How do you encourage your kids to study more...without spending?
By Purviolilav
@Purviolilav (112)
Philippines
August 29, 2009 7:12pm CST
When I was a kid, I had the drive to be the best in school because i had a sister who graduated a second honor in primary, valedictorian in high school, graduated from a reputable university here in our country and had gone on graduate studies of specialization in the veterinary medicine. My parents were mere employees as they can only buy the essentials like food, clothing, food supplements, bicycle, our education needs and the basic recreation stuffs like component, tv, and the like. As I am now a mother, I encourage my kids by giving them praises when they get good grades or treat them to a movie, or eat out. Since I still cannot afford buying them gadgets and latest toys in the market, I don't use this as incentives...their grades are getting low and almost to the verge of failing. I overheard my eldest daughter wanted to have a cellphone of her own because she envied here classmates. How can I encourage them to study more without offering to buy them anything that i might not be able to give at this time? I am trying to find ways to increase my earnings do I joined mylot and hopefully I can find a new business venture soon. Please do respond and post your comments, advise, encouragement, anything...thanks in advance!
3 responses
@Purviolilav (112)
• Philippines
31 Aug 09
Thanks, Emon66! Now being a very busy mom, I might have not been saying praises to my kids lately and so she is very sensitive to that. I had been a kid once and when my mom said that I was great or fantastic, such simple words triggered my adrenaline to study more and made learning to me very enjoyable. I greatly appreciate your response and all the best!
@allsheikhly (83)
• China
30 Aug 09
i am not very clear about the manner in your countries,but i don't think material award is good for children.if she is familiar with this,the only incentive of study might be dolls or cellphone.you should try to explain her this ,education is the key to success,she study just for herself but not for anyone else.i think your daughter is a good kid,she might understand what you mean.
@Purviolilav (112)
• Philippines
31 Aug 09
Yap, she is a good kid as she just stays at home after school and hang out with her brothers helping them with their assignment or researching projects in the internet. When I talked with her yesterday, she said that she can do without these gadgets though as she understands that our priority is her studies. Thanks for your response! Have a nice day ahead and a great week!
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
30 Aug 09
Welcome to the community of MYLOT. You started it wrong at the beginning and now your daughter is envying. Encouraging your child to study should not be expensive and should cost any parents a dime. Watch shows that display when a child doesn't succeed at his/her education with your daughter. You were motivated by your sister. I grow up with a father who has a trade and a mother who was unemployed but does her crocheting to make a living. My eldest sister went to an High School I went to Secondary and I was motivated by my mother to study for what I wanted. It was that sister that prevented me from becoming that teacher today.
Encourage your children to take their books by letting them know EDUCATION is the key. Cellular phone cannot give her a College Degree. To be envy is wrong. She should know that you are not in the position to purchase what she want and that this is the way to achieve what she want by having a good education. Don't bribe her with the cell phone because it is wrong. Children should listen to their parents. I grew up knowing that nothing I asked my parents for I will receive it and so I never asked. I do odd jobs and sometimes teachers assisted me and even when I receive the money when I go home my mother will not have it to cook and I will give her the money I have. My dear as I said earlier watch shows with her and let her see why it is necessary to be educated.
Without education we will continue to live in poverty. All the best.
@Purviolilav (112)
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
Thank you for your response. I greatly appreciate your suggestions. I had been telling my kids to study well for their own future lies in their achievements as students so on and not what they had materially as this can be taken away from them. Yes, I know that to envy is wrong but that was how we were motivated before as kids...to be the best that we can be and it worked for me somehow...and now it dawned unto me that I had passed down such envy unsuspectedly or unknowingly to her. Well, thanks anyway. Sure hope that I can make her watch such shows as she is only interested in animes.
