how to tackle with the questions kept before u by ur growing daughter?

India
August 29, 2009 2:01am CST
my daughter is 11 and she is experincing changes in her body at this age.its very difficult for me to give proper explanations to her. i feel a bit shy and hasitant though i try my best. pl.help me out.
4 responses
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
29 Aug 09
PBS has a Nova special that explains it all. Check your library or local PBS station. I'm sure you can find it.
@kcoregon (302)
• United States
29 Aug 09
I have an 11 year old and while her body is changing I haven't yet received any questions. Though I can remember being this age and finding out most things from my friends. My mom never had the talk with me though she did get me the book "Dear God, It's Me Margeret". I think that is a popular book in regards to puberty. I am not worried about having the talk and have done research on the subject and feel comfortable about talking with her. I know that you should not make her feel stupid or lie to her about anything. Honesty is best. The more honest you are with her the more honest she will be with you. Letting her hear about some of your experiences while going through the same thing can be comforting. Just remember that if you don't tell her, her friends will. You want to make sure that she gets her information from a trustworthy source, you.
@VANILLAREY (1470)
• India
29 Aug 09
If you feel shy to talk about it then you should buy her a book which will answer all her questions. Just make sure you read the book before you give it her. There might be somthing which she need not know about now. Or you could ask your female friend to help your daughter. Again make sure your friend knows the right answer.
@doolydul (47)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
First of all, your daughter is asking these questions to reassure herself that what she's going through is normal. Remember your own experiences throughout puberty and you can relate with her. Answer her questions truthfully and if you feel that you can't keep up, give her books and offer to read them with her in case there's something she can't understand. There's nothing to feel shy about this because everyone goes through this stage. You have to feel confident in your sexuality because if your daughter senses your hesitance about something or that there's something you're holding out from her, she'll think that it's wrong and it may cause her to have doubts about herself. Good luck!