Ungrateful git

[b]Just hold your ground. He does need to grow up, & unfortunately, his parents have been enabling him to do this to them; they've created a monster. But rather than feel guilty, they need to force him to grow up. If he won't leave voluntarily, well, sad to say, that's one of the reasons police officers exist. When he sees he can't get away with anything any more, either he'll grow up, or at least go elsewhere & blame someone else. Either way, he'll cease to be a thorn in your family's side! Maggiepie "WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]

really? that's crazy. rent free you say? and he just moved out. where is this? i don't have a family to move in, but i could adopt some kids.

Someone needs a spanking....or should have had some a while back...you are right ..what an ungrateful boob! His parents should have kicked him to the curb a long time ago and maybe he would have had to grow up a bit! None of my business really but I totally understand your anger!

that seems to me to be a spoiled, overpampered man whose parents' have kept bailing him out of trouble, letting him live rent free,Of course once the jerk had his own home, he should have been more than willing to move out and go live in the new home with his own family. He really doesn't deserve what he got after badmouthing his own parents like that. I guess you are just going to have to take it step by step with your mother in lae

I completely understand what you mean!! THis sounds so much like my sister it's not even funny. My parents have paid for numerious things like tickets, fines, and other things I should not mention. And they have also co signed for one car. She wrecked it got it fixed than gave up her job. Parents had to pay for it. Than my parents tried getting her on her feet again. Bought another Car my dad said he leaks oil so make sure you check it often. She didn't she burned up the motor.. Than my grandmother gets' alztimers and she's doesn't help my mom or me with taking care of her and just goes off and moves to TN. Than they Buy her another car this is recently and she said she'd pay them back. They haven't seen one cent. She's now living with them rent free. And that car they bought for her she's let a friend borrow it. And on top of that she doesn't want to help clean or cook or anything. Unless somebody is around meaning like a "guy friend". She's 31 freaking years old and she has the maturity of a freaking 14 year old. So i know what you mean. My parents keep saying this is the last time we are gonna help her out. BS!!! To me honestly!! when kids become like your brother in law and my sister it's because they have mommy and daddy to bail them out. I believe if your child has made the bed they lay on than let them lay there and deal with there problems!! There the ones that choose it!! Mom's and Dad's should stop being helpers for them to stay there ways!! that's my opinion so i do understand what you are going thru. ANd yes it pisses me off too.

maybe they should have made him leave years ago and make him stand on his own feet sooner it may have avoided this problem.

Honestly I blame a lot of his reaction on the parents, no offense. I was 21 when I moved back from another state because my father had a good job lined up for my husband and had recently gotten married to him and had our first child. We paid rent (which was placed into an envelope and returned the day we moved out to use for our rent and bills at the new place). BUT... we were also given 3 months to get work and get the hell out of their house, because it was no longer their responsibility to care for their grown child OR her new spouse, that was our job as adults. There is such a thing as state assistance and ummmm have they ever heard of BUSES?They allowed him to get away with it for so long it became the norm for him so when it was taken away he reacted like any spoiled child would. If the visitation with the grandchildren is such a large concern for them, then take his butt to COURT and petition for visitation rights. Then it doesn't matter what he says, there is nothing he can do as they were his, and the children's apparently sole support for so long. Grandparents also have legal rights when it comes to their grandchildren, so stop tolerating his juvenile behind and take him back to school for some hard lessons I say.