How far are you willing to cover up your life style status from your family?

This is an interesting discussion. I do not have the same experience as you but I can relate to covering up a lifestyle. For me this was a very negative thing because I lived several years hiding an eating disorder from my family. I think the truth is best in principle but sometimes it can be hard especially if it is the case of a dearly held and believed tradition. I am a Christian and have been through a period lately where I have really struggled with my faith and wondered,what would happen if I chose a different path here to my family? I don't think I am going to become an atheist in the next week, but it was enough of a questioning to make me think about the consequences, and I realized it would be really hard - it WOULD be tempting to hide that I was following a different path, because to my family, if you are not following that, you are lost - I could achieve the greatest things but they would still feel it didn't matter because I had rejected the most important. It would put a division between me and my family because I would know my choice was not accepted. I think what is most likely is that I will end up practicing the same faith but in a different way to my families traditions, a way that is authentic to me. But my point being, I believe being as open as you can is bet but I can really understand the struggle people have to do so.

Yes you are very right. As such one day it will be known to everybody so better let everybody know it in the first place. How far you can hide it from others. These are basically insecure persons.

Hi there! I also don't agree on the tradition of fix marriages. We're talking about someone's future and we do not exactly know what things can make someone really happy. We cannot tell his/her heart to just love someone because of a tradition. In my family, we don't follow such traditions. Everyone in the family is free to decide for ourselves. Sometimes my parents do orders me what to do and of course as a good child I try to follow. But if it's something about my future, then no. I decide for myself, alone. Ciao!

Hello Sweetart. I could never have married someone I did not love, so obviously, I would not go that far! At my age, there is really nothing to cover up about my lifestyle. I am comfortable with it all, but then we don't have such restrictions. I do think it's okay to be respectful and not do or reveal everything about ourselves if we think it might offend family, but there has to be limitations as to who we live for. Karen

just like you, i would definitely tell the truth to my family than living the life of a BIG lie. i know it would hurt them at first, but after some time they will learn to accept it. this is my life and i should be the one deciding for it because i am the one living it. i decide for my happiness, who the person i am going to be with. where i am going and what i am going to do. i know they are the ones that have taken care of me since birth, i will never forget it, i will always be here for them. but my life is my life and i will decide for it.