of being a parents.. Anyway, back to the topic... there are different ways that people look into repaying parents.. to some extend, most of us do it with the monetary method.. just like how some of the parents did to the child.. but was that what our parents want? I remembered in those days, my grandma will keep telling us, no point earning the mountain, if we do not have the time to enjoy it... and to her, no point giving her the money, if she can't have means to spend it.. I think the best repayment to our parents, are still being there for them, with them, whether at times they need us or not..

You know something? I said this to someone else recently but in a completely different context: The best revenge is living well. My parents were good at some things, but I have to tell you, parenting was NOT one of them. They just didn't have the interest or skills or loving nature to handle it. The best thing I could do for them and for me was to become self-sufficient as soon as possible and get away...and stay away. Of course, they are both long gone now, but I'm still wondering why they ever felt the compulsion to have children. Some people just are not cut out for parenting. I do not feel grateful to them for bringing me into the world because I didn't ask to be born. There were worse parents in the world, I know, who left more lasting and more violent scars on their offspring, but I don't feel the need to be grateful for having been less badly mistreated than some others. So I cannot agree with you that "we are all thankful for bringing up by our parents." I guess that is why I have always liked this poem that William Wordsworth wrote in 1888: http://bartleby.com/145/ww194.html Enjoy!

I had given it much thought over the years and the best way to take care of my aging parents was to oversee their bills, make sure they were paid and make them comfortable. They are both gone now but I remember their parenting and how they sacraficed. All I owed them was respect and love and they got it. In return, all I expect from our kids is respect and love. I get both so staying home with our kids when they were small was well worth it. I was lucky not to have to work to support the family. Am hoping when I really begin to age our kids will help also. Don't need them to help financially but simply make sure I'm taken care of and comfy.

Hello friend, You have really brought up a very important topic here.This is a topic which all of us seem to neglect sometimes. Once we grow up and find our jobs and life partners, we forget how much the parents sacrificed to help us reach the position we have. To be honest, there is no way one can repay one's parents fully. I mean, my parents have stayed awake whole night when I was sick or when I caught cold, so that I could sleep peacefully. Even if I coughed once, they would come rushing back to me to find out if I was okay.How can one repay that?? The least we can do is to take care of them when they are old and to support them financially and more importantly, emotionally.

Hi friend. First i want to thank you for posting this such good discussion. You know what i've noticed are this; You never appreciate your parents for bringing you until you become parents too, the sacrifice, the loved, the care that they've done for you is not payable by money or something. for me you can pay back your parents if you become parents too. because you are the one who will do what they done for you before. Also you can pay them back by taking care for them when they are old. also give back the love that they given to us. Goodluck & happy mylotting.

Give that love your mother gave you when you were trying to stand on your two small feet. Give that love when you were hungry she fed you despite her sickness. Give that love when she looked after you remaining awake when you were sick. Give that love your mother gave during your schooling days, during your struggling time. Give that love your mother gave looking after your kids and spouse and doing all the cleaning works and cooking at your house like a maid servant. Be her walking stick in her old age with love. Spoon feed her during her sickness with love. When ever you find her sad tell her " I love you mom".

I don't believe that we should feel obligated to our parents for our upbringing. I believe it is the goal of every parent to raise a self-sufficient, independent and productive member of the world. That's the ideal goal of parenting in my mind. I know that not everyone would agree. Now when I was growing up, my parents were terrible people, they were not good parents at all. Their own problems interfered with their parenting (lack of) skills. But now that I am an adult and I do not live with my parents, I have good parents. And by that, and with the hindsight of many years of counseling so I can forgive and accept my parents for what they are, with ALL their many flaws, I can say now that I love my parents and I mean it. Once upon a time I could not say that and mean it. I feel that my parents are good parents to me and my brother now. We don't live with them, we see them maybe once a week or less and we get together for the holidays. It works for us. Sometimes when I want to re-pay my parents for something nice they have done for me or my daughter, then I invite them over and fix them a nice meal. They love that.

I think what we can do will never compare to what our parents have done for us. It is hard to repay them the same. Besides giving them money and letting them have a comfortable lives. I think it's quite important that you won't let your parents keep worried about you. Because your safe and sound is already the best gift for them. And make them happy everyday, perhaps this is the best repay. I love China

Repaying our parents is an obligation. Every child must do it. The difference is on how is someone repaying his/her parents. I think the it's highly depends on how is the family background. If you were born not in a rich family, then the best way to repay your parents is by being success in career and show then you can change your family's life and you can earn much money. Actually that is a simplest way to repaying parents which anyone would apply it. The universal way to repaying parents is by obeying their words. Some people said if their parents are annoying, while the other said if their parents are kind. This is just individual perception. I believe that every parents in this world are kind. There's no parents who will trully hate their child. Sometimes for certain reason, our parents would got mad on us. But if we re-think it clearly, we should know that the problem is on ourselves. Perhaps we don't want to understand our parents conditions, perhaps we always forcing our parents to fulfil our needs without first look at our parents situations or moods. I think if we can considering our parents more than just a common parents, perhaps as best friends, this would be very amazing. Sounds like Spice Girls' song "Mama", they said "Mama i love you, Mama my friend". I like this song so much because currently i only have my mother as my parents. My father was passed away for almost nine years ago. During this period, my mother looks after me, my brother and my sister alone. There are so much sacrifices done by my mother alone just for our happiness. I graduated from my university several month ago and i start my professional work in an oil company. I have earn good salary so i can repay my mother by lightens her living cost. Next year is my mother's retired year. So this is my chance to repay her and say many thanks to her. I know that everything i'll do can't really pay all of her sacrifice. But as a child, and as the youngest child of her, i'll do my best for her. I don't want to see any sacrifice anymore on her life. Thanks God for a wonderwoman You have given to me. Good luck and have a nice day. Happy mylotting.

Well according to me the answer of this question is very simple... Our parents try their level best to fulfill all our needs and requirements.They just expect that their child/children should be successful in life. Well actually we cant repay their sacrifices and obstacles they've faced in their lives to make us happy but we can make an attempt to make them happy .... So to repay our parents back first of all try be a successful person.That would be your first step in repaying your parents. Then never forget your roots.Respect your parents. Try to provide all the comforts in the life to your parents.I'm talking about giving them a Ferrari or other costly stuff that you cant afford but try to provide all those items and luxury which they really want to have in their life but were unable to get. Try to make your parents stay with you. I've mentioned this point coz in most of countries children actually dont stay with their parents but here in india we actually atay with our parents. We never leave them alone to face the world alone. Stand by your parents in hard times.This will make them feel that there is someone who still cares about them and is ready to help them and they are not alone in this journey ... And the list is sooo long... But if you follow these steps you definitely make your parents proud ....!!!!! And that would be their best gift ever...

Nice as well as meaningful discussion.Though we can not repay for all of their sufferings they met to bring us to this state,we can do at our level best.Their only wish will be that we should take care of them at their old age, when they are not able to stand at their own. But we need not wait till such situation comes.We may start taking care of our parents once we started to earn and we should keep them with us and should never let them live alone till the end of their life.We should do everything they need.Some may say that if we give money to them, that is enough. I will not agree with them. How much ever we may be rich.But our parents will not like our money and they will like to live with us only.This is the only option available to us to repay them.

hi there ving!!! I truly appreciate my mom with all my heart. i owe her everything that I am today. She had sacrificed so much of herself just to raise 4 of us and provide us with what we need. On the other hand, i have nothing to repay my dad for. He has brought me nothing but misery and hate. he is not a very good father and husband to my mom. So if I am to repay any of my parents it would be my mom alone.

I have been brought up in a "traditional" family and therefore I have a very traditional emotion too. What I mean is, although how much I love my parents, I will never say "I Love You" to them. I just feel embarrased to utter the words. Therefore, I have chosen other ways to express my love and appreciation. I would basically do everything for them whenever they asked for it. And I will be there when they need me. I also taught my girl that has to respect her grandparents and her parents too. I think it is important value to be learned for every one. I am more understand how noble of my parents after I become a mother. It is truly not an easy "occupation" in the whole wide world.

It is very important to give financial assistance to our parents if they have meager income and imagine they are working half of their lives just to give their children the proper education, spending for the things that their children need. So they should have support and also don't forget to make them feel that they are important and spend time with them and prepare for it and make effort for it.

well your qeustion fascinates but actually it is important i always said that their is no enough time to repay our parents for our upbringibg but the best we can do we do and most importantly bring our children up too

am a parent already and when i gave my mother money, then, she gave it back. she said that they're doing fine and if ever i want to repay them in one way or another it would be much appreciated if i would just show all the love i want to impart to them by being a good mother to my son .

Show them our total RESPECT to them and show them how important they are to us.Giving them money is not enough for showing our gratitude of what they did to us when we're a baby.We even need to give them Tribute of how they love and treasure us when we are kids.That's why we are here i mean we are lucky because if not them we are NOTHING. thnx my friend,happy mylotting.

Dear vingyan, Good topic for us to apppreciate our parents always. NOT ONLY on Mother's Day and Father's Day..... Hahaha, just to let you know...my family, my two elder sisters will give my mum some allowance monthly...but not me, coz I am not working... I did give her when I work last time. She understand my situation but I am happy that among the siblings whe choose to stay with me, what a Blessings! Since money is not everything, I shower her with love and respect! I will sit together with her watching her favourite Chinese drama and chat about it, more of companionship. If I won any free hotel stay, I will invite her to come along...that is the way I shower my love, bought for her her Brand's Bird Nest or anything that is good for her arthritis when I am in the overseas like buying her the Korean Ginseng. Even though shen said too heaty and not taking them anymore, I think the 'thoughts' that count! If I have 'windfall - extra money' I would like to bring her to Hainan Island...and bring her to enjoy her favourite scallop, lobster, bird nest, big prawns, sea cucumber and shark fin... Most important thing I think, children should NOT make their parents worried about them.. Thanks and happy myLotting!

Hello friend. Im a parent now and i know how difficult it is to bring a kid up. BUt repay is the wrong word for me..we dont have to repay our parents for bringing us up on this world. But as their children we can only do our best to help them the best of everything. I have helped my parents so much in this lifetime but its always never enough for them. They make me feel i owe my whole life to them. I love them so much and i am trying my best for them...but they take me for granted. They never said something bad to my other sisters...only with me. Me, that they always run for help. And in return i get nothing but hurtful words. Sorry if im so negative about this matter but thats how my parents treat me.

I feel guilty as i was reading this post. And yeah, i have realized how much sacrifice my mom has done for us. You know, I came from a broken family. I and my sister are currently living with my mom. I haven't seen my dad from the day that it was declared that we will be in the custody of my mom. I know how hard it is be a single parent. Especially my mom take no financial support from my dad. Now, i feel very guilty because i am being disrespectful most of the time to my mom. More often than not, I would rather go for my own decision than obeying her. I know I am being so mean. But despite of all of this, my mom always understand and forgive me. I wish I would be able to change.