Will she ever get it?

She will eventually get it....you know i told you about our daughter who has epilepsy and is blind and developementally slow? they just said slightly retarded back then but i guess they dont use that word any more....they also said when she was born she would never make it to 2...and when she did they said she would never make it to 10 and when she did they said she would never make it to adulthood...lol...well she is 24 now and still kicking...so you cant alway trust everything the docs say 100% But anyway she had several operations removing part of her intestines and when they brought her home from the hospital she actually had a colostomy bag that they had to change constantly...that was fun let me tell ya...anyway she took forever to potty train too...I dont remember exactly when she started going on her own but i do remember she was wearing diapers when she was 8 years old and we also thought she was never going to do it....but somewhere between 8 and 10 she did so just hang in there im sure your daughter will too....

Hi Sweetie, no do not give up keep trying but don't push, I know it is upsetting for you but do not give up on her I know that is what I would do but again she needs to feel safe and secure going to the Toilet and maybe she doesn't again down to her Medical Problems I know that you will have tried everything but just keep trying but not to the extend of tiring yourself out, as I know you have a full time go there with your Girl, the poor Love, Even if she doesn't ever learn, do not get stressed on it, it is part of who she is Sweetie Big warm Hugs

Hello babyangie27. I am sorry your daughter is having these problems,and for your great attitude. While my sisters bladder problem is in no way as serious as your daughters,our mother solved the problem of school harrasment by the other girls for wearing diapers,mother informed the school about her problem and they fixed it so she could go to the nurse to change her wet pants and again before gym classes to remove her plastic panties,so the other girls would not find out. She was 10 years old before the doctor would operate on her,and since then,she is fine. Some things to think about,the pull-ups are just glorified diapers that wick the wetness away from the skin,so no wet feelings. straight cloth panties,pee will just go through and be dry before to long,so again,not much in the way of wet feelings. Cloth panties with plastic panties,most of the pee will stay in the plastic and she will be able to feel it whenever she moves around,but will help keep the other kids from noticing she wet,and she will have time to take off the plastic panties and change before anyone is the wiser. this all may take time concidering her ailments,but I am sure she will make it. All my best wishes and Many Blessings to you both.

No don't give up. She is only 6. My 3rd daughter was very very tiny and had small kidneys and really was a problem training. I mean really a problem. She did show improvement about age 6 but still...still had some accidents. One thing that I don't agree with that you are doing is allowing her to wear pull ups. I think that gives her the sense of security to know that she can go in her pants if she doesn't feel like stopping to go to the bathroom. It won't feel weird to her because it is just like diapers and that is what she has known her entire life. When my daughter went in her pants with undies...it was uncomfortable and I did not drop everything to change her. I let her be uncomfortable for a few mins.(not long...you don't want her to get a rash). And then I made her take a bath and she hated that because often times it cut into her play time. We got the day time pretty well but at night...she often had trouble but did out grow it finally...thank goodness. Good luck and don't give up.

Well, seeing as how you've said that she has both physical and developmental disabilities. I think if I were in your shoes, I would probably for right now accept that she is not able to use the bathroom by herself. I don't think I would be able to accept the fact that she will never be able to use the bathroom by herself. Developmentally, at what age do they say that she operates at? If they are saying that developmentally she operates at a 2-year-olds age, then it would be expected that she wouldn't be potty trained at this time. I've never had a child with disabilities, but I do think that she will reach milestones in her life and in her own time that you may never have expected out of her.

I have a friend whose sister suffers from downs syndrome. She was finally potty trained in her late twenties. What was done was to give her some warm water to drink when she woke up in the morning to loosen bowels. "What do we do now?" was the question to her, "We go to the potty" Was the answer she was made to say. She was then put on the potty where she would go. Initially she was assisted by a mild purgative, which was discontinued later. It helped to flush out her intestines. You should seek a Doctors advice about this. This was repeated every day in the morning and after every meal. After about an year of this 'chant and go' training she was able to do it by herself. Even now she has accidents, which are ignored, but happily they are few and far in between. Regular schedule helped to establish a known schedule for her need. Children seem to grasp better when they chant what they need to learn. The louder the better. It seems to imprint the message on their minds. Most of the schools in Asia follow the Chalk (Write on the black board), talk (Pronounce the word) and chant (Repeat it to imprint) method for children because of this.

Before my son had his surgery, he went on a schedule. He still had a few accidents, but at least he would go. I think I would start by having her go on a schedule and see if then she will start telling you.

I think you'll just have to work rather hard at it and work on reminding her constantly to use the restroom. I know it may be frustrating but kids usually can figure it out with prompting and other techniques but it requires work on both ends of the spectrum to get them to understand when it's time to potty.

sorry to hear this from you, but you need to have an extra attention with you child she is very special and needs special attention, how old is your child and what is the case? there are some studies or learning instrument for some children with special cases. Can she speak well? can she walk? tell me what is the real problem. may be i can help you.

Hi, not sure what the medical problems are and not knowing if there are developmental problems also, but I was wondering if there was anything else you could try. Maybe your doctor could consult with some kind of an expert and get more recommendations? I know your finances are limited, but is there any kind of government help that is available?

Oh I wouldn`t give up. She is just behind because of all her medical problems. Sooner or later she will catch up. She is only 6. Give her more time mom.

Have faith and keep trying. It sounds like she is beginning to understand if she is at least going on her own some of the time. 2 out of 10 times may only be a small percentage of the time when she does go unreminded, but it shows that she is at least beginning to understand. Here's an idea, why not set a timer to go off every hour or so, and try to get her to at least sit on the potty every time the timer goes off. Maybe she could learn to connect them all together, the timer, the potty, and using the potty, and over time, you could increase the time you set it for until she begins going without it. It may still be a reminder, and at first, youwill probably have to take her yourself each time the timer goes off, but I think that over time, it just might work. Whatever you do, please don't give up, her progress may be slow, but it is progress.

Well being a mom is tough when it comes to problems in children but those problems are just trials in life that we must face. Mothers are the ones who guide the little ones. Maybe your child will get it someday so don't give up being her guide. It will be fine in time.

Yeah I understand that children today are a little late in the potty training process. My daughter does exactly what you said. I will tell her go sit on her potty. She enjoys going on it for fun. When she wants to go number 2 she would go on my floor and then tell me she did. Now you said your daughter has a problem. Does your doctor say this is the reason. I would be a little patient with her. Try and give her praise when she does goes. Good luck. Happy lotting.

Please don't give up. I use to work with children that have special needs they will get it if you just keep on trying and let then know you love then and aren't upset. I know children who didn't get it until they were 10 but they do. All you can do is love them.

i mean, maybe she'll develop it up, maybe she's got just a little tolerance to that, and after she'd develop it very well. :D