My relationship is officially over

Don't worry, it's way easier to let something go if you let how you feel out quickly. I'm sure you'll feel better soon, and if not so soon, eventually.

Sometimes closure on part of the relationship is a good thing even though it hurts when it happens.....I hope you find someone you deserve! And staying friends is a good way to end something....just not too good of friends or you might overlook someone else!

We are not avoid that happen if the relationship is mess up of doubt, no respect, faith, truthfulness and most especially love. I don't know what is the status of your relationship your boyfriend. But I want to tell you that I'm go with you. You need respect,cherish and love. You want a good relationship with him but he fails. I think you did the right thing my friend. I wish you found someone that really loves you, respect you and kept you as precious as the diamond...have a nice day!

i never seen you previous discussion, just this one. recently, one of my closed friends also meet the same situation,after the last fight,she do not keep in touch with him, unfortunately, nearly two month passed, the guy called and told her that he will be wedding with another girl next month,so sadly,no other choice, she should be accept it and far away him anymore.though she feel very unhappy at last two days, but now, we think be single isn't not too bad.so i hope you will be stick and finding another new beginning quickly,good luck and have a nice day!

Hard luck dear girl, but if you heart told you that he's not for you then there's no point in staying in a bad relationship. It will only bring you more heartache and bitterness. Yeah, it's better to be friends, but is that possible? Only time will tell. You take care now and have a great life.

Ending a relationship sure isn't easy. I reckon you should be congratulated for it. Many people just keep dating someone as to keep status, not to suffer that bad or whatever their reasons are but yet they don't take into account keeping it up will bring further headaches to their lives. I'm now dating the same woman for a year and a half and we rarely ever have a discussion. We've never had a fight and we feel we belong to each other, for there are so many things in common and we're pretty happy. That's not to say there haven't been other bad previous experiences, but my point is that I believe anybody will find that "special someone". But, for that, it's mandatory that you do not generalize on people and keep your mind open for new experiences, but not to let yourself become a fool of some sort. I wish you good luck. And if you feel sad, as if you wanted to cry or put things out of your mind, people will often tell you to hold it. Don't. It just makes things a lot worst. Let it go the best you can and when you least notice you will have grown up somehow.

It sounds like you knew what needed to happen. If it was meant to be, then things will change. I am glad that you are no longer being treated badly. Good luck to you.

This is the first I have seen of your problem and I must say you have done well. I would suggest that you remain strong in that friendship as I would guess he will need it. However you must know that just being friends will only work if both of you are mature enough to handle it. If he is not he may hang on to you more than he should. Please go into this with you eyes open. Some would suggest you should just move on but it is possible to be friends and move on at the same time. But please take you Que from him. If this is a big loss for him he may do all he can to hang on. By being friends it may encourage him to believe if he holds out long enough you will be back. Be his friend but make sure he knows that even if he does change it may be too late.

I hope everything is going okay now. I hope you find a guy who treats you like a queen. Take Care.

Sometimes it is better that a relationship ends if there is no compromise between two people. Even marriage can go that way as with my previous wife. Now, we are still the best of friends and both agree that we make better friends than we ever did as man and wife. - Derek

Good for you, Spicy! My daughter is going thru the same sort of thing. I came home the other night to her sleeping on my couch. She finally left her boyfriend of 3 yrs. I think they really do love each other but he is very sarcastic to the point of being mean to her and she is very sensitive. They both feel sad about it and are trying to be friends and maybe down the road, things will be different. Who knows but for now, I think she made the right decision. She was hurting more than not. I actually like the kid but I could see where it would be hard to live with him. Hang in there. I don't remember your entire story off the top of my head but I'm sure it is for the best.

spicysweetie21, It is sad to hear that you are pulling the plug on this relationship and I feel that it is really hard on you. Having been in breakups before, believe me when I say I understand. I think it is important in life, that you learn to move on from where you are. Let this be a passing and history. Learn from it but don't let it get into you. Failing once, does not mean you will be doomed forever. Relationships aren't just like that. At the same time, whilst you are going about your life just remember not to rush into things especially establishing a casual friendship status with your ex. That is if you really want a clean break here. Let things settle down for the both of you. Anyway, I'd just like to wish the both of you will work things out and well here. Take care and have a nice day.

That's a great decision. You know the best for you and I support what you have decided. There is no point to keep a relationship if we don't feel comfortable with it.

Remember the good old saying about the fish, hm something about a sea right? :P Well anyway good luck with your future relationship endeavors. :)

It is bad to hear. But I think you have taken a bold relation. when many things are lost in a relation, there is no point in keeping it alive just like that.Its better to mend the ways./ Hope you find someone really better and worth you.

You hang in there, honey, and do what you have to do for YOU. As much as you would like to believe that this guy will change...will grow...because you can still see some good in him...odds are that he won't. I'm glad that you're moving on towards the possibility of happinesss. The only way that you will be able to achieve that is to be free.

hope you will feel better after the break up. i am sure you can get over with it. keep yourself busy and accept that things happen for a reason and purpose. God bless you and your heart.

Breaking up is hard to do! Always was - always is. Good job - keep it up. Now you must keep yourself busy to keep yourself from missing him. I think that will be the hardest part. But know that you made the right decision. That this is for your sake (and his as well, but more for you). Life is tough enough as it is - you don't need that kind of treatment, especially from someone who claims that they love you. Hang in there. Time will heal the wounds - so take it one day at a time. And always keep your head up! Take care!!

Well its good that you decided to end it. I haven't been reading on the other discussions that you started before, but if this is something that you feel you need to do, then all for it. Just stick to it and remember why you decided to break it off in the first place. If you both are meant to be together then you will eventually find your way back to one another. If it is not, don't worry it was probably meant for the best. I'm not too sure staying friends after a break up even when you feel that you still love him. Because those feelings are still lingering in the air. Cause there may be times that you may send mixed signals to him or vice versa, then all will be forgotten about why you broke up in the first place. I'm not saying that you should never be friends. Because there are some people that can stay friends after a break up, but sometimes its just best to to give each other a break and then when you come back as friends, your friendship will be even stronger.

It was a really difficult decision for you, I can imagine. No matter how hard it is, it has to be made and you did it. But you are kind, you still maintain friendship. You still allow the possibility of him returning into your life.Meanwhile,life has to be lived forward and I hope you will find something to fill the void.