Your Partner Works Too Hard... For You
By klaudine
@klaudine (3650)
Indonesia
August 28, 2009 11:03am CST
What would you do if you were in my position. You are still studying and not able to leave the school so you are not able to earn money yourself (except maybe from the net, but it is too little to support your own life) and your partner is working.
Now to support both of you, your partner works so hard... too hard. Forget about time, take the work overtime, and sometimes skip meals when the job is too much to handle.
I am worried, of course, but what can I do to help my partner because she doesn't want a help from me.
What would you tell your partner if they work too hard for you. You know the good will, you know the reason, but I think it is not healthy to work too hard and become careless about themselves.
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9 responses
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
28 Aug 09
Well I would do my best in my classes. I would make sure to take extra care emotionally and physically of my partner. Thats what I would do. And then when I get my schooling done, I would do my best to give back everything that I possible could for them for everything that I could at that time.
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
28 Aug 09
That's really nice, ladygator. I have talked about this with my partner and she said something exactly like that. She just wanted me to do my best at school and she wanted me to make her proud by being an over achiever at the college. I thought it was something to make me feel alright, I don't think that that could be right too.
Thank you very much, ladygator.
That was very helpful.
@Nobody4me (165)
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29 Aug 09
I wouldn't do a darn thing about if she doesn't need my help. but i would keep on comforting and loving him until she realize that am worth the hard work for me. loving is a selfless act so i wouldn't worry if she works hard, because il make it up to her..when i graduated
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
30 Aug 09
I know, nobody4me and I believe you're right. I know I would make it up to her once I graduate and I would contribute as much as she is now in this relationship, but all want to tell her now is not to worry too much about the financial problems. We can still live on, and I really want her to care about her health which lately down because of her activity. He stamina is getting weaker and weaker as she works harder and harder
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
i think you will have to appreciate her efforts in helping you out now that she is the only person who works too hard for you, having written it shows you care for her as much as she cares for you. i think the only way is to also do some little things to show you are with her and will not fail her and you will study hard and after that, you will be the one who will work hard and support her.
its give and take, relationships should be like that, no one needs to weigh who does more as love should be equal.
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
30 Aug 09
Yes. You're right. The only thing I can do now is to finish my study and graduate so I can get a good job so her hard work would be paid off. I believe I would be able to do that. The only thing I want her to do now is to care about her health because working too hard would ruin her stamina and I am afraid she would fell sick. And everything is nothing if she fell sick...
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
29 Aug 09
Well there will be a point where she will break down and want help. I think you need to make it a point that you want to be able to help and that you truly appreciate all that she is doing for you while you are studying. To make things easier for her you really should do things around the house like make meals, clean up, do laundry, anything that can help take the load off of her working so much. Any little bit helps and it really makes her feel like she's appreciated.
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
29 Aug 09
Oh I really don't want to see her breaking down. I just want her to get some rest so and she to mind her health. Because I think though she can earn a lot of money, it would be nothing if she fell sick.
I have told her that but she is so stubborn. All I have is more and more patience and passion to help her get what she's dreaming of.
@sblossom (2168)
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29 Aug 09
I fully understand your feeling. I’m in similar situation. Now in my family just my husband works and I have no jobs. My husband works 58 hours weekly and his daily time on road is another 2 hours. I tried many times and I could not find a job. So I think I can not help him in financial way. So I always try to do more house work as I can. Also I choose live economically and never give up finding a job.
My husband feels sorry for my situation and he always told me, never mind, you will find a job. We can live comfortably.
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
30 Aug 09
Oh... so you know my condition now, sblossom. Of course I want to get a job and earn something to contribute in this 'family'. I know we're not yet get married, and I think it is not easy for us to do that, at least for now. But having responsibility and contribution would bring more the feeling possession in the relationship. I don't know about you but I want it so much...
@monica7083 (98)
• China
29 Aug 09
hi,klaudine,you are very kind to think for others who work hard for you,and feel guilty for this,I think only you work hard and hard can pay back what they have done to you.I believe in future you must get a good job and earn more money to respond them.good luck to you and your partner,you will be sucessfull soon!
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
29 Aug 09
Yes, Monica. I really believe that one day I would be able to find a way to thank her properly. Not by words but by what I do to make her happy. Now I am trying to finish the study so I can graduate with good grades. The problem is now she is working too hard and about to forget her own health. I don't like it when she does that. I have told her I can come back to my parents if I want to, but please mind her own health. She doesn't really care.
I am worried
@prashanthalva (2272)
• India
29 Aug 09
She's Working So Hard Because She Has The Energy And Will for It .. Don't Worry you Can Join In After You Finish Schooling .. Till you Are At School, Work At School .. Don't Worry too Much .. Learn To Relax And Enjoy Life ..
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
28 Aug 09
Yes, dawnald. I believe that is the only thing I could do for now to make her happy. I couldn't give her what she deserves but I think if she sees me succeeded at school it would encourage her and assure her that I could do this for her too. Not only for her, or for me, I would do this for us, me and her.
Thank you very much dawnald. I really want to make it up to her as soon as possible.
@taztheone (1721)
• India
28 Aug 09
I really aches as well as feels good to see how hard they work. they are working even for your good, so there will be that obligation within us to do anything for them also. This is what I think.
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
28 Aug 09
That's true. I am so happy knowing my partner working so hard for me, but feel so sad because it is because of me she couldn't have fun like she could. I know there would be something I can do for her, but I don't really know what to do.
I want to show her that I care so much about her and I really appreciate what she does for me. I really do. The problem is, it is not so easy to show it in a concrete way.
