People that Have ISSUES with BBW's and how they dress...ughhh!

As a big and possibly beautiful woman myself (ok, so I DO struggle with the beautiful bit!) I do think its wonderful if a larger lady can carry herself with pride and show off her assets to the world as she chooses! People absolutely don't have the right to stare or comment in the street when they know nothing about her. I do think that both large and small women can dress in a way that does them no favors. This, as I said, is still entirely their choice, but my preference is to NOT wear things that are overly tight, or overly revealing, simply because it is less attractive - as a larger woman, I DON'T feel I look my best if I wear things which cut off above my stomach, or are tight around my upper arms - I don't need to announce these parts to the world....lol... But I WILL wear something which shows a little leg, or a little cleavage, because I feel this looks good for me. So for me it is not about size but its about each woman deciding how they look their best self, and about dressing with taste and class and comfort for yourself. Just make sure you wear something that gives you enough movement to make an appropriate gesture to anyone rude enough to comment or stare in the street!!! Now, go work it, ladies....

Hey cloud_kicker_32, I hate people who judge others like that. Whenever I see a bigger woman who is dressing sassy and sexy I congratulate her because it means she is happy with who she is and is embracing that. I look at those women and I think 'I wish I could be like that' and I don't care if they are showing a little of something to be honest. When I see people judging those women because they are dressing confidently like that, I want to slap them because it is just wrong and is a good example of why society is so screwed up these days! I think more bigger women should dress sexy, maybe then the rest of society (and perhaps the women themselves) will start to see that they are human and beautiful, instead of demanding they become the size 3s that you mentioned just to feel like they fit in! All the best, Dranz

I am overweight..alot overweight..and I know just how this woman probably felt because I have been in the same situation(of people making fun of me and saying stuff..) You know what I realized though..that even if I had been skinnier that if I hadn't passed some beauty test of theirs I would still be ridiculed about something if it wasn't my weight it would be my hair, my makeup or my looks..people are always trying to find something wrong about someone else So they don't have to look to closely at their own faults..it gives them some high to make fun of others different then them.. I ain't no barbie doll and never will be, But I am human and have feelings. I am a big woman..I wear a 40 DD cup, I might not show them to the world but if I did it would be my business. It is people making fun of the way others look that makes some people keep a hold on depression so much. My mom has always been the one to say if you like it, if you comfortable wearing it, if it makes you feel good or sexy then to heck what others think, because it is what we feel and want in the end that counts. I have let my hubby tell me what not to wear a few times.. like Leopard Capri's But usually I wear what I want unless it is something that makes me feel self conscious or I think I look horrible in it..I won't leave the house in it..although I probably do have alot of clothes that others think WTF was she thinking when she chose that ..If it sickens someone to look at me..well there is always millions of other places to look..

I don't have a problem with people being overweight if that's what they want, but even skinny people, I can't stand some of the outfits people will wear! Those tight fitting outfits don't really look good on anyone typically. I don't mind a bit of cleavage, but outfits that show every roll on the body are just disgusting. I guess if you're lucky enough to have no rolls (whether big or small), it wouldn't look bad. I'm not very big, but even I can't wear spandex. I don't care a whole lot about what people think, but that's just not the image I want to portray. I might wear some crazy shoes or something like that, but I'm not going to show off my rolls with pride because personally, I'd like my rolls gone. But I guess it all depends on how you look at it... if you like having rolls then I suppose showing them off would be different. In any case, I'm not one to point and stare and make comments. I just look away.

I don't think that anyone should dress however they want to. I've seen too many skinny people in too baggy clothes, and too many overweight people in clothes that are WAY too tight. Both make me cringe. I'm a BBW, and I dress appropriately for my size. I am a very sexy woman, and love showing a little cleavage without being tacky or trashy. I won't wear short shorts, because that's just wrong... but I will wear proper fitting long pants and capris (not too loose, not too tight... but JUST right).

My philosophy is DIFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS. I have been around men that are surrounded by many different women, some skinny and gorgeous and some bigger and gorgeous and they will go after the bigger one's. It just depends on the people but unfortunately the majority of men will make a comment about a bigger girl when they are with their buddies just to show off. The funny thing is these are the same guys that if they aren't around their friends and these same gorgeous heavier girls are around and they hit it off they will try to ask them out. Funny how that works. I am all for heavier women dressing sexier as long as they don't start showing way too much. When you see some that are showing their rolls along with everything else, well I have to make comments then too. Nothing is more of a turn off when a really good looking heavier girl wears the wrong clothes. It gives all heavy women a bad reputation.

hi cloud kicker on behalf of all us BBW;s I say the more power'to the lady as she wanted to look as good as she could and she was comfortable'with herself I feel the same darned way,I try to'dress to show off my pretty eyes and nice hair and the rest of me is big'and so whatthis is me. I am comfortable with myself and like pretty' clothes just as much as the skinny ones do.

Hi cloud_kicker, I know quite a few buxom women who dresses very smart,but then there are some who dresses a little more provocative and people to tend to stare them and talk negatively about them, not even knowing anything else about them. I don't believe clothes makes the man or the women. What makes you is your character,your integity, and your honest. Wear what you want as long as those thing are intact. For those people who are judging, my question would be to them, "what are your flaws? Surely you are not perfect.