Silent for her parents

My parents divorced when I was really young and the courts decided that I should live with my dad because of my mom's poor financial situation. The woman he married afterwards was really mean and abusive. It took nearly four years for my mom and her new husband to get me back and into a healthy environment again. If I had been given the choice it would have been to stay with my mom. If my dad would not have been getting married to such an evil person then I would not have minded living with my dad. But it is very hard to have to choose which to live with. I feel very much for the little girl.

Really unfortunate for the child. I wish the parents would realize what turmoil the child is going thru for their inability to adjust to each other. Somebody I know in person once said keeping a marriage intact requires a lot of intelligence. We cannot really fathom the pain of tender hearts. And they dont say much as they dont have a way to express themselves as yet. Is it so difficult to adjust to each other for the sake of that little bundle of joy? But I think choosing mother was wiser. This is because a girl child, rather any child finds it easier to confide in mother. There can be pedophiles, and other problems that only a mother can protect the child from. If the child was to be left with her father, she would hesitate to tell such things. More so because her father would have many male friends, and she wouldnt be able to express what she is going thru. I wish her all the best from the bottom of my heart.

first of all i feel sad for that poor little girl...asking a child to choose from her parents is like asking which eye do you want among the two you have..

Thats a tough one. Poor girl. If a child is equally happy with either parents, then it's impossible for the child to choose. I hope the Jude made the right decision. I think if I had been in her shoes, I too would have just remained silent. I wouldn't be able to choose. The judge would have had to choose for me, using his better judgment.

hi,taztheone,it is a serious topic for me ,i am sorry to hear the girl's misfortune.As the parents should give the child a good atmosphere to live,if there is no love between them,they should choose the best way to solve the problem which will not hurt the child,for the child is innocent.

This is the hardest thing to do and you need a tough decision of it.You cannot decide specially when you still kids.If ever i will decide i would rather to choose MOM specially the day when i go to school because the father will very busy to his job..Thats what ive heard of my friend too...Thanks

Choose between living with my dad or my mom? I think this could be the worst case ever, and the hardest thing to do especially for kids. That's why I wouldn't suggest a married couple to divorce if they still have minors in their family. It would leave a very deep scar on their memory and mind. If I were the kid, I would choose to live with my daddy. When I was younger, I was closer to my dad, so that would be my answer if I were in her position when I was younger. But now... if it happens to me, I wouldn't choose anyone. I am old enough to live by myself, and I am so glad that my parents are still get along together.

It is very hard to chose from parents so i would pray to for never put in this condition to anybody. It is very sad incidence because child requires both father as well as mother. It is not a toy that child has to select one. Child requires both father and mother that is why he has created male and female as a parents.Both father and mother take responsibility of child differently because of gender , so both are required in one's life. have a nice day!!

Well this seems to be a tough decision to make. Its just like asking whether you want your left eyes or your right eyes. Its hard to see without both eyes. I would say its very important for parents to decide on their divorce if they have a child. If you do not have a child then its just your own life is concerned but when you have a child, furthermore a minor child, dunt the major couples have the sense to think of the little girl.i would say they are selfish parents.

Well I think either way it is hard. When I was four my parents divorced and my brother went to live with my mom and I stayed and lived with my dad. They chose this because my dad did not want to be without at least one of his children. Less than a year later he decided he couldn't raise a child on his own and sent me to live with my mom. Apparently I was a daddy's girl and was really upset when I went to live with my mom and thus begun our strained relationship. As for if it were me in court and who I would chose it would depend on my parents. Whoever I had the bigger attachment to would be my first choice. If the attachment was equal I couldn't decide.

Its very hard to chose between your parents.Its truly like chosing between your two eyes and from what you say i think that the girl is a child and children needs both their parents.It would not have been the same if the girl is an elder but with children its different they need both and I don't know what made their parents to divorce but before getting divorced if they have thought atleast once about what would happen to their daughter if they are divorced then they would have done like that.All parents those are going for divorse now a days think that if there is enough money with them they can take care of their children but along with money both parents should be there for a child.

What a sad story!I can`t say anything..i agree with the opinion that couple who has minor shouldn`t divorce..It really affects them psychologically..couple must understand the essence of marriage, and try to improve it when they have problems, and think about the future of their children`s life

Oooh i feel very sad for the little girl. I cant imagine myself to be in that case. If i have to choose, i think i will just be silent like her. I will never know what to do or say. I feel very sorry for her.