How do you treat your child?

You know my children are not with me. Yes, we worry and we forget that they are someone today. I realize that I am missing them so much now and I regret leaving them in the hands of other even though they will be cared more.

I am strict with my son in the respect that I don't let him step out of line, and I do explain to him when we are out and we see other unruly children that that is the reason why I am the way I am with him, and he understands and agrees with me. But, we are best buds, we do everything together - from running errands to playing video games, reading stories... everything. I constantly praise him for being smart, handsome, funny, a great reader, a great speller, etc, his artwork is on every wall of my home because I believe that makes him feel good, special, and proud of himself to that I am so proud of him that I display his work throughout our home. I try to do what I can to boost his self confidence, make sure he has well rounded interests, and gets to try as many things as possible so he can find what he really likes, and make sure that he is well behaved, polite, and respectful, clean (he does have chores) and that he is also fun, and silly, and able to be a 6 year old boy. So far I think it is working really well - everyone has good things to say about him, he does very well in school, etc.

We treat them as our friends, as our best friends, we are like brothers and sisters, so they will grow out in a nice way, we are not very strict to them, we are just being neutral to them. We listen if they have problems, we care for them, we are very supportive to them, in return they grown up as very good children of us and very good people of the society.

Hi zhuhuifen, Wow! That is such a true statement and something that we so often forget. All this talk about what we want for our children, trying to give them the things and the opportunities that we didn't have, we forget that they are someone now. Did we take time to listen to our children today? What about the questions that they have about life? Do we answer as truthfully as we can and admit when we don't know? Do we perhaps ask them questions to encourage them to think? Are we sure of the values that we try to teach them, are they facts or just opinions? We are the parents and they the children but always be ready to be taught a lesson by your child, for often they see things that we don't. Never underestimate the wisdom of a child. Blessings.

I honestly take every day as it comes. Every single day is different with our family. It sucks, because on some days before work when I have the kids before dropping them off at grandma's, I don't get to spend much time with them because I have SOOO much cleaning and chores to do, in such limited time. Other days, I try so hard to make it up to them, and play with them and help them with songs and toys. I try to teach my kids values and discipline, and they are learning pretty well at their young ages.

I personally nurture my child as well as discipline my child. There has to be a balance between the two. I think that all children should be listened to and embraced, loved and respected but you better believe that I will knoc my son out if he steps out of line. And he understands that, he understands exactly why I do what I do because I explain it to him. I'm not here to be my child's friend, I'm here to be his mother.