Are u strict as a mother or very liberal to your child?

India
August 29, 2009 5:56am CST
i am neither strict or liberal to my child but neutral. What about u? please share.
9 responses
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
31 Aug 09
I am strict when needed, but liberal at times also. I insist on rules being followed, but I allow them to express themselves and talk openly to me. I teach them responsibility and consequences to wrong choices, but I allow them to make those mistakes so that they can learn. They say that I am stricy, but in comparison to my parents and how they raised me, I am not too strict at all.
• India
31 Aug 09
Thank you for your cooperation to guide me in this matter. I was confussed how to tackle my child at the age of 11. Now I can have some idea to behave like a friend. Thanks again.
@jstaubin (423)
• United States
31 Aug 09
i am some where in between I try to make sure that our children have a set rules that they know that they should follow but I try to make sure that the rules are not to strict so that they can still enjoy being kids.
29 Aug 09
My daughter is only a baby but even now i am finding myself to be a pretty neutral parent, there are some things that you do need to be strict on but then there are other things of which you can be a little more leniant. I find this is going to be the best parenting style for me and be the most effective with my daughter.
• India
29 Aug 09
Hi I have a daughter. I have benn strict with her till certain age. When she came to her teens I started behaving like a friend.A father willever understand children's problems Though I have given my child full freedom. I have always advised how not to misuse the freedom given. Now she is mature girl with a developed personality She can carry herself well.So I think this attitude will help for a better future for the children Have a nice day
@levyx22 (187)
• United States
29 Aug 09
My mother is very strict on me. She barley lets me do anythign and coming into my later teen years, it's getting annoying. My suggestion is that if you trust your kid, and only if you trust him/her, let her go. Pick your battles, choose your arguments wisely.
@panipuri (98)
• India
29 Aug 09
Dear minal, It's not question of liberal or strict. Understanding the unique role of the mother-child relationship. as we emphasize the role of the mother, this is not to say that the father is not important or is less important. what the mother can give her child and the extent to which she can give, very much depends on that which she can recive from the her relationship with her spouse. if she recive support, joy and peace from the relationship that is what she will pass on. If she only finds false expectation, empty promises, and frustrations-then that is what she will pass on. Thus as we emphasize the mothers role this in to no way isolates or seprates the mother from the father, not does it place a greter emphasis on the mother's role as opposed to the father's one. Insted,it points to the mother's unique role in the family.
@smart44 (510)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
I am not strict or liberal too, I am just at the center, kids will not be open to us if we are very strict, they will not tell what are happening to them, good or bad, they will not share to you their experiences and they will be aware to you if you are very strict. We need to be friendly to our children, just be on the middle and they will grow and be friend to you smoothly with our much problems to tackle up in mother child relationships.
• India
29 Aug 09
Dear friend , sometime i am strict whenever needed otherwise i am very liberal. But my children are obedient so rarely i have to be strict. happy my lotting
@panipuri (98)
• India
29 Aug 09
Dear minal, It's not question of liberal or strict. Understanding the unique role of the mother-child relationship. as we emphasize the role of the mother, this is not to say that the father is not important or is less important. what the mother can give her child and the extent to which she can give, very much depends on that which she can recive from the her relationship with her spouse. if she recive support, joy and peace from the relationship that is what she will pass on. If she only finds false expectation, empty promises, and frustrations-then that is what she will pass on. Thus as we emphasize the mothers role this in to no way isolates or seprates the mother from the father, not does it place a greter emphasis on the mother's role as opposed to the father's one. Insted,it points to the mother's unique role in the family.