Tubal Ligation: my ultimate regret! What's yours?!

I never did anything like that. I always wanted many kids and grandkids. But that didnt happen either. But thats the way life goes. The thing i did that i regret is having tatoos. I wishe dfrom the day after i done it that i didnt do it. I went many years not wearong sleeveless tops. Finally last summer i said well everyone makes mistakes.

Sissy darling, if your financial situation changes, you can get your tubal reversed. Really. So your biggest regret may not be your biggest regret, in the end. I'm happy to hear that things might be looking up for you. I'll keep my fingers crossed. And now, coffeeeeeeeeee, I need coffee.

Hey!! Well, actually, i have... though it´s a little bit different... I fell in love with one of my teacher´s when i was 14..and i really think he fell for me too. The thing is that he had principles, which made me love him even more, and he never told me anything while we were teacher-student,so we kept being friends, and we have a friend on common who told me that when i were 18 he was gonna come for me, u know, to give us a chance, he is 14 years older than me, but i really didn´t care then, so we kept with our lifes and time did it´s thing,so when i turned 18 he came to find me, the problem was that i was already on a relationship and i got pregnant 3 months ago by then, so i was in a dilemma, to kiss him and love him and then tell him i was pregnant or just trying to keep the relationship we have the way it was...so i didn´t kiss him, because i felt it wasn´t just right, and he just never came back to me again,he had his child and he got married and well, that´s what i regret of... Now i´m 27 years old and i realize that maybe if i had kissed him by then and if i had told him i was pregnant the history might´ve changed or at least i would´ve known him as a couple and not just as a friend. Thanks for listening.

Hey there Sissygrl I am sure your tubal ligation can be reversed, can't it? I go through life trying not to regret anything but I think it is hard. I think the thing I mostly regret is marrying my ex husband but then I wouldn't have the three beautiful children I have now so I can't really regret marrying him. I guess if I hadn't married him then I would have had beautiful children with someone else!! Please don't dwell on the decission you and your husband made as it was the right decission at the time and you will beat yourself up and get depressed if you. Take care and do talk to people about it if you need to!

We've all got regrets but I try not to. I try to deal with what comes in life and never regret anything I do. Everything I think happens for a reason anyway and things have a way of working themselves out.

Although in our country most families are allowed to have one baby we don't have a tubal ligation after we give a birth to a baby. Well i've just heard that even if you had the tubal ligation you still could have another operation to get rid of it, right ? That means you can still be pregnant , right ? I'm not sure. In your situation yes it's a pity . If i were you i would regret too because i like babies very much and i want more if everyting is allowed.

I wouldve never caused my parents so much trouble and worry. Wouldve studied more in school and behaved. Wouldve waited to get married..lol. The list can go on and on!! lol

I had a tubal after my second was born 2 1/2 years ago and so far I do not regret having it done. I don't regret anything that I have thought through, but I do regret a few things that I did not think through.

I had one after my second one as my husband said he couldn't stand to see me in that much pain again. LIke the idiot I was back then, I did what my husband told me to do... he knew best. Finding out later that he just didn't want to be inconvenienced with pregnancy and child rearing issues that took the attention away from him. There are to many birth controls these days...no sense doing something permanent until you have to or are sure you are definately done with kids. I wish I hadn't done it, but after finding out why he wanted it done... I'd rather have done it than had babies he didn't want and the babies are the ones to suffer

There's a lot I regret but looking back, I probably wouldn't change. Those things made me what I am today, the person my children love. I got a tubal ligation with my second baby. I have two sons, both in college now. I could not have dealt with any more babies! My sons are less than a year apart and I received next to no help from their dad because it was my job and his was to go out and work. The first few years were frazzled and a third child would have totally driven my insane. Be glad you stopped your family when you did. Now you can devote more time and attention to the children you have, especially the youngest. I know what that biological clock feels like, believe me! But I think you did a good thing for yourself and your family.

hi sissy girl second try first one disppeared yes I had a hysterectomy after Ihad my second child.the doctors claimed my uterus was sagging'so badly that it would have beenalmost impossible to carry'a thirdchild to term. so I had it done.but we lost one child when 'she was eight. then I felt so bad. I dreamed about being pregnant and' would wake crying. I dont know if the doctors were right or not'but I wou ld have loved to have had another child. now it was too late.

I had the same when I was 26, but we already had two children. I do not regret it for one moment, it gave me a future. I was able to go back to school when the boys were in grade school, I completed graduate degrees and could add income myself. By the way, you can always adopt, what a better way to give love than to a child or baby that is in desperate need of love?

I had a tubal after my last child was born. I have to say I regreted having it done, after it was done. But at the time I did not want any more children. With the new baby that meant having 3 kids all in diaper's. I have to say some day's I wish it was not done. But then I look at my 3 children and realize, they are enough of a handful why would I want one more. I know I would love to have one more, one that belong's to R.D. but I can not. We both understand that and we have decided not to go with the reversal, because every operation can be deadly. So instead we are going tomorrow into court and having his last name put on my kid's BC's. This way he has 3 children.

I really know how you feel. My mother undergone the same scenario. They had their last baby boy, my brother, We are 2 in the family and all of us are guys, and my mom did undergo the procedure. For a while everything went well. One day my dad ask my mom if they can have another baby. A last baby and try their luck to have a baby girl. Then everything was too late, because it's irreversible. Regret was already there and time is an element we are not in control of. Anyone out there who plans on having a tubal ligation, think twice before you enter to that stage. Unless, of course you have more children than expected then you can proceed with the procedure. And remember this is not a one man show, always include the both of you in every decisions you made in time.

I've had my tubal done too..and now that my younger son is 3, I want to have another baby. I know we can't afford another baby right now even if I could. But we've also decided if things look up financially, we'll adopt a little girl. There are many things I could regret..but I don't. I believe everything that has happened in my life was meant to be...I wouldn't have been able to change it even if I wanted to. That's the way I feel...so no real regrets.

hi sissygrl oh indeed Ihad a hysterectomy after my second child because the surgeon said my uterus was sagging too bAdly and I might'not be ablo to carrya third child to childbirth with losing the'baby and maybe my own life. well we lost our second chils when she was eight. and I then kept feeling like if only Ihadnt hAd that hysterectomy I might have been able to have a third child. but mydoctors kept telling me that it was too dangerous.but I used to dream about being pregnant and wake crying.