would you accept match making by others or you prefer you do it yourself?
By clorissa123
@clorissa123 (4926)
United States
August 29, 2009 2:52pm CST
I believe that someone was in good intention in attempt to bring you and another single together; especially by your parents, your relatives, or your closed friends. Although they may not know what exactly you are looking for, they were trying to do it in a good will. My question is, would you accept others good intention to match you with another person you might not know? Or you rather pick the ones you want to know?
For me, it is always surprise in life, why not take a shot, and get to know them. You never know what is going on in the future.
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7 responses
@dsharat (456)
• India
29 Aug 09
In my case I consider the both opinions,I mean first I will select the person I like and then I ask my parents to judge her.I am confidant that they will not regret my choice,that is how it will be,the best.If you leave this to others,even to your parents then there is a little bit of chance to get in to trouble in your future.If you your self select your life partner then you will select hm/her in such a way that you think a lot of her and its like falling in love with the person.Your parents or relatives can never do that for you...You may say that our parents do every thing with out asking us and why only this? I say,they don't know what is there in my heart and its not just my life but its going to depend on the whole family,including the person who is coming new into our life...
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
30 Aug 09
so, what you are saying here is that it would be better you choose your lifetime partner for your own instead of rely it on the hands of your parents?
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@dsharat (456)
• India
31 Aug 09
Almost Yes.First according to your likes and dislikes you select the one and then take the opinion of your parents.After all you all are going to be one family.If your parents point some minor negative points in him/her,then its up to you,to decide that is to weather to convince your parents or try to get more suitable one for you and your family...One should always remember that our parents will think of our future and we are not that broad minded and experienced as our parents.Finally I mean to say is our decision should weight 75% and 25% of our parents...
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
1 Sep 09
well, whatever it is, it is your lifetime decision, and not your parents. So, you should have at least 100% say to your future partners, not your parents. Base on my personal opinion. Well, if someone trying to match you with someone else in good intention, no harm to meet him or her. Who knows, life is full of surprise.
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
30 Aug 09
i rather meet people on my own. it usually doesnt work when someone tries to set someone else up. and sometimes it creates problems and headaches between all the people involves.
i have never set anyone up and no one has ever set me up.
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
30 Aug 09
I prefer to get one on my own, instead of relying on someone else. Thanks for your agreement.
@gelibean (158)
• United States
1 Sep 09
I prefer to pick my own dates instead of letting my friends pick for me. The last guy I dated was a fix up by my bestfriend. We dated for about 3 years but it didn't end well and during the course of our relationship my bestfriend stopped talking to me. I'll never understand why though.
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
1 Sep 09
that is another way to go. Nonetheless, it will be your final decision to make, not others, trying to take control of your life. It will be for your own good.
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
30 Aug 09
Most of my friends also say the same. They say you never know who you gonna meet, maybe she is not the one in your dream, maybe she is the one really you are dreaming of to meet.
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
29 Aug 09
Clorissa my dear, it could always help if you know some nice people who can make an introduction for you to a suitably nice young man to take as a husband, but probably best all round my dear if they knew what you were looking for so as not to waste your time with the wrong sort of young man. You just let them know the three main qualities we've chatted about before which will ensure the best husband for you - remember now, moneyed,working abroad, and boring. These are the keys to a happy marriage with a nice young man to keep you company whilst he's away. Good luck my dear.
