Why is it so difficult to talk to the person you like?

Hello Clorissa my dear, it sounds like you're having a bit of a problem with a shy young man who just can't bring himself to talk to you. I would really guess my dear that he could be just a little bit intimidated by you because you're such a pretty young thing, especially now you've stopped all that worrying about your weight. If he's so shy he's obviously not the right young man for you my dear, you really need someone of a stronger ilk I feel.

This is because you're already aiming to impress this person on your first encounter. You want to leave a good impression and we don't normally do this when meeting strangers or just regular buddies. We refuse to be our normal selves when in front of the person we like because we want them to see us as someone they describe as their ideal partner or someone that would caught their curiosity.

I think its completly because we are being over conscious about ourself and we keep on thinking about our first impression with girl and things like if she is liking her or not.I have had my situations with my girlfriend when I got too shy,nervous and couldnt speak anything. Complete human nature :) . Other than these I think we can talk about anything that comes in our mouth to the other female friends.

Hi! My husband and i had this talk about our past before meeting each other and he said he find it difficult to talk to girls he likes. This happens maybe because of the fact that you could get rejected when you try to talk to her. Its also similar to women. Not wanting to talk to him coz he might not like me or i might screw up. That's why it takes a lot of guts before every glory. If you like a specific person, then at least try. You wont regret it.

In this situation it all depends . Some guys are shy and some guys are brave enough . When we are young most of us are shy when we meet someone we like or love. We are easily getting nervous with a strong heart beating. We are thinking too much sometimes . Actually if we act at once it might not be so difficult.

That is very true. when i was younger i did kinda find it difficult to talk to the gild i am attracted to. I gues it takes practice and guts to go up to the person. Specially when the person is very attractive. I believe the fear of being rejected is the reason why we all have difficulties talking to other people. Which is why people would rather go to internet to meet people and start a conversation.

I think in sub conscious mind there is some fear going on. It may be fear of rejection. People think, the other person may not reciprocate the feeling and reject. This makes it more difficult.

hello clorissa123, Maybe because you are afraid to get hurt that she might ignore you or leave you. Or maybe she will laugh at you. These are some things that you are afraid to happen to you. Where in fact, she will not do if you only try just like the others. Think there is no harm in trying. Just do it at least you tried. All you need is guts.

i do believe the fear of rejection is the most visible obstacle or what makes it difficult to talk to a person you like or love, it is very common for guys who want to ask a lady out or for friendship but they may be afraid that they do not meet up to the requirements and expectations of such women

You say well..Well you love a person,you are very contradictory.Want to see her.Afraid to see her.Always like his/her other friends in front with slapstick,playing.Looked at hie/her a brilliant smile,a smile will unknowingly..saw him/her,the heart rate will accelerate,but the expression is very stable.He/she pay no attention to themselves,will always be looking at him/her,but if he/she turned to see you,it will immediately diverting people's attention..You say,is that trus?

This has not been the case with me,i love talking to the people i like,this makes us feel nothing at all,when talking to strangers I get this difficult thing come in my way.But when the love come's in between that too being a one sided affair,could make me feel the difference and I usually back off from there.But if the addiction is so high then I would surely make up my mind and go for it no matter what he/she would think.With such lot of emotions and regards one feel so stuck up talking to people like a girl or a boy whom we want to be in great attachment to.

I am so glad other people feel this way too! If its any comfort, shy can be kind of attractive! I am completely disarmed if someone comes up to me and says 'I would really like to talk to you but I'm really nervous!' That sort of allows you to say 'I know how you feel, I'm scared of talking to people too!' and might actually start a chat! I do know what you mean though - you open your mouth and suddenly either nothing comes out or you feel like you are babbling inanely in some language which you didn't know you had learned....lol...or, in my case, I would suddenly become the clumsiest person ever and drop something, trip, spill something, you name it.... Thankfully, I managed to bumble my way into getting married eventually. It kind of helped that we met in an online group, so a lot of our initial getting to know each other was in writing. In fact, when I finally sent the poor man a photo it came in stages - he got a headshot first, and it was weeks before I would send a full length photo!! Still - married five years next month! Be yourself, theres someone out there who thinks you're fascinating.

I can't agree more with you. Its all about psychology. When you love or like someone you have a lot to loose by making them unhappy. Thats where the fear comes in. Though you may not say something that will hurt your loved ones, but its still there in the back of your mind that "what if" he/she takes it otherwise or feel bad about it and never talk to me again. Other thing is that you too really care about what they feel about you. "What if" they feel that you are not what you are and take you otherwise.

well yea it really depends on the nature f the person that u r shy or t... well yea i knw if you really like some person you think a hundred times bfore sayin to her that i doono y.. happened to me also

Hey! I think just breathe and always remember to be yourself . Even if you are super nervous and shy atleast try to say hello . A smile and making eye contact works and from there who knows it may get comfy to talk to the person. I guess sometimes we all think way too much before we go and do something before just doing it and come up with the worst what ifs.

This reminds me and takes me back to my teenage years. I always liked girls and most of the time, I would not talk to her. I would always wait for the right moment and casually talk. Whenever it is online or face-to-face, I get nervous. But I used to tell myself, Just Do It. Go with Nike, Just Do It. I always know that if I didn't talk to her, I would regret it for the whole day, week, month, and next year. It would give me so much pain because you really wanted her to notice you but you know that the only person stopping yourself from talking to the girl is yourself. So I just tell myself, don't make a fool of yourself, and man up. That has helped me throughout my social life and it is very useful. Girls like it when guys talk to them, so don't be scared, don't be shy, Just Do It! - Nike. (=

My personal experience is that when I find it difficult it is because I am worried that they may have a partner or not be interested in me. If you are making friends and you tell them you like them in a different way it may put them off being friends with you.