Taking Things For Granted?!
By mrshughes
@mrshughes (352)
Philippines
August 28, 2009 11:52pm CST
Hello everyone! I have a very close friend online. We started chatting up since i was 17 years of age. His always there for me anytime of day if i need a shoulder to cry on. Even now im married we are still very close friends and he still give me advises and give me full support in everything i do in life.
I never had a friend like him. I love him so much as a friend and i care for him more than a friend does. We only see each other online since we are miles and miles away.
But until yesterday, he told me he wants to meet me in real life and i refused him! He got so mad at me and starts telling me that i only take him for granted. I know his falling in love with me as im getting older thats why i dont want to meet him coz i dont want things to go wrong and i dont want to loose him as my friend. I have a happy life with my son and my husband. They are my life.
And i feel i should give it a miss now and forget him. Maybe he was right of what he said that i only take him for granted. When i think about it, he is there for me all time and never asks something back in return...whereas me...im there for him in my bad times only.
I feel bad about myself but God knows i love him so much but as my only friend..i dont feel anything more than that to him.
Do u guys take things for granted sometimes?
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8 responses
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
29 Aug 09
He is rght in ignoring u. As u said u have been friends for a long time, u must have the trust and belief in each other. It seems, like all others who say they have online frds, u people were merely pretending. This friendship has no firm foundation. If u had real confidence in u, u should have met him personally, atleast once and explained to him what u had to say about the relationship. By not meeting him, even after knowing him so much, means ur not sure of urself.All u want is his advice and nothing more.. this is stupidness. If u dont have the trust in him, then there is no point in continuing with this.
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
Yes u could be right...but the point is i have a family now to think about it. If im only single i would meet him, no doubt about it.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
29 Aug 09
This is like using someone and then dumping him after ur work is finished. If u were really concered with ur kid and family, u should have stayed away from him as soon as u got married..
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
I told him almost everything about my life, i told him when i was getting married and so on and so forth....and he said he was happy with me and that we still be there for each other as friends.
And so here we are still friends for a long time...longer than my marriage life. But his the one that breaks the rule not me. Im still his friend but no more than that. I dont want to loose him as my friend but having said that i dont him in my life as something more...and seeing each other is not the right thing anymore.
@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
Hi there!
I'm the type of person who always put space between me and my friends so if I don't call them or get to see them, I don't really consider it taking for granted.
Maybe you should meet him and talk. Set things straight that it's just friendship that's bonding you together. He might be feeling something for you but you are not sure of that, right? He might be needing you right now and the best you could do is at least see him. You don't have to be afraid cause you yourself is sure that you don't feel anything for him except friendship, so you know that won't be doing something foolish.
What are friends for? Friends do help each other in their downiest moment and maybe he feels a little down right now. If not, he might think that you just took advantage of him when you're the one needing help.
Ciao! 
I'm the type of person who always put space between me and my friends so if I don't call them or get to see them, I don't really consider it taking for granted.
Maybe you should meet him and talk. Set things straight that it's just friendship that's bonding you together. He might be feeling something for you but you are not sure of that, right? He might be needing you right now and the best you could do is at least see him. You don't have to be afraid cause you yourself is sure that you don't feel anything for him except friendship, so you know that won't be doing something foolish.
What are friends for? Friends do help each other in their downiest moment and maybe he feels a little down right now. If not, he might think that you just took advantage of him when you're the one needing help.
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@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
Yes, and if you are afraid to meet him in person try calling him first and if you can comfort him on the phone, that would be just enough. Just to be safe for both of you. What's important for now is for him not to think of you that you had taken him for granted.
@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
Thank u. I never think of that way. Yes maybe calling him will help clear the air between us...i dont really like to loose him as my friend. Again thank u very much.
@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
Thanks friend i will think about that. I feel meeting him is like inviting troubles for myself. Anyway u are right of what u said regarding friends. Maybe i should think in different way.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
29 Aug 09
Do you really think he is in love with you?,i do not think so,knowiingly very well that you are married and have a son.You said that you have been friends when you were just 17 years old.It means if he had been in love with you,he could have told you at that very time when you were not married.
He has never asked for any favors,just he wants to meet you,let him be.I think now it is your time to give back something to him in return to all his favors done to you.
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
He said his been thinking of me so much this days and he said he wants to meet me to tell me something very important. I asked him regarding what matter but he wont tell me.
Anyway i will take on ur advise and think about it. thanks a lot.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
If his intention is only a friend why don't you give him a chance to meet you. There's nothing wrong about it and told him that you are already married. I think if it is clear to him that you only want friendship he should not be bothered you again. He has a point that you took him for granted because if you are true friend to him you give him a favor for helping you.
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
I see what u mean...i will think about it. Thank u very much.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
29 Aug 09
How can u call someone a close friend when u dont have 100% faih and trust in him? This is nothing but fooling urself..
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
29 Aug 09
I am a person who makes frds very slowly and very few. But once i make someone a frd i will remain very loyal to him/her. I will go to any extent to save a friend. I dont believe in mere words i belive in actions and deeds in friendship thx
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
I have faith and trust but not 100%. WE are very close friend in a way that share things about our life, we there to say hello to each other and shows interests in each other lives.
I dont feel im fooling myself at all...i just feel its not the way to go anymore.
Not to be rude but can i ask u something...do u trust friends 100% in ur life? If u do then u must be a great friend to everybody.
@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
Thats very nice of u..yes u are one of a kind. Have a good day and thanks for the comments...i highly appreciated it and it give me some view of other sides of life.
@dominiqueen (69)
• United States
29 Aug 09
You made the right decision, if he is a real friend he will understand that. You are happily married and only want to be friends do not bring an extra person whom you know is falling in love with you to bring problems into your and your family's life. You are not taking him for granted. don't feel bad
@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
Thank u very much for the comment..my family will always be my priority.
@krupesh (2608)
• India
29 Aug 09
Its not taking things for granted.He knows that you are already married & living happily with your hubby & son.You are right in your decisions.N need to think about him now as I feel your future is happy & secured with your hubby & son.If the person whom you are talking enters your life it woill be miserable if it happens to come to your hubby.Stay away from him for your happiness.He would have found another woman online by now.
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
Thank u very much i agree with u..yes i feel i should stay away now. But im still feeling a bit guilty...he had help me so much in life.
@taztheone (1721)
• India
29 Aug 09
There is a golden rule which I always used to say that a Boy & a girl can never be friends. Somewhere down the line there are great chances of an affair. But still we love people to be our friends, knowing or unknowing the after effects, on the relief that they are friends. After all human mind is always thirsty for love.
In my life there no point of things going granted as I always makes it clear & still I do have many best friends.
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