I need serious advice on my 7 yr old sons temper!!!

hello there taterkitty..i am so very curious how u got your name..plz share:) Thank yo so much for your post,its nice to know so many total strangers care and are theer for me in this time of need and worry..i know hes overwhelmed and yet it worries me that tthe therepy and counceling isnt working but your right,it coudl take a very long time for it to be effective,.hes has gone threw so much..I am happy to hear your little one is doing better..thanks again..April

My name comes from my cat. lol His name is Taters.

what ? man they should have done more to that boy. there is a mental issue going on. but i feel your son for real. his dad should be there for him. sorry. but yeah get him into some kind of karte. ok spelled that wrong. well best of luck to you and your son.

i know..and it ticked me off so badly..soo tired of the system on teh worng side..espeically when it comes to small children..and his dad..hes there when he can.he calls..emails..IM's..web cams,he tried but he lives so far away..but Sky is ok with it for now..i just wish someone woudl teach that boy a lesson..he neeeds help and in a home or facility where they can help so he doesnt turn out to be a molester..rapist,,etc...thank ya hun for your kind words..take care!

I had both of you together on this comment and i had to paste this so i could answer both of you..so here we go.. The boy just got a slap on the wrist,i agree with the dating thing,though i havent dated but 3 times in 4 years,and i have met them from all different angles,but i already have decided not to date for a very long time again..and be more with my son?? where in what i wrote did you get i spend no time with my son? i am with him all day long playing,reading, play grounds,everything i do with my life involves my son,i maybe get 3 times a year without him,,we talk about everything,and he tells me everything,good and bad,i was greatly offended that you both attacked me on not being with him and needing to spend more time with him,and i have moved and things are still the same..thank you very much for your post, April You're in a tough situation there, friend. First, I'd like that older boy to be locked up and do counseling and be made to never be close to any kid. Second, I think it's high time you stop dating for now because it seems you're attracting the wrong type of people, thus having a huge impact on your son's personality. Third, be with your son more. I think what's bothering him is the fact that he cannot cope with the situations you yourself are in and he cannot adjust and his comfort zone or safety blanket is by losing his temper. I could well understand this because I have a student (who's now in college) who used to have a similar temper loss with your son. He told me that it was because he wasn't given time to adjust and though he knew he's doing something bad, he just can't help it. I think one good thing you could do is by introducing him to a new environment. Transfer homes if you must. That kid has a lot of baggage in his lifetime and having to be in the same environment won't make the bad things go away as fast. My student told me, he only was okay when he was in high school. Though there are still times he couldn't control his temper, he told me that the best thing his mom did was to change the environment he was in and by constantly talking to him and assuring him that he is being listened to. Good luck! roberten,You have upset me on so many levels,you dont know me and i dont know where you also got that im not there for my son or spend time with him..or the fact you think i dont listen to him,he and I have a very strong relationship,we talk everyday abotu everyting,good,bad and just things.amd like i told laydee there is never a time of day im not here with my son,physically or mentally or emotionally,there is NOOOO DISCONNECTION..again where did you get that in what I wrote??? Whats going on is for a year bad things happened,wetalked abotu what Bobby did and why I got sick,he knows why he got sick,and hes glad hes gone,he knows he had nothing to do with it,and why is it MEEE THAT MAKE A BAD DECISION IN WHO I DATED? why isnt it the fact some people are just BADDDD..the fact that my ex was trying to kill me for my money,was all him notttt mee..he dated a friend of mine and he wasnt like that with her..so why do u think it was myy fault hes acted as he did? And why do you think because the other i dated had a bad temper? Do you have any idea how many other people have bad tempers and dont control it??? So where do you get off saying it was MY FAULT AND I NEED TO FIND MYSELF? i have dated 3 times in 4 years..and i get 2 bad apples and its all me? And break what cycle of being a victim??? I was almost killed,hell i did die and they brought me back,victim ? maybe..but only to an almost homocide..the only time i wasnt here for Sky was when i was in the hospital and when he was arressted i got better fast..and we talked abotu everything that happened and he was never afraid to ask any questions..what i do agree with is what happened with both men and my sickness has caused a build up,he never cried or talked to anyone about it when it all happened..just me when i was better,im sorry if i sound rude,mean or just pi$4ed off..but i am..im sure you didnt mean any offense but i read this over and over again and it just angered me beyond belief... roberten (1379) ranked 1,700 out of 33,893 in people 1 day ago cloud_kicker_32, I agree with laydee on this one. You should put yourself and your son first for a change. Get the heck out of that place, make a new start and be there for your son. Talk to him and listen, really listen and hear what he has to say. You need to connect with him because all the bad things in your past have caused a disconnection. You need to get in touch with yourself to find out why you are making bad choices in the company you keep. You will not be able to help your son if you can't help yourself; a drowning person cannot save someone else. Relocate, renew, refocus, reconnect, reassure, rebuild; this is not just an issue with your son, it is a family issue. You should try to break the cycle of being a victim. Children often react according to lessons learned at home, they watch our every move and them emulate what they see. When things do not go so right for children, they have difficulty expressing their feelings because they do not have the prior experience nor proper volcabulary to be able to express their feelings fully; this can cause acting out, anger and/or rage. The biggest thing your son needs is you. One of the biggest fears a child has is lossing a parent; fear causes all kinds of negative behavior. You are the key to helping your son restore his mental/emotional health. He may never completely recover from the horrific drama he has already lived through, but he can certainly be given the opportunity for a much better life. I applaud you for all you have done, you are headed in the right direction; but I employ your to not neglect your own mental and emotional issues. Make yourself whole so that you can also help your son. Lay off men for a while until you figure out just who you are and what it is in life you want before you try dating again. Seperate your personal life from your family life for a while until you re-establish cohesion within your family. Be the best mom you can be, love yourself, love your son; and remember, this too shall pass. Many blessing to you both.

I don't see where your aggravation comes from since first of all we both don't know your real story nor know you, we only see what you post. You neither posted you spent most of your time with him in the first place. As for the bad choice of men, well, once would be called a 'lesson learned' but twice would mean bad company, right? Anyhow, when you opened up yourself to mylot by posting this discussion, you should be well aware that we're here to post our ideas and I don't think neither one of us intended to irritate or agitate you. You asked for our opinion by posting this topic. But perhaps your sons temper comes from you thinking negatively of what others say.

cloud_kicker_32, I agree with laydee on this one. You should put yourself and your son first for a change. Get the heck out of that place, make a new start and be there for your son. Talk to him and listen, really listen and hear what he has to say. You need to connect with him because all the bad things in your past have caused a disconnection. You need to get in touch with yourself to find out why you are making bad choices in the company you keep. You will not be able to help your son if you can't help yourself; a drowning person cannot save someone else. Relocate, renew, refocus, reconnect, reassure, rebuild; this is not just an issue with your son, it is a family issue. You should try to break the cycle of being a victim. Children often react according to lessons learned at home, they watch our every move and them emulate what they see. When things do not go so right for children, they have difficulty expressing their feelings because they do not have the prior experience nor proper volcabulary to be able to express their feelings fully; this can cause acting out, anger and/or rage. The biggest thing your son needs is you. One of the biggest fears a child has is lossing a parent; fear causes all kinds of negative behavior. You are the key to helping your son restore his mental/emotional health. He may never completely recover from the horrific drama he has already lived through, but he can certainly be given the opportunity for a much better life. I applaud you for all you have done, you are headed in the right direction; but I employ your to not neglect your own mental and emotional issues. Make yourself whole so that you can also help your son. Lay off men for a while until you figure out just who you are and what it is in life you want before you try dating again. Seperate your personal life from your family life for a while until you re-establish cohesion within your family. Be the best mom you can be, love yourself, love your son; and remember, this too shall pass. Many blessing to you both.

thank you so much patrol:) are you talking about the lacy under this post? and Since she posted under you i hope she gets this...I dont have any idea what you mean by this comment hun about the police and bribing i think it said? can you explain..im sorry you lost me lol..thank ya both for posting:)

At least I found one police man that fight's for the children's right's. Rather then taking money for a payoff to keep it quiet.