Love? In Love? or just love them because?

well... this scenario is really awful... huh! i think the only reason why you're still in a relationship with your husband is because you're afraid that if you'll lose him, you'll be the one regretting in the end. maybe you just need time for yourself. think twice or talked to him and help each other fixed what's been destroying your bond

I would suggest you find ways to get your relationship stronger. Try talking it out. Finding what you really like about your partner. I've fallen out of love once and I tried my best to find the qualities of the person that's really unique out of others. that how I fell in love again.

Hi friend, I think you both beed to spend some time together. This will help you to talk and know what is going each other's mind. Most times differences come in place when we loss communication. Being at one home and sleeping inone room is not enough when you are not talking with each other. So, just talk to each other, spend time together. May be second honeymoon can help.

It's possible that you're just feeling that way because your relationship has gone dry. I'm not married yet, but I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and I still get butterflies in my stomach whenever he does something sweet. Maybe you should try to do something romantic to spice up your relationship. Losing that "floating feeling" does not automatically mean that you've fallen out of love.

first u need to understand that love doesn't last forever as it is associated with attraction and as soon as u indulge in physical relation with whom u love gradually your love will lose its shine. my advise is that if u don't wanna lose your hubby then stop finding him that your heart doesn't beat just remember your precious time spent with him and then u will find that u are in affection with your hubby

I believe that you have made love the sole basis of the structure of your marriage. Marriage involves much more to it than just love. Besides love it is also commitment and how much you value your past relationship. Our elders have had long lasting relationships because they believed that 'marriages are forever'. We need not get scared of this phenomenon because of the 'boredom' that is associated with it. I would suggest to you that you get your mind off your marriage and cultivate interests or hobbies and pick up a job if you are not doing one. You will realize that a boost in your morale and self image will also improve your relationship or at least take your mind off it. I would most earnestly recommend a book by 'Shobha De' called "Spouse". You will get a lot of inspiration from it.

Love is an overpowering emotion that has taken me away from reality so many times. Try fixing your love with attributes. Like patience, compassion and understanding. Its always difficult when you're living with the person and get no breaks from the situation. God can help and if you go there you can win. It will take time but it happens.

i think i do remember the feeling when we first get together . i still remember my girlfriend's shy smiles and i really like that very much. but she turns more and mroe strict and not so shy to me if i did things wrongly or i turns to lazy sometimes. anyway i'm very comfortable to live together with her.

I m not married but I was in love a few years back. I loved a girl very much but unfortunately I could not marry her as my career was in front of me. And finally she got married ,but I still her......

well love is something u cannot defined by words.(its uncountable noun infact)its something abstract which can only be feel but cannot be make to understand to someone.as per as i understood i think love is a feeling in which u made to think about someone inarbitarily.inspite of the fact that that person is not near to u,you feel a strong sense desire to be with that person,you like his small nitty gritty mistakes too! but try to remain cautius as there is very thin line b/w love and infatuation. love is something which kept on amounting with time while the reverse happen in infatuation.so the best judge is time only.

Marriage is just hard. I think everyone goes through a million ups and downs. I know I have. I live a bit of a different life because my husband is in the military and often works long hours and is sometimes gone for a year at a time. I think that the first year is usually tough because you are just learning how your spouse really is. Even with the butterflies and the lust, you still begin to see the small things that irritate you, but once u learn to compromise because you love them it gets better. Then after about 5 years or so, the comfort sets in...especially if you have any children....children change everything...but I won't go there because I could go on forever. Once you are comfortable it seems great that you don't have to worry about those few extra pounds or that u decided not to get out of your pj's today, but comfortable gets old......I agree that the spice needs to be in your relationship, but sometimes it's not even your relationship that is making you feel the way you feel. Sometimes it's how you feel about yourself and your life. If you aren't happy with you, then it's hard to feel anything special about anyone else. I went through the same feelings you are feeling...I was wondering if I had made a mistake and maybe one of the other boyfriends I had in the past was really "The One", but in the end, I realized that I had let myself go. I hadn't truely done anything for myself forever. My excuse was that I had children and they had become my priority, so I didn't have time to do things for me. When I realized that I could manage both I felt better than I had in a long time. The relationship that I had missed with my husband also came back because he saw the difference as well. I'm glad that u guys are able to communicate about your feelings because that is the only way to truely fix your problem. There is always a slight chance that maybe you aren't meant to be. I belive in marriage= forever, but sometimes people want the american dream so badly that they make decisions that weren't the right ones for them in the end. That doesn't mean you fail. If both of you end up deciding you would enjoy life more with someone else then it's ok. Hard, but ok. I don't have the best advice besides to talk talk talk and self reflect a bit to see if you are happy. I wish u the best of luck. Marriage is the hardest job you will ever have!