What do you think the relation is exactly there where it was?????
By suman2008
@suman2008 (683)
India
August 30, 2009 12:36am CST
My friend has a girl friend over 6 years, it is undoubtedly that she loves him a lot.She got a job last year,but after getting the job she is becoming changed.Now she gives less time to my friend.She is saying that she wants to be successful in her career ,so she has less time to spend on him.But every day she calls him up,and says not to get disheartened to my friend.
My friend has got a job recently.Then his girlfriend said that he would become change also.
Is it true?
What do you think the relation is exactly there where it was?
They will ever be happy again?Have you faced such situation?
Tell me these.
Thank you.Have a nice day.
4 responses
@diyadhrita (18)
• India
18 Jan 10
I think they will be happy.
Every relationship needs space to bloom and mature.It is a fact that the kind of quality time young couples spend in their college days as and when they go out in the real world.
It is just the situation that changes and not the love....but when we fail to understand what the situation demands we fail to change and in a way fail in love.
Think this way...nobody would like to have a looser as a life partner(applicable to both sexes). So why not rejoice with them in their success and not crib about the fact !!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
30 Aug 09
I agree with the response above especially the part about getting home cranky and less energetic! haha. Well I guess me and my BF at present are facing such point in our lives. I was used to having him around almost all the time and almost at my beck and call but suddenly he transferred to a job where they assign him to faraway towns so that I only get to see him once a week and on a Sunday. It so happen that Sunday's the only time I can get to do my laundry, or watch my favorite love movies (which he doesn't like so sometimes I compromise and try to endure watching Jacke Chan movies. No offense, Jackie is good but well Im not a big avid fan!)
It takes a lot of adjustment. Believe me.
@suman2008 (683)
• India
30 Aug 09
Thank you .I think you have hit the bull's eye.Adjustment is the the big thing what we have to do every time,every where.Thanks once again for your nice suggestion.Hope you will get your boyfriend near to you in a quick time.Hope for the best.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
30 Aug 09
Umm... most people encounter this... It's called prioritizing. You need to work to have money, you have to have energy to work. This means his girlfriend probably needs to sleep more (Skimming by on naps here and there or only 3 or 4 hours a night won't cut it anymore) and of course, all of the hours that she's scheduled. You'll find the many, happily married AND successful couples don't get to spend as much time together as they did early in their relationships. Overworking can leave people tired and exhausted and cranky, even the most energetic people sometimes suffer from that. It's just the way life is. Should try dating or marrying a rough neck or some contract workers... Someone I dated a few years ago was only home 2-3 days out of about every 30.
@suman2008 (683)
• India
30 Aug 09
Thank you.I think you are absolutely right ,the situation sometime demands more.Yes,that means they would become happy after this phase.
Have a nice day.And thanks once again for your good suggestion.
@joye68 (151)
• United States
30 Aug 09
Change is change. Sometimes for the better, sometimes not. Since both are now working your "friend" will probably have a much better understanding of what his girlfriend is facing with this sort of responsibility.
Priorities change. This helps us survive. We work. We pay bills. We focus our energies differently as a result. It doesn't mean it's a bad thing.
All relationships have a slump here or there, somewhere or another, at some point in time. By the same token, relationships also have great points. The low points help us learn how to deal with our partners feelings and how to accommodate them. The ideally more numerous high points are positive proof that we evolve for the better.
It sounds like the girlfriend is doing her best to accommodate your "friends" feelings and to continue to incorporate special moments. Now that your friend is working, I am hoping that he is more understanding of her work and the amount of effort she seems to be putting in to help him understand and to feel loved, especially during those times when he is missing her.
They are probably evolving as a couple, for the better, learning give and take and how to continue to make their times together even more special.
I wish them the best of luck.